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ScorchedEarth 09-11-2020 01:39 AM

Motivate me to get fit
 
Losing weight and exercising are two of the very few things that I'm capable of doing right now in terms of self-improvement, and I have been making an effort the past few weeks. Yet for the life of me I cannot think of why I should, so the motivation is very unsteady. So I'd appreciate some motivation to do so, though if it's something obvious I'll probably get argumentative.

firelight 09-11-2020 01:45 AM

Your body is the one possession that you know you will have for the duration of your life. It's your vehicle, entertainment center and dwelling all in one. So for the same reason you would take care of your computer or clean your house, you should take care of your body. Exercise is one of the best things you can do for both your body and your mind.

mt moyt 09-11-2020 02:54 AM

How else would you survive a zombie apocalypse?

ScorchedEarth 09-11-2020 04:08 AM

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Originally Posted by mt moyt (Post 1094013709)
How else would you survive a zombie apocalypse?

Well, you got me there, can't argue with that!


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Originally Posted by firelight (Post 1094013677)
Your body is the one possession that you know you will have for the duration of your life. It's your vehicle, entertainment center and dwelling all in one. So for the same reason you would take care of your computer or clean your house, you should take care of your body. Exercise is one of the best things you can do for both your body and your mind.

You're absolutely right, and under better circumstances it'd be an excellent argument to make. Thing is, I'd rather have died years ago and if my heart were to give out today, it'd be doing me a big favor. As for the psychological benefits, they're pretty slim on a daily basis even if I manage to stick my schedule. I'm sure I'd feel better about myself if I were toned... but I have little to no confidence I can pull that off with my **** genes, and when all I have to work with is my own body weight. And come to think of it, being ripped wouldn't really help me in any concrete way either unless I take up manual labor or sports or something.

Persephone The Dread 09-11-2020 04:40 AM

Yeah if you're suicidal or don't/like care about yourself than it's difficult to do anything like that. Might help to dissociate and pretend your body isn't you but a small eco system that's keeping micro-animals alive so you have to do it so they have a place to live for longer. Some crap like that.

Silent Memory 09-11-2020 06:17 AM

You could look at a baby photo of yourself and tell yourself that you’re looking after the baby in the photo, which is the truth because you’re still the same person.

RSxo 09-11-2020 11:53 AM

Lots of the reasons about health, cost etc are all online, but often they aren't the biggest driver in losing weight - that would be your personal aim. What do you want out of it specifically, what's your goal? People who stick it out often don't just aim for better health, but want to reduce their risk to heart problems; not just improve mental wellbeing, but get to the point where they don't need to see a therapist; and so on. Find out what your specific reason for losing weight is, what you really care about, and keep that in mind! Every time you don't feel like doing a workout, or every time you want to go out instead of exercise, keep that goal in mind. Every day that you workout, you're taking a step towards your goal, and each time you skip a workout, you're pushing that goal away. Arnold Schwarzenegger used this mentality while he trained :)

firelight 09-11-2020 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by ScorchedEarth (Post 1094013731)
You're absolutely right, and under better circumstances it'd be an excellent argument to make. Thing is, I'd rather have died years ago and if my heart were to give out today, it'd be doing me a big favor. As for the psychological benefits, they're pretty slim on a daily basis even if I manage to stick my schedule. I'm sure I'd feel better about myself if I were toned... but I have little to no confidence I can pull that off with my **** genes, and when all I have to work with is my own body weight. And come to think of it, being ripped wouldn't really help me in any concrete way either unless I take up manual labor or sports or something.

Sorry you're feeling like you want to die. I guess the way I think of it is, unless I kill myself, I have decades more I have to live. The thought of going into old age and being so weak and helpless that I lose all independence is terrifying to me and a big motivator. You don't have to get ripped or even toned. Bodyweight exercises are good as is walking every day and throwing in some runs. Something is always better than nothing.

blue2 09-11-2020 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by mt moyt (Post 1094013709)
How else would you survive a zombie apocalypse?

