Been depressed lately. - Social Anxiety Forum
 
Thread Tools
post #1 of 5 (permalink) Old 08-03-2019, 06:46 PM Thread Starter
SAS Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Age: 31
Posts: 914

Been depressed lately.


I've been depressed and lonely lately. Just think been thinking about the fact that I used to have friends that I would hang out with, but after the link/or place that held the group together was gone and we stopped hanging out. They pretty much forgot about me and don't talk to me anymore. This has happened multiple times over the years and it never changes. Nowadays most of the people from the groups I used to hang with are already married and I'm still alone and don't have friends. Honestly I think it's going to be the same way with the church group I hang out with now. I can already see signs of it happening. They already don't talk to unless it's inside the church group other than that, silence.

I've also been dealing depression and loneliness off and on for about 13 years now probably even longer. But I tried going to a bunch of different psychologists and tried different depression meds but nothings really helped at all. I still have my times where the depression isn't as intense as other times, sometimes to point where it doesn't feel like it's effecting me, but still enough that it's draining of my energy on top of being a introvert. Either way I've tried a lot of different things and nothing really has been helping.

So it's basically the usual worrying about being alone forever and never getting married, or apparently having any friends. I'm defiantly a introvert and love my alone time but I need people in my life too, but at the same time people can be annoying to deal with. Not really sure what to do.
freakingout is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #2 of 5 (permalink) Old 08-03-2019, 06:50 PM
monk
 
andy1984's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: chch
Language: english, silence
Gender: Non-binary
Age: 35
Posts: 6,745
My Mood: Amazed
sorry to hear you're a bit down. life can be pretty tough sometimes

"I take what is mine. I pay the iron price."
―Balon Greyjoy
andy1984 is online now  
post #3 of 5 (permalink) Old 08-04-2019, 10:14 AM Thread Starter
SAS Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2010
Gender: Male
Age: 31
Posts: 914
And another couple of old friends that's totally forgot about me just got engaged...
freakingout is offline  
 
post #4 of 5 (permalink) Old 08-17-2019, 01:48 AM
SAS Member
 
Gorgoroth9's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2016
Posts: 175
I stayed single by sheer force of my mediocre looks, personality, and overwhelming shyness for nearly 30 years. I've been in a relationship for about 3-years and I'm already feeling depressed again. I don't know what to tell you, but that my peer groups have always been as rickety as the ones you've just described. I don't think most social groups are meant to last. They seem to deteriorate, and not necessarily for bad reasons. People move away, change jobs, get engaged, and variables just change. Don't take it personally, and do what anybody does who wants to meet new people and get out there however inevitably awkward that process is always bound to be. Good luck. Life sucks, but I dunno- just keep plugging along and you'll be dead soon. Hooray!
Gorgoroth9 is offline  
post #5 of 5 (permalink) Old 08-17-2019, 11:44 PM
SAS Member
 
mrpaperheart's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2019
Gender: Male
Age: 19
Posts: 46
My Mood: Lonely
I feel like this is a common thing. I feel like we live in a day and age where it's hard to really find people to truly bond with, whether you have social anxiety or not. SA kind of makes things even more complicated. Like you long for friends, yet there is this huge fear. I, too, feel alone, especially when I'm at church. There's like this strange sense of sadness. I probably say this a lot, but you're not alone here. I often read other people's thoughts, and I can relate to them. It's so easy to compare yourself to others too. I hope that you feel better soon.
mrpaperheart is offline  
Reply

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome