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helpless 10-09-2009 03:20 PM

Took A Shower Today
 
Well, I showered today, for the first time in going into 3 weeks.

Also, used dandruff shampoo.

Will need to get a set of brushes and combs, to get all of the flakes out of my scalp, after the shampoo loosens it, & keep it up (if I can do so, as depressed as I am).

I cannot even bear to look at myself in the mirror.

I am starting to look like a hermit. And, probably smell like one too.

I'm thinking of getting a haircut and shaving (which I haven't done in probably 3 weeks) next week.

I am so depressed just thinking of putting a razor on my face, or water on my body, is repugnant.

My personal appearance has deteriorated so, I really doubt that any grooming, or new clothes will improve it.

shadowmask 10-09-2009 03:23 PM

Are you in any kind of therapy right now?

sprout 10-09-2009 05:38 PM

Congrats! You've taken the first step, which is probably the most difficult. Don't try to accomplish everything in one day; pace yourself, maybe one task a day. You can do it.

vak3 10-10-2009 02:24 PM

I know what you mean. I just did a similar thing a couple days ago. And I'm getting a hair cut on Tuesday. Granted its not that big a deal if I dont get a hair cut (being a girl and all), but shorter hair is easier to not take care of, if you know what I mean. I got all clean and then a few days later I decided I had to do it again, even though I didn't want to. I made a rule for myself that I have to do it at least once a week. Preferably twice. And just stay in there. It does feel nice once you can motivate yourself to get in. Just keep pushing. I know sort of what you are dealing with

britisharrow 10-10-2009 06:12 PM

I have been through this, my thinking was "when I did wash and groom myself people didn't like me so what's the point." Try and think of it this way, "not washing or looking after myself certainly isn't helping matters."

You owe self-respect to yourself, not to others, try and do it even though it can seem pointless.

millenniumman75 10-11-2009 04:31 PM

Do what you can and don't beat yourself for anything that you can't do right away. It will get easier the more you try :).

millenniumman75 10-12-2009 08:10 PM

Just use an absorbent bathmat. :)

Neptunus 10-12-2009 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by helpless (Post 1089460)
Well, I took another shower today, and used dandruff shampoo.

I also shaved off my hermit like beard.

tomorrow, I'm planning to go to the barber, and get this Howard Huges hermit like hairstyle shortened.

Sad to say, I'm inhibited & reluctant to use the shower, because I am paranoid, about moisture from it rotting the floorboards, since I am in an apartment on a floor above my neighbors.

That possibility is terrifying to me.

Keep up the good work! You can do it!!! :yes

John_in_SF 10-12-2009 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by helpless (Post 1089460)
Well, I took another shower today, and used dandruff shampoo.

I also shaved off my hermit like beard.

tomorrow, I'm planning to go to the barber, and get this Howard Huges hermit like hairstyle shortened.

Sad to say, I'm inhibited & reluctant to use the shower, because I am paranoid, about moisture from it rotting the floorboards, since I am in an apartment on a floor above my neighbors.

That possibility is terrifying to me.

Cheers! And here's to finding your very own Melvin. And, by the way, you really ought, as a multi-billionaire, learn to SPELL YOUR NAME PROPERLY.

Delicate 10-12-2009 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by helpless (Post 1085960)
I am so depressed just thinking of putting a razor on my face, or water on my body, is repugnant.

I think I know how you feel, for me it's when everyday things that should be the norm get related so intensely in my mind to other negative associations that it feels healthier to become sort of comatose. The last few days I felt sick to my stomach at having anything touch me. I guess that vanity sort of pulls me out of it but I understand when it's not that simple.

Neptunus 10-14-2009 08:20 PM

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Originally Posted by helpless (Post 1092174)
Well, Folks, I went to the barber today, and got my hermit looking hair cut to a much shorter hairstyle.

Barber told me on the dandruff problem not to rub the dandruff shampoo into the scalp too hard, but just gently rub it it.

Said my scalp was very dry, and all that rubbing would only lead to more flaking.

Anyone think I should be using a scalp moisturizer?

That's great! :)

You know what's a great dandruff shampoo? T-gel by Neutrogena! It's much better than Head and Shoulders and Tegrin. It's kind of pricey, and smells like crap, but it works! Maybe you should give it a try.

http://www.amazon.com/Neutrogena-T-G.../dp/B000052XZP

http://www.amazon.com/Neutrogena-T-G...owViewpoints=1

secretlyshecries 10-18-2009 08:57 AM

When I get really depressed, I can't not wash my hair because it gets too gross if I don't and that just makes me feel worse. :|

Neptunus 10-18-2009 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by helpless (Post 1093611)
Phoebus, I'll have to check & see what the name of the dandruff shampoo I'm using is. Can't remember now.

One that I use is Selsun Blue, altho that's obviously not the one I can't remember the name of.

Yeh, the "T" in "T-gel" stands for tar... as in that's what it's derived from. Not to worry, though, it doesn't coat your scalp like tar! It's like dandruff shampoo on steroids and used to be prescription only. Sometimes you can get rid of your dandruff with just one application, and it's no more harsh on your hair than other, regular, dandruff shampoos. A friend introduced me to it... and as you can guess, I think it's great, because none of the other shampoos worked for me!

wxolue 10-22-2009 09:42 PM

When I go for a while without taking a shower my hair ends up the same way. Flakey and disgusting. Keep doing it every day for at least 5 days and you will start to see the flakes go away, if not vanish all together. Taking 1 shower after 3 weeks of nothing will not turn you into a super model. You have to work on it for at least a week before it starts turning around. Keep at it. Shave every day if you can. Use acne cream if you have acne (not sure how old you are). Staying well groomed can really boost your confidence.

millenniumman75 10-23-2009 04:10 PM

Keep trying. It is hard to develop a habit - most of the time, we want to get away from one.

Neptunus 10-23-2009 05:29 PM

Little by little... :) :squeeze

millenniumman75 10-25-2009 05:18 PM

Good goal to make :).
Are you able to use moisturizer?

helpless 10-27-2009 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by helpless (Post 1106614)
Well, I showered again yesterday, but didn't use shampoo. I've got to shave again, so maybe I'll shave, shower & shampoo today or tomorrow.

Thanks for the reply, millenniumman.

As far as I know, there's no reason I can't use a moisturizer.

Do you mean one that would be combined with a shampoo, or one that would be applied seperately?

Can we mention brand names on this board?

I would like to know specifically which moisturizers might be beneficial to me.

Keith 10-27-2009 04:40 PM

Good job so far, keep trying :) It can be tough to get motivated It'll get easier though.

helpless 10-27-2009 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Keith (Post 1109461)
Good job so far, keep trying :) It can be tough to get motivated It'll get easier though.

Thanks for the supportive words, Keith.

Still haven't shaved off the 2 weeks of beard, but will probably do so soon, since I need an ID photo.


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