Depends if you would want to survive, I think I'd make a good zombie, OP needs to get fit enough to escape me :yes

coeur_brise 09-11-2020 10:38 PM

My motivation, even if only mentally is: look at JLo in her 50s. If she's not the fittest woman on the planet. Or consequently bruce lee or Dwayne Johnson? I know I won't get to JLo level at all, but hey at least I can walk a few more steps than i already am. Healthy is more of a feel for me.
It depends on what motivates you too. I mean, does it help more to set a goal of 1 hike per week or take more hikes in general? Switch to greens, include more colors on your plate or have exactly 1 red, 2 green and yellow in your diet? That kind of thing.

I talk a lot of **** but I'm actually quite overweight. Its normal for age though so.. you have to work harder. But that shouldn't deter you. No one can stay 21 forever. That is, if you did gain weight with age. I dunno.

ScorchedEarth 09-12-2020 12:54 AM

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Originally Posted by RSxo (Post 1094013915)
Lots of the reasons about health, cost etc are all online, but often they aren't the biggest driver in losing weight - that would be your personal aim. What do you want out of it specifically, what's your goal?

That's why I made this thread, for people to try to convince me to do something I know I can. Of course I understand there are health benefits, but it's kind of a moot point when I'd rather be six feet under and prolonging my life would be like asking to be tortured some more.

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Originally Posted by RSxo (Post 1094013915)
Every day that you workout, you're taking a step towards your goal, and each time you skip a workout, you're pushing that goal away. Arnold Schwarzenegger used this mentality while he trained :)

Also god-tier genes and an asston of steroids. Not to diminish the huge effort he also surely put into it, but comparisons like that only serve to remind me I'll never be up to snuff no matter how hard I try. Especially if my genetics are terrible for gaining strength like they are at so many other things. I suppose I can't know that for sure unless I give my body good conditions to grow and it just doesn't. And I'm not expecting to gain anything while I'm working off the excess fat.

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Originally Posted by firelight (Post 1094013927)
The thought of going into old age and being so weak and helpless that I lose all independence is terrifying to me and a big motivator.

True, though not as scary as losing my mind due to dementia. Not sure that fear is a good motivator for exercise, but it's something. Just thinking I could have another 20-30 years of this life with ever-diminishing health and mounting regrets sends chills down my spine. Hopefully I'll have found a way out well before that.

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Originally Posted by Silent Memory (Post 1094013779)
You could look at a baby photo of yourself and tell yourself that you’re looking after the baby in the photo, which is the truth because you’re still the same person.

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Originally Posted by Persephone The Dread (Post 1094013747)
Yeah if you're suicidal or don't/like care about yourself than it's difficult to do anything like that. Might help to dissociate and pretend your body isn't you but a small eco system that's keeping micro-animals alive so you have to do it so they have a place to live for longer. Some crap like that.

Sorry, I can't delude myself like that, I like to think I'm resistant to magical thinking.

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Originally Posted by coeur_brise (Post 1094014225)
It depends on what motivates you too. I mean, does it help more to set a goal of 1 hike per week or take more hikes in general? Switch to greens, include more colors on your plate or have exactly 1 red, 2 green and yellow in your diet? That kind of thing.

It has to be a daily routine without exception so that force of habit can help, because motivation alone sure isn't going to cut it. At least since I work from home that means I'm flexible.


Well, thanks all for the replies and encouragement. I will exercise and cut calories, if only to prove to myself and others that I did do something to improve my situation. Even if the outcome is meaningless.

Persephone The Dread 09-12-2020 04:59 AM

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Originally Posted by ScorchedEarth (Post 1094014261)


Sorry, I can't delude myself like that, I like to think I'm resistant to magical thinking.

Well it actually is true:



edit: do not read the above article if you have a phobia about bugs.

But yeah probably not comforting for most people lol.

You're probably delusional about some things already since most people are. I usually find that the people who go out of their way to point out how rational and logical they are really aren't lol.

blue2 09-12-2020 06:06 AM

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Question: Why do you want to improve your overall health & get fit ?

Answer: To be a home for tiny face spiders <a href="http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/images/smilies/12.gif" border="0" alt="" title="" >:-)</a>

That's good enough for me.

