How are things going?
Sibling is likely still alive as they do not live alone.
but have not contacted any family members since i made this thread.
1. Self care. Is there anyone you can talk to about this? A therapist/friend/etc. You might not feel that there is anything to talk about, in which case it's useful to seriously ask yourself some questions and give thoughtful answers: how did this make you feel? what are your greatest fears? what is within your power to do?. If you can't afford a therapist and don't have a friend, asking someone on SAS to lend you an ear and ask you some of these questions could be a good idea. It's not so you get *answers*, but just so you have a chance to process what happened and your own feelings about it. Alternatively, you could write, either as stream of consciousness or by posing questions to yourself.
this is excellent advice, i will save it on my puter.
well i vented to a coworker (someone who's "been there, done that.")
and i made this thread
2. Your sibling. When you feel you can, see your sibling. Is s/he hospitalised? Dropping by doesn't mean that you have to talk about what happened or to talk at all. Bring something s/he likes or just a flower, if you want. Personally, I would not ask or say anything about the suicide attempt because s/he is dealing with a lot of emotional heaviness as is.
i will try to be more available for them. thanks for explaining what i should do.
EDIT: forgot to answer - they are not hospitalised.
You can't stop someone who wants to die from dying. It's not your decision and not your responsibility.
mm. i'm okay with that. i'm pro-euthanasia. obviously if it happens i will be forever changed, but that emotional response is not a reason to try and force another person to stay alive for my sake.
i'd be happier knowing they aren't in pain anymore.
that said, i'm not going to "sit idly by" so to speak.
The best thing you can do is be present for this person. A text or a call every so often could be helpful. Hopefully, it makes the person feel less alone and they might turn to you if they need to talk. However, they might not - matters of life and death can be intensely personal. You cannot save someone unless they want you to.
i think i'm being present, but i will watch myself. we text each other every other day or so.
i will exert myself to be more supportive.
i appreciate your input very much.