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SwtSurrender 08-29-2020 03:07 AM

Complimenting people
 
I noticed I have a habit of complimenting people that they look like a famous celebrity. I don't mean to be insulting or too nice, I just have this habit for the longest time and I wonder if it is bad. I see it like an icebreaker, and I've had it done to me too and I actually enjoy it. Most of the people who complimented me looking like someone famous have been great matches, which is, I like the actresses or musicians or etc as well and slightly or fully agree that I look similar to them.

Blue Dino 08-29-2020 04:18 AM

It's a mixed bag from my personal experience. Some might like it. Some might not, as they feel like it takes away their own identity. People not seeing them for who they are. I will tread lightly with that, unless you know them well.

macky 10-12-2020 05:45 PM

I can generally agree with Blue Dino's post. With that being said, if you've been doing it for years and if in general, everyone's response is to be very flattered/ positive, then I wouldn't worry too much.

What vibe do you normally get from people when you mention their resemblance to a celebrity?

Fun Spirit 11-22-2020 10:21 AM

I think this is a bad habit. One should not look at another person and think they look like a celebrity most of the time. It can be too much. Learn to not see it. It is OK to see it once in a while but when it become so long thst is when it can become a problem.

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john.myles 11-27-2020 09:58 PM

Yeah, I agree. I wouldn't view comparing someone's looks to that of a celebrity's as a compliment. All it is really, is telling the person something kind of amusing about how they look. And they've probably heard it umpteen times. I've done it a few times as well, though.

srschirm 12-16-2020 03:17 PM

I always liked getting told I looked like some celebrity.

ramseybolt 12-18-2020 09:13 AM

External looks are temporary. It's what is inside you that makes you a better person. Internal beauty is a real beauty.

WillYouStopDave 12-18-2020 09:30 AM

I have issues with just complimenting people in general. I'm bad at it. If I really like someone I try to make them feel good however I can and it probably isn't usually nearly as well appreciated as I intended it to be. Lots of people resemble celebrities and telling someone they look like so and so isn't necessarily the most flattering thing in the world so I usually think about whether or not the celebrity they look like is someone most people would want to look like. I mean, not all celebrities are appealing.

But there are other ways to (try to) compliment people and I'm bad at those too. :lol

Like there are certain male celebrities who are just stunning to look at and I don't think it would really bother me if someone told me I looked like them. It probably wouldn't bother me much if someone told me I looked like any celebrity (I don't get "you look like so and so" much so it would be novel, I guess).

either/or 12-18-2020 03:49 PM

It depends how they take it. They may not think the celebrity you think they look like is attractive. Or maybe the celebrity is quite a bit older than they are and they take that the wrong way. I try not to compliment anyone anyway because it would probably come out wrong and they'd think I'm weird. Which I am. I just don't want them to realize that right away : p

movingbee 12-24-2020 05:24 AM

Complimenting in a relatively balanced way is a nice backbone of motivation.

pied vert 12-24-2020 07:23 AM

If it's an icebreaker, that means you don't know them too well and it's not the most sensitive thing to say to someone you don't know well? If anyone that I don't know well comments on my appearance at all, it bothers me. I don't want to walk around town and feel conscious of people deciding how I "look".
I wouldn't want to be in an ice-breaking moment with someone and even have them just tell me I'm attractive.

movingbee 12-29-2020 07:10 AM

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Originally Posted by pied vert (Post 1094052701)
If it's an icebreaker, that means you don't know them too well and it's not the most sensitive thing to say to someone you don't know well? If anyone that I don't know well comments on my appearance at all, it bothers me. I don't want to walk around town and feel conscious of people deciding how I "look".
I wouldn't want to be in an ice-breaking moment with someone and even have them just tell me I'm attractive.

Makes sense. I may feel a bit scared if someone I really dont know compliments me too much.

Jenna 01-09-2021 08:47 AM

I end up forgetting to compliment people. People do appreciate it when they get complimented, especially when it's a genuine compliment and not something fake.


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