Originally Posted by samboychippies
When I'm alone I often like to imagine having conversations with people or saying and doing s*** I would never have the courage or even the ability to in real life. I'm so fluent and witty and confident when I'm conversing with people in my head but then when talking to these people in real life all that disappears. I stammer, stutter, trip over my own words, can't articulate, end up in a dead end pointless conversation that doesn't play out like it does in my head. Why can't social interaction be so easy and not as difficult as pushing a car up a hill.
Personally the best quote that someone told me was this: "fake it till you make it"
No one is simply confident, even outside. I know lots of people who are extroverted but they are able
to hide the insecurities. Now where does social anxiety kick in? well , its relatively simple, SA sufferes tend to have difficulty hiding their insecurity. Hence why the brain says "Am I looking stupid?" "Am I walking normal?" "Can anyone tell I am blushing?" In reality, your brain is trying to help you as it think its the best way to hide your insecurity by generating anxiety. But its not.
Now in order to adjust stuff, you need to prevent your sub conscious mind at taking over your brain because you don't believe in yourself that you are able to hide these insecurities.
In my personal view, when I am with my family in my house I tend to be more confident because I trust that I am capable of handling my emotions. But outside, not really, hence why the subconscious mind takes over. Example, if I get humiliated at my house I would shrugg it off because I am capable of handling the emotions that deal with humiliation. But outside of my house I cant be capable of handling my emotions when dealing with humiliation, hence why I don't trust myself in these scenarios and my anxiety rises.