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Should I compliment my colleague's hair?


I want to lift her mood a bit.

She has body issues and tons of anxiety. But I don't want to make her uncomfortable. She has trouble accepting compliments and praise because low self esteem, and perfectionism.

I would love to receive compliments myself. And she actually HAS complimented my jewelry and clothing a few times... So I should be OK to do it right?
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Be a little bit careful. But should be fine, depends how its delivered and context, and whether it's extremely unusual for you. Women I have complimented always give me a little look for a long time afterwards. They remember it I suspect. They were random ppl I didn't know, however.

Safer compliments are those further away from body.

traits (intelligence, creativity) -> clothing -> body

Probably fine though. Better if you can make it flow better, say, asking where she gets her hair done because you like it and are looking for someone to cut yours, or something.

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Thanks Bob


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My plan was to use words that aren't easily misconstrued as sexual implications and Yada Yada
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Update :

She said "thank you, how nice of you"
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This thread can be about your attempts to lift her mood.
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This thread can be about your attempts to lift her mood.
It's funny because I could definitely post about that pretty often lmao
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It's funny because I could definitely post about that pretty often lmao
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Be a little bit careful. But should be fine, depends how its delivered and context, and whether it's extremely unusual for you. Women I have complimented always give me a little look for a long time afterwards. They remember it I suspect. They were random ppl I didn't know, however.

Safer compliments are those further away from body.

traits (intelligence, creativity) -> clothing -> body

Probably fine though. Better if you can make it flow better, say, asking where she gets her hair done because you like it and are looking for someone to cut yours, or something.
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My plan was to use words that aren't easily misconstrued as sexual implications and Yada Yada


....unless you trigger her secret hair fetish. She could be "into extensions" that you don't know about.

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