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What is your opinion on 'escorts'


I was just wondering, what are people's opinion regarding this subject. I have viewed this option as sad and a sign of failure. I have never wanted my first time to be like this. But as time goes on... sexual intercourse is simply not happening...

I want my first time to be special, with someone who want's me. I always hoped that one day I would meet that special girl. But it never happened.

I have already described how I feel in other threads. This option is not the success that I am looking for, but maybe it's time to throw away my dreams and except that if I ever want to experience any kind of sex... this is the only way.

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It doesn't sound like you're fully committed to this idea so you should probably leave it a bit longer.

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It doesn't sound like you're fully committed to this idea so you should probably leave it a bit longer.
I'm not fully committed that's true, I don't really want it to be this way. I don't know what to do.

I'm so frustrated and lonely and upset. I can't stop thinking about all this...

I guess I have that kind of personality. I obsess over things.
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I had one for 10 years. Reliable, served me well... but, very unattractive. And the seats were a bit cramped, so wouldn't be good for sex. Better than a prostitute though, because there's very little chance of disease and it's a lot cheaper per hour and less lonely than a stranger.

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I'm not fully committed that's true, I don't really want it to be this way. I don't know what to do.

I'm so frustrated and lonely and upset. I can't stop thinking about all this...

I guess I have that kind of personality. I obsess over things.
I wouldn't do something just because you think you don't have time left, or you've come up with a deadline, you can get an escort at any age so there isn't really a rush. But if you just want to have sex badly I guess it could work, but yeah it's up to you. I'm not sure what you've tried so far to get into a relationship either.

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It's difficult to comment on this as I believe the laws differ so widely from country to country. In the U.S as I understand it that stuff is outlawed which is a big problem because as is the case with drugs also, outlawing it tends to make matters worse for everyone involved.

As for your situation specifically, there's absolutely no shame whatsoever in doing things that way. These women are highly experienced and have dealt with a lot and spoken to people from many walks of life, and that includes many virgins. Here in Australia everything is legalised so there are actual venues where women work where they operate under tight regulations and overall it's safer and better for everyone involved. The women are treated so much better and are protected too. They also earn better money than doctors and lawyers, so people should think twice before they try to look down on them.

Anyway, you should give it some more thought before you commit. But I would also say that people build virginity up in their minds like it's some big thing. Society is more likely to have conditioned you into seeing it that way. In reality, your first time is never good. It takes time to know yourself and to get used of being that physically intimate with other humans.

Don't spend your life blowing virginity out of proportion. You may not know what you're missing out on. If you do decide to do something however then please do it the right way and keep safe. Especially in good ol' US of A.

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It's difficult to comment on this as I believe the laws differ so widely from country to country. In the U.S as I understand it that stuff is outlawed which is a big problem because as is the case with drugs also, outlawing it tends to make matters worse for everyone involved.

As for your situation specifically, there's absolutely no shame whatsoever in doing things that way. These women are highly experienced and have dealt with a lot and spoken to people from many walks of life, and that includes many virgins. Here in Australia everything is legalised so there are actual venues where women work where they operate under tight regulations and overall it's safer and better for everyone involved. The women are treated so much better and are protected too. They also earn better money than doctors and lawyers, so people should think twice before they try to look down on them.

Anyway, you should give it some more thought before you commit. But I would also say that people build virginity up in their minds like it's some big thing. Society is more likely to have conditioned you into seeing it that way. In reality, your first time is never good. It takes time to know yourself and to get used of being that physically intimate with other humans.

Don't spend your life blowing virginity out of proportion. You may not know what you're missing out on. If you do decide to do something however then please do it the right way and keep safe. Especially in good ol' US of A.
Well, I live in the UK, England, and from what I can gather. Prostitution itself (exchanging money for sex) is legal if you are 18+. But brothels, street walking, soliciting in public etc is illegal.

I have built it up in my mind, I've become obsessed and I can't stop. I feel very left out, like everyone else is 'in on' something that I'm not.

