Great White Shark
Join Date: Apr 2013
Language: Galactic Basic, machine language
I just see a good and humorous side in everything, no matter how grim it looks. Because, let's face it, there is no such thing as "good" or "bad" in the world, there are only things that we choose to categorise as "good" or "bad", and it is completely up to us how to do it.
As an example, I had an absolutely horrible toothache around a year ago. It was so bad that I nearly fainted from pain a few times. But I didn't feel bad about it, because I took in on as a challenge to practice not letting pain affect my life and put my mind into the mode where it deliberately ignored the pain and focused on other things around - and it actually worked. Can't say I absolutely was not affected by the pain, but due to how I chose to approach it, it barely had any effect on my emotional state.
I think many people practice positivity in a wrong way in that they just prefer to focus on a positive outcome, but since deep inside they know that the positive outcome is not guaranteed, they remain anxious about it. The right thing, I think, is to realise that any outcome, positive or negative, is fine and that you will use it to your advantage and move on.
For example, when you are asking someone out, it is pointless to keep self-affirming that "they will accept me": this might boost your chances some, but is unlikely to do much, and you will know that you are lying to yourself deep inside. On the other hand, employing the attitude like "If they accept me, that's great; if they don't, that's fine as well" is going to put your mind at ease. That is practical positivity in a nutshell.