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Losing weight and exercising are two of the very few things that I'm capable of doing right now in terms of self-improvement, and I have been making an effort the past few weeks. Yet for the life of me I cannot think of why I should, so the motivation is very unsteady. So I'd appreciate some motivation to do so, though if it's something obvious I'll probably get argumentative.
Well, it is quite literally for the life of you. Your health is your life and your life (And your ability to control the paths you travel through life) is all you have. Exercise is probably the #1 thing you have to do if you value your health. It isn't just about looking better or being attractive. It can be the difference between having a stroke at 60 and living in relatively good health for much longer.

Even if you're depressed and feel like you don't want to live, you might change your mind someday. If you don't invest in your future health right now you might not have it when you decide you want it.

It might not seem like a real tangible thing if you think of your future health as something that is decades off but when the time comes and "someday" is right now, you can't go back and convince your past self to care.

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I wouldn't be getting laid regardless, even if I wanted to, trust me on that. And I wish my body would shut down today, not 5 or 10 or 20 years from now, it'd save me a lot of trouble.
Im sure thats not the case. Have you ever had a sexual partner before? If it happened once it can happen again. Look around the next time your in public. Most couples are average looking at best. Not everyone is a super model. So improve what you can about yourself. You can always improve yourself
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Ultimately, no one really cares, and why should they? I've gone from obese to a healthy weight before, and I don't think it affected my interactions in any meaningful way. I can prove that I'm capable of proving it again, though I don't see anyone asking for proof in the first place.
Apologies - by saying it seemed slightly contradictory, I don't mean to place emphasis on the "other [people]" part. My understanding is that you'd know it would improve your situation and so I was curious why you wanted to improve your situation. Hopefully, this query now makes sense, as I previously may have given the impression of placing emphasis on "other [people]", when in fact it was the last thing on my mind.

To be honest, this is maybe because as part of my job role, we're strongly encouraged not to prescribe or project problems onto the customers. It should be quite difficult for any of us to motivate you to overcome a challenge without first knowing why you want to overcome this challenge. What motivated you towards creating this thread?

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Yeah if you're suicidal or don't/like care about yourself than it's difficult to do anything like that. Might help to dissociate and pretend your body isn't you but a small eco system that's keeping micro-animals alive so you have to do it so they have a place to live for longer. Some crap like that.
I like that kind of introspection, to see the human body as some kind of thing there, that your soul is carrying, but that is somehow just flesh and bones, making our every day movements possible. There are often ways to "rationalize" our ways of thinking in order to adapt and survive.

As for exercising, I try and walk at quiet times (early morning) or in walking trails. Depends where you live, what is available to do around. Maybe start with set-ups or push-ups. Anyway, I also struggle with being consistent and motivation. ----- Or... if you live where there's snow, snow removal can be quite an exercise at times. anyway, good luck!
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I find when I feel angry at the world, and or depressed....exercising burns of the extra energy, I tire myself out so I can go sleep.
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Tiny tip for demotivated days.... if you are feeling especially unmotivated you could try just doing bodyweight strength exercises. Often doing these is enough to make me feel physically motivated to do cardio, and if it doesn't motivate you to do cardio then at least you will be building your muscles, which also burn fat, so all is not lost!



Diet-wise, one of the best things I ever did was go very low carb and keep my portion sizes appropriate. There's no healthy shortcuts!
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The motivation usually has to come from within. Some can be brought from outside sources. My tip would be... what was the initial idea to get fit about? In any cases, I'd say to start small but to try to build consistency. You don't need to do much, but setting a training routine is best.
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Your body is the one possession that you know you will have for the duration of your life. It's your vehicle, entertainment center and dwelling all in one. So for the same reason you would take care of your computer or clean your house, you should take care of your body. Exercise is one of the best things you can do for both your body and your mind.

Indeed, thats my motivating power too! It is really hard to continue and be consistent especially when there are a lot of distractions.
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Im sure thats not the case. Have you ever had a sexual partner before? If it happened once it can happen again. Look around the next time your in public. Most couples are average looking at best. Not everyone is a super model. So improve what you can about yourself. You can always improve yourself
Never, and I've never tried. Believe me, I'm way too far gone psychologically and socially for it to ever happen unless payment is involved. The way I look may actually be one of the lesser concerns. If I lost all the extra weight and put on some muscle definition, it would be like putting lipstick on a pig. I may still do it, but not for that reason.
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Losing weight and exercising are two of the very few things that I'm capable of doing right now in terms of self-improvement, and I have been making an effort the past few weeks. Yet for the life of me I cannot think of why I should, so the motivation is very unsteady. So I'd appreciate some motivation to do so, though if it's something obvious I'll probably get argumentative.
I get it. I encountered those motivational roadblocks starting out and still do from time to time. However, going to the gym has been therapeutic, but it took some time before it was. Once you form the habit and see results of your efforts, the positive effects become more obvious. It has helped me feel more mentally stable where I haven't needed medication.

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Losing weight and exercising are two of the very few things that I'm capable of doing right now in terms of self-improvement, and I have been making an effort the past few weeks. Yet for the life of me I cannot think of why I should, so the motivation is very unsteady. So I'd appreciate some motivation to do so, though if it's something obvious I'll probably get argumentative.
When I started working out, I used to pretend I was a secret agent who was training for missions. So instead of wearing running shorts like everyone else, I'd wear tactical pants along with a field jacket and do my workout in that. I don't know if other people think that's dorky but it sure helped me work out and push myself.
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Never, and I've never tried. Believe me, I'm way too far gone psychologically and socially for it to ever happen unless payment is involved. The way I look may actually be one of the lesser concerns. If I lost all the extra weight and put on some muscle definition, it would be like putting lipstick on a pig. I may still do it, but not for that reason.
Post a picture of yourself. Lets us judge if you have no chance physically. I doubt it is now as bad as you think and it could be improved. The psychologically and socially stuff can be improved with practice and getting the right kind of help. Cant just give up
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Losing weight and exercising are two of the very few things that I'm capable of doing right now in terms of self-improvement, and I have been making an effort the past few weeks. Yet for the life of me I cannot think of why I should, so the motivation is very unsteady. So I'd appreciate some motivation to do so, though if it's something obvious I'll probably get argumentative.
Youtube search Eric Thomas, find his "Secrets to success" video. Thats what got me started. As for weight loss... drink lots of water (only water) and walk 4km's a day, do 20 pushups and 20 situps a day. Eat nothing but salads and then u will lose weight. Im getting sick of salad but its paying off.
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Mindset is the biggest push you can have. If you have the right mindset you can achieve your fitness goal. But if you're mindset is with procrastination then definitely you wont even start.
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I will tell you about my grandfather, who was allergic to exercise and vegetables as he said, and for him it was a slow death because he did not take care of himself. It was about 20+ years of dealing with various physical ailments from kidney disease, diabetes, COPD...and mostly because of not taking care of his health. So I say if you want to avoid a slow death, definitely take care of yourself. If you exercise and take care of your health you will not have as many physical problems as my grandfather did. This is what motivates me because I don't want to deal with what he had to go through.
The other thing I want to say is don't exercise for the purpose of looking good or getting laid because that will just get you more frustrated. Do it for your health and do it for the mental health benefits too. Exercise is good to get out any anger and frustrations without hurting yourself or anybody else.
I am sorry you are having the suicidal feelings. I have been there and it's definitely rough when you have lost all hope. Keep on fighting. I am rooting for you
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