Persephone The Dread 09-12-2020 06:30 AM

If you have no practical goal in mind, and you actually want to die anyway, I figure you have to get creative lol. Also in fairness the OP said:

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though if it's something obvious I'll probably get argumentative.
nobody was expecting bug ecosystem. :blank

Suppose another option would be to find a use for working out, develop a hobby that requires it or a hobby that involves exercise in the first place. That's obvious though. I don't have a problem with this because there's something I enjoy doing that involves working out - swimming. Though I don't go swimming now because of covid and previously because of social anxiety but it's not a motivation issue it's an anxiety issue. Back when I did go swimming I also set goals for myself like swimming a certain amount of lengths. There are other things I'd probably enjoy doing too but that anxiety would also impact like team based sports or tennis etc.

Simply working out at the gym though I would find incredibly boring, and I did go to a gym for a while as a teenager with someone else but I also have unpleasant memories because of the person I went with which contribute, but even if I'd gone alone I would have found it boring.

macky 12-02-2020 03:46 AM

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Originally Posted by ScorchedEarth (Post 1094014261)
Well, thanks all for the replies and encouragement. I will exercise and cut calories, if only to prove to myself and others that I did do something to improve my situation. Even if the outcome is meaningless.

Well at least you have your reason, that being "to improve your situation" - to motivate yourself more you may want to expand upon what you mean by improving your situation. There's also the fact you want to prove to yourself, and not just to others. Doesn't this slightly contradict the idea of the outcome being meaningless?

zonebox 12-02-2020 05:12 AM

I'm not in fantastic shape by any means, but have been doing pretty good for the past few months. Motivation for working out is a low commodity for me, and I find it to be difficult to do things I really don't want to. So, despite replying to an older post - I'll leave this bit of advice for you and others that wish to be in better shape. Don't push yourselves, don't have high expectations, and do small things. Having high expectations for people like myself, is only damaging to the overall goal which is to be healthier - not a model :lol I used to have higher expectations and after a few weeks without seeing any results I would just lose any sense of motivation at all.


Now, I know a lot of people out there are exceptional, and incredibly motivated - once they put their minds to something they will keep pushing to attain that goal. This advice is not for them, they are amazing in this department and can get a lot of things accomplished. This advice is for people like me, who just would rather play around on the computer for hours :)


Start small, something as easy as doing a walk. Set a small goal for about ten minutes, it doesn't have to be a marathon it is just to get started. Try to stick with it, and if any of you are like me you will find it easier once you start to push yourselves a little further - I find that building up motivation to start doing anything, is a lot harder when you put an enormous task before yourself. Don't do this to yourself, don't make some unreasonable goal that will not be easy to maintain for months or even years. Just put aside a small task such as walking, every day for ten minutes - perhaps half an hour if you don't feel bothered by it.



For me, it is just ten minutes. I will go out, take a walk and usually it is not nearly as bad and I find myself walking around for an hour to two hours just because it is an enjoyable activity. If I felt obligated to walk for an hour or two every day though, the motivation to do so would not be there at all, I would probably just avoid it all together. The other piece of advice I would give to my fellow unmotivated peeps, is never, ever, eva let yourselves feel guilty if you don't meet that goal every day. You need to try to stay positive about it, and make it something you look forward to.



Motivation doesn't come easy to all of us, so I can't inspire you or most people to go out and be the best you can be. The only motivation I find that may work for some of us, is to set easier goals.

VIncymon 12-06-2020 10:00 AM

I agree with the above post. Go a little everyday. Make it a lifestyle. But its a change you cannot do all at once. It involved diet changes as well. Learning a bit more about sports science and some research. .....obviously its not something you can learn in a week.


There will be days when you feel burnt out and cannot get in. As long a workout as you would like. That's Ok. Other days will be better.

Remember weight loss is gradual, and if you are packing on muscle too,...then the weightloss will appear even slower.....because the change is so gradual, you may not notice it by looking in the mirror. .....do not be discouraged by this .....usually the change in your body shape is only noticeable to other people.

I cannot stress this enough. Because you see yourself in the mirror everyday YOU WILL NOT SEE THE DIFFERENCE ....do not be discourage by this.

