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post #21 of 141 (permalink) Old 11-17-2015, 07:58 PM
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post #22 of 141 (permalink) Old 11-17-2015, 08:14 PM
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You expect people to socialize with you who fear/don't want to socialize in the first place.

Okay.

I don't know what else you expected from this place. I only use it to post mundane comments like this and read threads/posts and laugh.
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My profile views per post count is probably the worst on here. There are females with 10 posts who have more profile views than me.
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My posts suck. I never get PMs. I rarely send PMs. I am dumb. I've been banned. I'm often drinking. My profile is lame. I feel like I don't get along with other members. I'm a spamming shiposter! Also, theres so many gamers on SAS, and I don't even play anything with any of them! Those are my people!

I am a shining example of what it is to be a member of the SAS forums. You should all aspire to be more like me!
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post #30 of 141 (permalink) Old 11-17-2015, 09:36 PM
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Yes but it's partially my fault as I don't feel like talking to people even without SA. Even if I wanted to socialize, people will be put off with my inexperience with conversations and my nonexistent personality.
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post #31 of 141 (permalink) Old 11-17-2015, 10:19 PM
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I am also an outcast here. The popular members of SAS are no worse than Facebook, in that they have a million friends and will not respond to your PM's

SAS also has a hierarchy, and deep down I kinda hate the most popular members, not because they are bad people, but I am ignored and disdained by them.

It is the same with facebook of which I have only spent about 5 hours just checking out old jerks I used to know and daydreaming about how their lives
could have been my life.

If I were cool enough, I would probably have met other SAS chicks in my area by now, but no such luck.

When you think about it, SAS members, who are already largely outcasts, are extremely judgmental and only associate with other "cool" members
within the already largely outcast community.

I have messaged with some members through private messages and E-mail but unfortunately most have trailed off. Sad state of f-ing affairs haha
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post #32 of 141 (permalink) Old 11-17-2015, 11:06 PM
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Hope I don't regret this...

I seem to often be regarded as "popular" on SAS, but I honestly think the only reason for that is that I post too damn much, especially since I'm invisible on every other site I try to be noticed on (and I've been trying to get noticed online since 2000--forget IRL, people never noticed me there, period).

If you have tens of thousands of posts ;_; you tend to get noticed, and people equate that with popularity, which isn't necessarily true. (I've gotten some pretty hateful comments, including recently. And whenever there are comments about "popular users," I alternate between thinking, "They can't possibly mean me, I'm not popular," and "I wonder how many of them are sitting there loathing me right now.")

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The popular members of SAS are no worse than Facebook, in that they have a million friends and will not respond to your PM's
The reason I have so many people on my friends list here is because I accept almost every request I get; I don't think I've sent out any friend requests, myself. Too chicken. Them being on my list is more a symbolic gesture than anything, it's not like we keep in touch.

Also, I like to hope that the majority of cases where users don't respond to others' PMs is...because they're anxious/avoidant/shy. :/ I actually had to turn mine off, because replying to people, no matter how friendly they were, stressed me out too much, and I started to get sick of users who took it very personally and began attacking me publicly on the site. I've been accused of snobbery IRL when I was too afraid to respond to people (who I suspected were trying to bait me into replying as part of some cruel joke), and to have to deal with that on a site like this, where I figured everyone else would understand since they're going through the same things, was very discouraging. Other anxious people are the last people I would've expected to mistake my anxiety for snobbery. :/

Don't get me wrong, I understand how much it hurts to reach out to someone and they don't respond. Been there, done that, my entire life, yes, including recently. But I think on a social anxiety site, our silence should be given more leeway, because chances are it's not snobbery or rejection behind it, but anxiety.

