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post #41 of 67 (permalink) Old 11-11-2013, 08:10 PM
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Haha jesus christ it almost made me cry reading that ><
Thankyou R91, for reminding us of our rights and that we are allowed to be ourselves and happy!
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Wow. I think I'm going to print this first post out and stick it to my wall. I'm very serious. It makes such a good valid point.

Essentially, we have the right to be ourselves, be happy, and to deny anyone who interferes with those rights. Basically, stand up for yourself and be yourself.

It sounds so simple, but so often I let it slip by. Just doing what everyone WANTS me to, what everyone THINKS I should do... or should not do.

Or worse, just being quiet when I feel like my rights (or others) are being violated.

Thank you for this topic. I needed that right now.
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It is OK to be relaxed, playful and frivolous.

I need to work on that one. I get so tense and stressed in public. I miss dancing in target like I used to with my sisters. Life would be a lot happier if I could just let go.
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It is OK to be relaxed, playful and frivolous.

I need to work on that one. I get so tense and stressed in public. I miss dancing in target like I used to with my sisters. Life would be a lot happier if I could just let go.
I agree. This one is probably my biggest struggle. I always mentally deny myself the right to be silly and fun. I miss the days of playing jungle explorer in the clothing department with my young relatives. I miss that feeling of just having fun.

Now, whenever I feel the urge to say something funny or stupid, I suppress it. I always think "that's stupid. They'll think I'm stupid." I need to just let go and be myself. Because the few times I do let go, everyone gets a laugh and enjoys my company.

I'm funny, dammit. And I deserve to let myself be!
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Agree with everything you said.
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Love this! Thanks for sharing!

Peaceful journey!
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I have the right to grieve when I don't get what I need. <<< THIS.
I feel I'm not getting enough of this in my life. People's expectations are ****ed.

It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is the most adaptable to change.
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I feel like I have seen a similar list in my anxiety workbook...

My sarcasm is dry. So you probably will think I am an ahole. I would apologize, but I get s*** on enough at home to not shiv a get.

Self Pity
by D. H. Lawrence —
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“I never said thank you..”
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This is a wonderful post!



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My bill of rights: Do not judge any man. Live to do know right from wrong. Never give up.

And I abide strongly with this.

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Is there someone there to reach me, or someone there to find me?"
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thank you, this is a great list. I honestly think someone could feel much happier just by reading it everyday. Its a relief from all the unnecessary pressure we put on ourselves.


And I can't help but ask myself
how much
I've let the fear take the wheel and steer

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This is beautiful! No one should take away these rights from us.
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When do I actually get to exercise these rights?

Or they don't exist at all...

Here's to life, the vice
The great herald of misery
In this cup, spiritus frumenti
For this is the nectar of the spirit
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Love this! Thanks a bunch
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Every man, woman, and child has the following rights by virtue of the fact that they exist.
These are reasonable and ordinary expectations, which create appropriate boundaries.


I have the right to make my own choices.

I have the right to follow my own values and standards,
as long as I am not abusive towards others.


I have a right to dignity and respect.

I have a right to all of my feelings.

I have a right to express myself as long as
I am not abusive toward others.

I have a right to determine and honor my own priorities.

I have a right to recognize and accept my own value system as appropriate.

I have a right to have my needs and wants respected by others.

I have the right to say no when I feel I am not ready, unsafe,
or that it violates my values (this goes for kids too...they have
the right to say "no" to their parents)

I have the right to make mistakes and not have to be perfect.

I have the right not to be responsible for others behavior,
actions, feelings or problems.

I have a right to be uniquely me, without feeling I'm not good enough.

I have the right to make decisions based on my
feelings and judgment for any reason.

I have the right to change my mind at any time.


I have the right to my personal space and time needs.

I have the right to be flexible and be comfortable with doing so.

I have the right to be in a safe, non-abusive environment.

I have the right to forgive others and forgive myself.

I have the right to give and receive unconditional love.

I have the right to enjoy being sexual and celebrate my sexuality.

I have the right to my own spiritual beliefs and to celebrate them.

I have the right to grieve when I don't get what I need.

I have the right to grieve when I get something I didn't need or want.

I have the right to joyfully receive without feeling guilty.


I have a right to healthy relationships of my choice.

I have the right to be angry with someone I love.

I can take care of myself, no matter what.

I have the right to be, and can be, healthier than those around me.

I have the right to trust others who earn my trust.

I have the right to terminate conversations for any reason.

It is OK to be relaxed, playful and frivolous.

I have a right to expect honesty from others.

I have the right to change and grow.

I have the right to follow my own path.

I have the right to be happy.


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Once again, a bit long but worth a read. I truly believe every human being deserves these rights. Once I started implementing them into my daily life, friction was caused amongst my family members, because they were so used to me doing whatever they said and never standing up for myself.

It takes a while to truly believe these rights, I know I'm still struggling too.

But every day try to implement one of them. Soon you will believe that you are worthy of these rights as well.

What do you think?

http://www.unhinderedliving.com/personalrights.html
I take issue with that fact that you said these rights exist when they don't, they're social constructs and not universally divine nor are they objectively correct but I understand your point.

Existence has no purpose, it cannot have such a thing.

And we are here because of reproduction. We are not here to reproduce, or to do anything else.
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Thank you for the post, ill be reading this one alot
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I have the right to be happy.

^This says it all and it belongs to everyone.
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But still, there is not justification for being fat, unless there are medical obligations/side affects of important medical treatment. Being fat is unhealthy, and health/unhealth is well defined. However many rights you have, science applies to everybody.

Thank for reading my post/comment, sorry for the rant/any offence. I hope you have a great day!

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