Originally Posted by Christopher23kit
It is hard to explain, I don't feel the need to have sex. I am attracted to women, but I don't feel the urge to have sex.
If I talk about sex, I feel uncomfortable, and it is strange.
Is this normal?
Same here. I do kinda look at woman and can be aesthetically attracted to them (very rarely) but I really don't seem to be interested is any sort of sexual interaction with them at all. So I have thought I might be asexual or at least on the spectrum of it. Maybe see if I met the right woman then maybe I'd feel properly sexual towards her but then again I might not. I do like the idea.of having a female romantic partner . You know, some woman who looks aesthetically attractive for me to go about and be seen with. Someone to hug or be close to and do stuff with. Im just not sure about any direct sexual stuff.
Some asexual people get right annoyed when you say to them "oh. You've just not met the right person yet." And they get all annoyed because they know there's no right person for them that'll convert them into being sexual.
For me " you've just not met the person yet" I don't get annoyed because there's a part of me that thinks maybe it's right for me.
I never really had any real interest in chasing anyone for sex. There's no way a one night stand will.ever happen to me. I'll never see anyone im attracted to anyway and Any one who tries to come onto me if they did try, I'd probably not reciprocate it. And you also don't see much point in trying dating much. So they like you at first then they find out you're not sexual and then they probably run away? Unless.the other person is asexual.
But if it is asexuality, i hate it. I think it's the worst orientation you could get.
It instantly removes you from 99% of any dating pool because any sexual person is going to see your lack of interest as a deal breaker. It's a great orientation to help ensure you are alone forever.
And it's not something I can help or fix anymore than a homosexual person can fix that if they aren't comfortable being homosexual. So in some way I feel.a bit broken, even tho people say asexuals aren't broken. But it's how I personally feel. It's frustrating that you dont feel.sexual towards other people because you think you should, but you're not frustrated at not actually doing it. It's annoying that the switch that everyone else has you seen to be missing.
And at least gay or bi etc etc, you STILL are sexual and can find a partner. I'd say gay,bi etc is vastly preferable to assxual. What the hell does an.asexual do? Find another asexual? And that's a needle in a huge haystack.
The only good thing about asexuality is that it doesn't really bother you if you're single a lot. You don't get physically sexually frustrated and you don't do stupid risky behaviours in pursuit of getting to rub your genitals on another person's genitals for 7 minutes.
Do you masturbate tho? Altho that has not much to do with asexuality either. It's still a sexual behaviour tho and some asexuals do and some don't.