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Does it take you long to do everything?


Every simple daily takes too much time and if i try and Hurry i feel rushed and tired.
Things that should only take 10 to 15 minutes become hours.
Do you take a long time to do things? Is this normal with social anxiety?
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Sounds more like OCD to me, but they often present together.
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my friend is like that. anxiety + she is an incredibly unpractical and unfocused person.

"hey let's go to X"
"sure thing"
2 or 3 hours later... still not ready. drives me insane.

it's just too long to wait for everything. unprepared for everything. disaster.

she doesn't have social anxiety, more general anxiety, worrying about things, doesnt think straight, cant focus.

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Yeah it seems to take me way longer to do things than most people. I think it's because my brain is slow and I lack motivation to do stuff.
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Yes but I also suffer from moderate OCD so that doesn't help.
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quit, giv up fiddly tasks.. a rest.. do l8r or next day
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Yes, but due to lack of motivation.
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Kinda depends on what it is. If it's a task that only works if you do it the right way (there's only one possible right way to do it) then I can do it pretty quickly if I know how (which doesn't mean I always do know how).

If it's something that has many possible paths to completion, I will often get mired in the labyrinth of possibilities. Following them all to completion in my head is too complicated so I just pick a random one and it ends up being the longest path to satisfaction.
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I take a really long time to do everything but i also have other major issues so idk if it's socialy anxiety that plays a part in it.
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Every simple daily takes too much time and if i try and Hurry i feel rushed and tired.
Things that should only take 10 to 15 minutes become hours.
Do you take a long time to do things? Is this normal with social anxiety?
I didn't know it had to do with social anxiety.. I feel exactly the same. If I do two or three tasks in a day I feel exhausted, like i dont have enough energy... My parents are 60yrs old and can do 10 things in a day and still dont feel tired. Maybe it has to do with vitamin D that someone mentioned in a post here, that helped him with social anxiety too. Tiredness is one of the symptoms of low vitamin D
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it takes me a long time to apply for jobs. like a year ago I wanted to get a new job. a year later... I've not even updated my resume.

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This happens because I get bored easily and procrastinate. A simple task like washing dishes should take 20 minutes but I'll drag it out to a few days because I keep getting this uncomfortable feeling of 'can't be stuffed'. I'll end up washing all the cutlery and leave the plates and cups for the next day. Unless I make a list of things to do I won't end up doing anything or will start something but give up when I'm about 5% completed.
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I've always had a problem with this. I'm very slow at everything. Very slow reader, very slow worker. I got in trouble all the time at work, couldn't get all my schoolwork done on time, even though I would spend a lot of time working on it, etc. I'm honestly not really sure what it is, though it might be my OCD. It's like my brain operates on a different kind of timescale. Weeks can go by and it will only feel like a couple of days to me. Multiple people have compared me to a turtle. My ex referred to the way I respond to things as "glacial". I wish I was one of those people who could just whip through things.

Is it just me or is it getting crazier out there.
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I always feel rushed and I am exhausted very quickly!

I can imagine that the exhaustion comes from what I often experience as a sensory overload or maybe from adrenal fatigue!

But I do everything rather quickly!
I guess, that is my way of dealing with the constant flight response.

I can't even walk slowly! I was told, I walk like a soldier. I always feel, other people around me are real slowcoaches!

When it comes to making life plans, I do need some time, though!
From an idea, to dealing with the new subject, doing research, to reconciling with that idea and finally plucking up my courage to go ahead with it. It can take weeks, months or even years!
A bit annoying!

But then it feels OK and I'm in control.
If for some reason I can't take my time, I feel completely overwhelmed and drained.
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Certain antidepressants made me very slow at one point because I kept getting complaints from my family on how it was starting to take me very long to do everything.

Even when I haven't been on them, my SA has made me feel like I react much more slowly than other people. Or perhaps it could be that I just get overly self-conscious of taking even just a few seconds or a minute longer to react. I worry that I don't verbally or physically respond as fast as others, and that it makes me look stupid.

It also makes me amazed how people with no SAD can react so fast at everything, like naturally knowing when to get a word in when they are in a group conversation. Me and the friends I was around in my last year of high school were all big chatterboxes with eachother, but because of that I felt I could never get in a word edgewise without accidentally interrupting someone. I always wonder how others are so good at saying something in mere seconds after someone else is done talking. The moment I think of what to say, another person is the group is already talking.



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