I think the media is possibly part of the problem. Sex is glorified and in your face constantly. My friend, my only friend, is in a relationship now. We used to be in the same boat, but now I feel very alone. That really affected me badly.

I feel like paying for it would be a kind of 'defeat' a failure. Like it dose not really 'count'. I think it goes deeper that simply wanting to experience the physical act, that's part of it. And an escort could help with that part. But in my mind, I may have attached success with women with my self-worth as a man. An escort can't help with that, it might ever make it worse.
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What city do you live in?

Ive seen a few in my day. It can be really fun and a good time. You also have to be careful because some will try to rip you off after you pay them and not do what you want. Just be sure to wear a condom which they will require you to do anyway Also make sure its actually a woman. Some transsexuals like to work as escorts and not tell you they were born a guy. You don't want that situation I would assume.

With those warning in mind yes give it a try. You can get some really hot women and it will give you some experience sexually pleasuring a woman. You have to start somewhere and it should give you some confidence with women going forward.
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You're replacing one problem with another.


If you meet a future girlfriend or wife, you will have to lie to her. No woman wants to hear that her partner used prostitutes.


Also... hundreds or thousands of men may have visited your escort. It's just nasty.
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Way too young. Don't become a "John".
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You're replacing one problem with another.


If you meet a future girlfriend or wife, you will have to lie to her. No woman wants to hear that her partner used prostitutes.


Also... hundreds or thousands of men may have visited your escort. It's just nasty.
What is a "John". It may well replace one problem with another. But the thing is, I'm feeling so miserable and something needs to change.

I may not ever have a girlfriend. Even If I do, it probably will not be anytime soon. I've spent years on dating apps and I have not had a single date. Girls rearly ever talk to me. How long am I supposed to wait for something that may never happen? Getting a girlfriend seems nearly impossible.

Whether it is nastly or not is personal opinion.

Again, I don't want my first time to be like this. I want to meet a girl who want's me. But I just don't know whether their is any point in clinging to this dream anymore.

I can't live a life of involuntary celibacy, I just can't. And as for a potential future partner not liking it, she does not necessarily have to know. I hate lying, but I have to put my interests first. Being 100% moral all of the time has gained me nothing.
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I suggest trying to improve yourself and make yourself attractive so women will want to have sex with you without being paid for it. Work out, work hard at your career, dress well, groom yourself, move out if you're still living with your parents, develop hobbies and interests, network, and be a good person. Be self-assured and see value in yourself.

If you insist on seeing a prostitute, then please do your due diligence that she isn't a human trafficking victim and forced into it against her will.
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I suggest trying to improve yourself and make yourself attractive so women will want to have sex with you without being paid for it. Work out, work hard at your career, dress well, groom yourself, move out if you're still living with your parents, develop hobbies and interests, network, and be a good person. Be self-assured and see value in yourself.

If you insist on seeing a prostitute, then please do your due diligence that she isn't a human trafficking victim and forced into it against her will.
I completely understand your point about self improvement, but it's easier said than done. Gym memberships are expensive for me. And I don't have the money to move out of my parents house. I'm basically a loser. I have zero motivation. And all of this self improvement takes time, I can't wait anymore. I'm loosing my mind.

If I decide to see a prostitute, I will be careful. There is a website. There is someone who lives local who has a lot of positive reviews and sounds very legit. She gets tested regular and is willing to show the evidence. And she is extremely attractive.
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I completely understand your point about self improvement, but it's easier said than done. Gym memberships are expensive for me. And I don't have the money to move out of my parents house. I'm basically a loser. I have zero motivation. And all of this self improvement takes time, I can't wait anymore. I'm loosing my mind.

If I decide to see a prostitute, I will be careful. There is a website. There is someone who lives local who has a lot of positive reviews and sounds very legit. She gets tested regular and is willing to show the evidence. And she is extremely attractive.
I don't care about you protecting yourself. I care about the women you see who may be exploited. How are you making sure she isn't someone being forced into the sex trade?
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