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Do you have any mental rituals that help you confront situations that cause you sa? Making smalltalk with someone, asking your boss something you're afraid to ask.. stuff like that but give examples of other situations if you like.
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Yes! But it'll prove how odd I am, oh well here goes anyway... I often find myself having hypothetical conversations with people in my mind when I'm alone or in a room where other ppl are just outside the door or when I'm about to enter into an anxiety inducing situation. My mind gives me an entire scenario, usually focused around what's bothering me or as an extreme example of what I'm fearing and I find myself internally speaking back to people and often when I'm courageous or stand my ground in this internal events I feel more confident and emerge to meet the challenge all the bolder and more prepared. Sometimes it preps my mind for multi-tasking or recalling things that should be mentioned or done in such situations ahead of me. Anyone know what I mean?
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I practice what I need to say, and plan out the conversation in my head. I also like to say what the little engine that could said "I think I can, I think I can". If I'm entering a room I put my hand on the doorknob and count to three, then I open the door before I have a chance to doubt myself.
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Yes! But it'll prove how odd I am, oh well here goes anyway... I often find myself having hypothetical conversations with people in my mind when I'm alone or in a room where other ppl are just outside the door or when I'm about to enter into an anxiety inducing situation. My mind gives me an entire scenario, usually focused around what's bothering me or as an extreme example of what I'm fearing and I find myself internally speaking back to people and often when I'm courageous or stand my ground in this internal events I feel more confident and emerge to meet the challenge all the bolder and more prepared. Sometimes it preps my mind for multi-tasking or recalling things that should be mentioned or done in such situations ahead of me. Anyone know what I mean?
I do the same thing sometimes!
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Music and journaling my feelings kills my anxiety for the most part. It helps with keeping my grounded because I can have that "me" time to myself to let me process my feelings.
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I practice what I need to say, and plan out the conversation in my head. I also like to say what the little engine that could said "I think I can, I think I can". If I'm entering a room I put my hand on the doorknob and count to three, then I open the door before I have a chance to doubt myself.
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Cool! Whatever works you know? Often I have to take a moment like that too before something big and have found its better to make people wait a minute than to go right in flustered. Nice to know it's not just me never would have believed so until finding this site. Still can't believe it fully but that's one of the glitches in my brain so yea, thank you.
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Music and journaling my feelings kills my anxiety for the most part. It helps with keeping my grounded because I can have that "me" time to myself to let me process my feelings.
Yea writing it all down can really help and a lot of ppl I know use it therapeutically.
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I think to myself that I can die tomorrow and I only have one life so why shouldn't I do this for myself if I know it will make me happy in the end? I won't let my anxiety control how I want to live, and what I experience my life. I tell myself to keep trying because sometimes we think the journey is so far and we forget how close we can be when we feel like giving up. Lastly, I remind myself to accept myself, if I look anxious or foolish ..just embrace it! Laugh at myself after and not take it so seriously. I know I will fail many times why? Because I am taking risks. Failure reminds me that I tried, I am human, it is part of the process and will only teach me each time how to get back up again quicker than before.
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