I don't consider myself a nice-guy, and dont anticipate to be one when in a relationship. My problem is not losing girls, which is what the article focuses on. Rather, it is the lack of courage to face the possibility of rejection that can result from making the first move, even though I have never experienced it. So if I got to the level where I could show my personality, then I would have to worry about how to act.
Hey Impure, My problem stems from loneliness. What else can solve my problem? For god's sake I have had experiences where girls initiated (one person said she "loves" me, the other hugging me and saying it, and a girl without a date asked me about prom), but I chickened out...
and I know I still will and hate myself for it. I would make up an excuse, like "thats not the girl i want to spend my entire life with, so why waste time?"
The reason behind my fear is the fact that I think I will come across dull and boring on a date. I am generally not an interesting person... I have seen how other guys are fun to be with, and I just can't be like them.. What is it that you guys are talking about "fixing" ourselves. What is the problem that u guys think you need to fix?
I never felt like I feel nowadays before. Although I was always alone, it is now that I am feeling lonely and its pain.