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SAS also has a hierarchy, and deep down I kinda hate the most popular members, not because they are bad people, but I am ignored and disdained by them.
I only actively ignore the users who are rude to me or to others I care about. As for users I don't know, or users I like, again, my silence is just my anxiety (brought on by decades of rejections when I tried to communicate with others), and not actually "ignoring." I suspect it's the same with many other users, too. We aren't usually ignoring each other, we're just too scared to keep in touch. Ask the users here I'm on good terms with and they could tell you I don't usually respond to them, either. ;_;

I understand if you feel hateful or resentful. :/ There are lots of users I envy, myself. I only urge you to reconsider where our silence is coming from.

I don't completely disagree with you about Facebook (stupid site, more asocial than SAS is), and about certain users being judgemental toward others (I've experienced it myself many times), but I don't think this has much to do with associating with the "cool users." I see users who post a lot, like myself; and users who try to be helpful/kind; and users who try to be funny, etc.; and perhaps they get the most replies--but I don't think it's because they're "cooler" than everyone else or that they're part of some exclusive "clique," they're just the ones who post the sort of things that get attention.

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I have messaged with some members through private messages and E-mail but unfortunately most have trailed off. Sad state of f-ing affairs haha
Fearing that other users are judging me in that manner, sitting there steaming and getting spiteful when I'm cowering on the other side of the computer screen, too terrified to open a new message in my inbox (because I've gotten more criticism and rejection in past e-mails than I care to keep track of), is the reason why I modified my signature and turned off my PMs completely.

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I was hesitant to post in this thread for the very reason that I've been "accused" of being a popular user (and here, popularity is considered a bad thing). I'm NEVER popular, so it's a weird accusation to get. But when I see "popular" users criticized, I'd just like people to keep in mind that most of us didn't set out to become "popular," we just posted a lot, people noticed those posts, and...it just happened. It's not like we're actively rejecting or ignoring anyone (well, like I said, except people who are jerks to us).

...

It's kind of a dumb thing to say on an anxiety site, but if you want to be noticed more, you have to speak up.

And yeah, I know, that's the hard part, and I imagine that's why it sucks so much to feel ignored and unpopular. That's how I've felt my entire life, and on every other website on the Internet. And on the few other sites where I spoke up enough to be noticed, I was hated. If I'm truly considered "popular" here, then it's merely a fluke, and I don't even understand it myself. :/

I didn't get here because I chose to reject and ignore others, though; what would be the point, when I know how much that hurts?

...

(I think this thread was meant in a somewhat humorous vein, so, I apologize if I brought the whole thing down. Creeping off now.)

If I don't reply to you, it's NOTHING PERSONAL. It's my ANXIETY.

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post #33 of 141 (permalink) Old 11-17-2015, 11:09 PM
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post #34 of 141 (permalink) Old 11-17-2015, 11:14 PM
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Meh, probably a lot of people do, including myself.

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Not getting PMs doesn't mean you're not noticed, or not considered interesting.

Take RandomGentleman, for example. Here he is empathizing with your problems, and yet I think he's one of the coolest guys here (to be fair, I feel a connection to anyone with an anime profile picture). But of course, I've never told him that, and I don't intend to message him (nor do I have any desire to do so). We're all here because we suck at communicating with people. Don't take it personally.
This guy right here. We're all rejects and I'm sure hardly any of us ever talk to eachother or get to know each otheo n a more personal level, kind of what this site is about - social weirdos.

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I don't really engage too much with other individuals on SAS, so I can't expect much in return. Although I do enjoy it just being a place where people can share their thoughts and ideas (a lot of those thoughts and ideas are trolling, which seems to be popular on here, sadly); I don't need it to be a place to socialize.

I've gotten one friend request right after I made the account, and I felt kind of awkward about it, so I didn't really click anything. Finally got around to rejecting it just now.

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My profile views per post count is probably the worst on here. There are females with 10 posts who have more profile views than me.
I'll give you a view My view amount is terrible too, but I like it that way. I don't like people snooping on me, hence why my profile doesn't say too much.
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I guess, it doesn't bother me much though, I would much rather have a real life friend.
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My profile views per post count is probably the worst on here. There are females with 10 posts who have more profile views than me.
Not anymore lol.
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