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Love-shyness syndrome

So I just came across this on wiki, and it would appear that i have yet another disorder to add to the list;


"Love shyness is a phrase created by psychologist Brian G. Gilmartin to describe a specific type of severe chronic shyness. According to his definition, published in Shyness & Love: Causes, Consequences, and Treatments (1987), love-shy people find it difficult if not impossible to be assertive in informal situations involving potential romantic or sexual partners. For example, a heterosexual love-shy male will have trouble initiating conversations with women because of strong feelings of anxiety.
In his book, Gilmartin estimates that love-shyness afflicts approximately 1.5% of American males and will prevent about 1.7 million U.S. males from ever marrying or experiencing intimate sexual contact with women."

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I'd argue love-shyness is more so a circumstance that comes about from male SAD rather than an illness in itself.
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I'd argue love-shyness is more so a circumstance that comes about from male SAD rather than an illness in itself.
This is definitely a side effect of guys having SA, as DRealm has pointed out. It's anxiety that keeps us from getting anywhere. I can speak through experience, as I am beginning to figure this out, that once we work through SA issues, the more comfortable we are, and more willing to take ANY initiative we face.

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