This is great news. They say that simple talking helps a lot so hopefully both of you can feel able to confide in things. They say that just knowing that it's "not just you" is a help too.
As for the friend thing, I suppose just keep talking to the person. I wouldn't ask direct "are we friends" just because that's just a slightly odd thing to ask. It's kind of an unasked question. Just keep the positive interactions going and maybe some time ahead you could say something like want to meet up for a coffee\meal\drink after work one day or weekend etc. I'm glad that this is something that's made you feel better.
Thanks for the advice.
they was helping me with a specific situation that we're both dealing with and it was incredibly helpful to be able to talk to someone IRL in such a similar situation, but i regret that i couldn't show my gratitude enough (emotional suppression from SA).
and to be honest i wanted the talk to be more visibly emotional but we were both trying to contain ourselves heh.
I have been going thru so many emotions after work today. I have never felt something like this before. it is joyous and terrible and beautiful.
My paranoia keeps me from completely trusting them, but if they aren't genuine, they sure is an incredible actor
I really want to believe this person is not one of those manipulators.
,,, I am way more than slightly
odd so that isn't an argument that can be used against me. But i know what you mean
i'll just try and chill... or something... i just feel weird anyway since CoworkerPerson has
friends AND lovelife and whatnot while i have none of those things; i feel quite inferior.
There's someone at my work who deffo suffers a lot of issues. I half suspect she has BPD either bipolar or borderline. but she's not very approachable even though in the past she did tell me something of her problems and then start crying. I tried to advise her. But most of the time she's silent, distant, rude or whatever. I don't think she's really liked very much and she's always making excuses not to come to work. I think that because she has these issues which are mentally hers, I think because of the anguish she's going through that this " justifies" her not-niceness to everyone else as if it's like " I hate the world. It's the worlds fault I feel crap". I think that might be what's going on and why she's horrible. Then 1% of the time she's actually laughey or friendly? Ugh. I hate that because I'm always the same. I don't ever blow hot and cold like that with anyone.
this is very unfortunate actually. i had a similar colleague briefly. I can sympathise with hating the world, VERY MUCH SO. but i try to be as nice as possible.... because it's nice to be nice. just be nice, for real.
one can choose to keep to oneself and not interact much - but to be rude or obnoxious or toxic in some way doesn't help either party.