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No, the anxiety is always there for me. It would be diminished, but not gone.
So how do you personally diminish it? If it can be diminished, don't you think it can be....diminished even more?
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So how do you personally diminish it? If it can be diminished, don't you think it can be....diminished even more?
The only way to reliably diminish anxiety imo is by exposure. Exposure does two things:

1. Reduces anxiety
2. Improves your capacity to tolerate anxiety

1 unfortunately doesn't seem to last, comes back if you stop. Searching for something to flip it off is a waste of time imo, better to accept the anxiety will always be there and work around it / learn to tolerate it.

Haven't quite managed that yet myself. tho.
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The only way to reliably diminish anxiety imo is by exposure. Exposure does two things:

1. Reduces anxiety
2. Improves your capacity to tolerate anxiety

1 unfortunately doesn't seem to last, comes back if you stop. Searching for something to flip it off is a waste of time imo, better to accept the anxiety will always be there and work around it / learn to tolerate it.

Haven't quite managed that yet myself. tho.
Yeah I've noticed that same thing with point 1. It's so frustrating because you have to incrementally do that, theory wise. But that's impossible because that's not the way life works. There are going to be some days where socializing is not possible because all your friends are busy. And even two days of no socializing is going to take all your progress back to square one.

But in this thread, I'm talking about a temporary disconnect from anxiety. Where a strong surge of adrenaline (caused by anger and willpower) can overpower the anxiety and make you feel like superman for a short period of time.
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Look it up?! There's too much of that going on around here. Enough. Blonde bombshells swallowing Nembutal. The Pope and his commitment to shuffling priests from city to city. Gracious hostesses dishing out deviled eggs until Midnight. My tenure as a lawyer cut short by allegations of witness tampering. Vicious cycles leading to a psychological dependence on all brands of benzodiazepines, and nonbenzodiazepines. My time as a cenobite interrupted by past memories of being human. My neighbors watching and waiting for my eventual death. Their winning taken as a sign that I'm in the belly of the beast now and forever. In death, there will be no escape.
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But shyness is different from social anxiety. Ok you probably already know that. You might be the only guy on this site who has had lots of girlfriends and been married XD
I actually have to go pick my new gf up from work at 8:00. I guess she is living with me now, not sure exactly if that is best for her, also not sure how it will work out but whatever, I will take care of her.

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I actually have to go pick my new gf up from work at 8:00. I guess she is living with me now, not sure exactly if that is best for her, also not sure how it will work out but whatever, I will take care of her.
Why do you think its not best for her? Don't have doubt, just let things naturally flow. Otherwise that insecurity might hamper the relationship.
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