Committing to Basic Self Care
One of the things about depression that doesn't seem to get portrayed that often is how difficult it can make it to even complete normal tasks that other people would find simple.
Cooking, cleaning, washing up dishes, tidying the house, washing my clothes, ironing my clothes, shaving, getting my haircut, washing my teeth, exercising.
As a result of this I often feel, look and worst of all smell unclean or unhealthy when I go out which of course has a negative knock on effect on my anxiety and self esteem.
If you think I should be ashamed of this, well I am, but to get a better place you have to start by being honest about where you are. I want to get better and so I am setting some specific goals;
-Get my haircut once a month. I got my haircut today and have booked in an appointment for next month so this is a good start.
-Wash my teeth twice a day.
-Shower every day. Actually I usually manage this but I do sometimes miss a day if I am really low.
-Make myself a proper dinner every evening. No binge eating chocolate and no fast food, so I wave goodbye to Ronald Mcdonald for the forseeable future.
-Exercise regularly I have a weighing scales and some new running shoes arriving tomorrow.
-Always wear clean clothes and always iron my work uniform.
-Shave regularly unless of course I decide to grow a beard for reasons other than laziness haha.
-Wash up the dishes straight after every meal. Clean the house at least a bit every day.
If you are like me and struggle with these things feel free to post in this thread and make goals of your own if you want. For me the time has come where I realise I must change for my own physical and mental health.
"The really important kind of freedom involves attention, and awareness, and discipline, and effort, and being able truly to care about other people and to sacrifice for them, over and over, in myriad petty little unsexy ways, every day. That is real freedom. The alternative is unconsciousness, the default setting, the "rat race" - the constant gnawing sense of having had and lost some infinite thing." (David Foster Wallace)
Last edited by Silent Memory; 09-04-2020 at 05:18 AM.
Reason: I put it into paragraphs to make it easier to read. Itís a good post. :) I hope you can stick to this.