Remember, your fitness goals are for yourself, not to impress anybody else.

This is also important, so that if you get a breakup, or your partner is not in the mood, or just not motivated. it won't hinder your progress.

chrisinmd 12-06-2020 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by ScorchedEarth (Post 1094013673)
So I'd appreciate some motivation to do so, though if it's something obvious I'll probably get argumentative.

How about your will hardly never get laid if you are a out of shape blob of fat! And you will drop dead a whole lot sooner!

Seems like good reasons to get fit to me

Lisa 12-06-2020 03:04 PM

Do it for a career on OnlyFans ;)

ScorchedEarth 12-06-2020 11:44 PM

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Originally Posted by zonebox (Post 1094046545)
I'm not in fantastic shape by any means, but have been doing pretty good for the past few months. Motivation for working out is a low commodity for me, and I find it to be difficult to do things I really don't want to. So, despite replying to an older post - I'll leave this bit of advice for you and others that wish to be in better shape. Don't push yourselves, don't have high expectations, and do small things. Having high expectations for people like myself, is only damaging to the overall goal which is to be healthier - not a model :lol I used to have higher expectations and after a few weeks without seeing any results I would just lose any sense of motivation at all.


Now, I know a lot of people out there are exceptional, and incredibly motivated - once they put their minds to something they will keep pushing to attain that goal. This advice is not for them, they are amazing in this department and can get a lot of things accomplished. This advice is for people like me, who just would rather play around on the computer for hours :)


Start small, something as easy as doing a walk. Set a small goal for about ten minutes, it doesn't have to be a marathon it is just to get started. Try to stick with it, and if any of you are like me you will find it easier once you start to push yourselves a little further - I find that building up motivation to start doing anything, is a lot harder when you put an enormous task before yourself. Don't do this to yourself, don't make some unreasonable goal that will not be easy to maintain for months or even years. Just put aside a small task such as walking, every day for ten minutes - perhaps half an hour if you don't feel bothered by it.



For me, it is just ten minutes. I will go out, take a walk and usually it is not nearly as bad and I find myself walking around for an hour to two hours just because it is an enjoyable activity. If I felt obligated to walk for an hour or two every day though, the motivation to do so would not be there at all, I would probably just avoid it all together. The other piece of advice I would give to my fellow unmotivated peeps, is never, ever, eva let yourselves feel guilty if you don't meet that goal every day. You need to try to stay positive about it, and make it something you look forward to.



Motivation doesn't come easy to all of us, so I can't inspire you or most people to go out and be the best you can be. The only motivation I find that may work for some of us, is to set easier goals.

Oh, I already walk and stand plenty despite the weight. You can't outrun a big appetite and a serious addiction to sugar though. What's worked best for me so far is strict rationing that still appeases my sweet tooth every few hours while keeping calories in check. Crunching the numbers, I think I could be at a healthy BMI in less than a year, especially if I double down on the exercise. I just have trouble figuring out a reason why, to the point where force of habit is probably the only way I can make any progress.

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Originally Posted by macky (Post 1094046541)
Well at least you have your reason, that being "to improve your situation" - to motivate yourself more you may want to expand upon what you mean by improving your situation. There's also the fact you want to prove to yourself, and not just to others. Doesn't this slightly contradict the idea of the outcome being meaningless?

Ultimately, no one really cares, and why should they? I've gone from obese to a healthy weight before, and I don't think it affected my interactions in any meaningful way. I can prove that I'm capable of proving it again, though I don't see anyone asking for proof in the first place.

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Originally Posted by Lisa (Post 1094047813)
Do it for a career on OnlyFans ;)

True, there's a lot of demand for creepy probably-autistic geeks, but only if they're in shape.

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Originally Posted by chrisinmd (Post 1094047763)
How about your will hardly never get laid if you are a out of shape blob of fat! And you will drop dead a whole lot sooner!

Seems like good reasons to get fit to me

I wouldn't be getting laid regardless, even if I wanted to, trust me on that. And I wish my body would shut down today, not 5 or 10 or 20 years from now, it'd save me a lot of trouble.


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