Ive been dropped by a few friends, theres never an explanation, usually they make new friends and leave me behind but the friends ive had, theyve never been very good friends, id be there for them and the minute I need someone theyre gone - no explanation, just radio silence, its so hurtful and its made me fearful of getting close to people, I cant help thinking theres something wrong with me, I just wish that even one of the would let me know why they dropped me, I can never think of anything I did or said to them. I asked a mutual friend why our other friend who dropped me but he just said I didnt do anything and its not about me and didnt say any more, he's distanced himself from me too, I see him less often and we used to be close.
I was really close with an old friend from school the last couple of months, we went to a concert a few months ago together, we went on holiday a few weeks ago and had been meeting up a few times a week over the last while, going to the gym, going for lunch but the last time we went for lunch was the last I heard from her, we had plans to meet twice but she canceled both. Its so hurtful as it was so out of the blue but she's done this to me before and theres never an explanation given.
Her and her other friends dropped a girl from their group a few months ago, they had been really close, had a group chat on whatsapp, hung out all the time, according to my friend (possibly ex friend) they had good reason, said she never listened to them, made all the conversations about herself and was using one of the girls to mind her kids - these are all fair enough reasons to cut out a friend I think but the way they did it was so cruel, they stopped replying to her messages in the group chat, made a new group chat without her and just completely stopped contacting her. They bumped into her in the gym and were so horrible, they were fake nice to her face but the second she left they started *****ing about her. It's weird seeing it done to somebody else, I didnt like the girl they dropped, she was always very rude to me for no reason, didnt even know her and never had a conversation with her but I still felt bad for her as I know how it feels, its horrible.
Its hard not to take it personally as everyone who comes into my life, I really care about them and cant understand what I could have done to make them reject me. If I knew what I was doing I could atleast try to work on myself to fix the problem but I havnt got a clue.
Dont mean to make your post about me, im just going through this at the minute and thought id share my own experience.
Could you ask him what happened? If he's giving you dirty looks could you have said or done something without meaning to?