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Crying/voice cracking


Sometimes when I try to hold a conversation or initiate a conversation with someone my voice will crack, my heart beats so fast, my head gets warm, I tense up, then I can feel the tears coming. I feel so stupid thinking about the fact that I canít hold a conversation without feeling like Iím going to cry. I was in the hospital and eventually I ended up having to share a room and I overheard this girl really struggling with something and I didnít know how to tell her myself so when she went to the bathroom I told her mom instead. I had worked up the convo in my head, decided nah forget it theyíll figure it out but honestly most people donít figure out the solution to what I was trying to help with and give up so I knew I had to tell her so I was like **** it ok letís do this. Walked over and said I overheard this and that and hereís how I can help you. Anyways as soon as I started talking I looked at her in the eyes and all the sudden my voice started cracking and I was about to burst out crying and Iím like wtf is wrong with me?! Anybody else have this problem??

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I still have it but very rarely. I used to have it much more before. The worst part about it is that when it happens I think it almost looks like the other person is about to cry also after a bit. I seem sad so they get sad too.
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Try breathing relaxation techniques.


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Yep


This used to happen to me a lot. I think it always happens in situations where I'm being confronted about something.

Hasn't happened to me in a while, but I still do get panic attacks for social situations and whatnot (i.e. increased heart-rate, sweating, shakiness).

My voice tends to crack whenever I'm asked to speak a lot. So, during presentations, I try to keep it to a minimum but that isn't always possible.

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Sometimes when I try to hold a conversation or initiate a conversation with someone my voice will crack, my heart beats so fast, my head gets warm, I tense up, then I can feel the tears coming. I feel so stupid thinking about the fact that I canít hold a conversation without feeling like Iím going to cry. I was in the hospital and eventually I ended up having to share a room and I overheard this girl really struggling with something and I didnít know how to tell her myself so when she went to the bathroom I told her mom instead. I had worked up the convo in my head, decided nah forget it theyíll figure it out but honestly most people donít figure out the solution to what I was trying to help with and give up so I knew I had to tell her so I was like **** it ok letís do this. Walked over and said I overheard this and that and hereís how I can help you. Anyways as soon as I started talking I looked at her in the eyes and all the sudden my voice started cracking and I was about to burst out crying and Iím like wtf is wrong with me?! Anybody else have this problem??

It could be that you're feeling intimidated when you talk to people. Does eye contact aggravate it?
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It could be that you're feeling intimidated when you talk to people. Does eye contact aggravate it?
Yes I think so.

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It's exhausting but this is one of the gold standards of social phobia. Luckily my issues with this have decreased with every year.

With eye contact, make sure to look at their forehead directly between the eyes; your conversation partner will think you're looking straight into their eyes, but your focus is on the forehead so their gaze will be less haunting for you.

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It's exhausting but this is one of the gold standards of social phobia. Luckily my issues with this have decreased with every year.

With eye contact, make sure to look at their forehead directly between the eyes; your conversation partner will think you're looking straight into their eyes, but your focus is on the forehead so their gaze will be less haunting for you.

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Thank you. I will try this out!

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Thank you. I will try this out!
Do it.

for me, it took a few years to settle, and not feel terrified. i don't want to discourage you, just want to let you know that it may take a long time to become fully trained, as it were.
in the beginning, it will probably feel like you're forcing it (which you are obviously, but the goal is to make it so that forehead-staring is your autopilot).

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