24 Year Old Virgin
Hi guys, first post, felt like venting a little.
I think I have a severe case of SAD, and it's not only hindering my work, my social life, but also my love life.
I never realized this until recently, but I think my SAD has prevented me from having a girlfriend at all throughout my school years. It seems like whenever an attractive girl talks to me, I'm always at a lost of words, which inevitably will result in awkward silences.
Let me preface this by saying I have above average looks, and I've been known to be a sharp dresser (having numerous men hitting on me throughout the years, *sigh*). I've also known either directly or indirectly that throughout my school/college years several girls have had crushes on me. Yet, nothing ever materialized. I have no problem talking to girls, in fact, my best friend is a girl. However, I find that I'm most comfortable when I'm talking to girls who either I'm completely unattracted to, or someone who I will definitely not have a relationship with (eg. married). I've noticed that no matter how much I like a girl, or how I know the girl likes me, I've never had the courage to ask a girl out. I do go out with girls, but it's always Platonic.
I'm getting to the point in my life where I'm really tired of being alone. I have a very limited pool of friends and my office consists of 15 people, most of them double my age. I also hate drinking, or going clubbing, the stuff that people my age live to do. I only go clubbing once in a while because I feel like I need to do something with my friends so they donít feel that I hole up in my apt all the time. Thus, I feel like the chance of me meeting a girl is dwindling, and thereís no chance Iím going to find anyone, which is quite frustrating.
Iíve pondered the possibility of using a dating website, but I was told that they are mostly scams and finding a real match is a dim in a dozen. Yet, I have absolutely no courage to ask a random girl out. So, Iím in a pinch. I think what bothers me is not the virginity part, but the fact that Iíve never had a gf. Not only that, but it seems like the prospects are getting grimmer everyday. Since praying that Iíll meet the girl of my dreams out of some serendipitous event is unlikely, Iíd like to ask you guys for some advice. What should I do?