Originally Posted by Post_Punk_Proclivity
It's difficult to comment on this as I believe the laws differ so widely from country to country. In the U.S as I understand it that stuff is outlawed which is a big problem because as is the case with drugs also, outlawing it tends to make matters worse for everyone involved.
As for your situation specifically, there's absolutely no shame whatsoever in doing things that way. These women are highly experienced and have dealt with a lot and spoken to people from many walks of life, and that includes many virgins. Here in Australia everything is legalised so there are actual venues where women work where they operate under tight regulations and overall it's safer and better for everyone involved. The women are treated so much better and are protected too. They also earn better money than doctors and lawyers, so people should think twice before they try to look down on them.
Anyway, you should give it some more thought before you commit. But I would also say that people build virginity up in their minds like it's some big thing. Society is more likely to have conditioned you into seeing it that way. In reality, your first time is never good. It takes time to know yourself and to get used of being that physically intimate with other humans.
Don't spend your life blowing virginity out of proportion. You may not know what you're missing out on. If you do decide to do something however then please do it the right way and keep safe. Especially in good ol' US of A.
Well, I live in the UK, England, and from what I can gather. Prostitution itself (exchanging money for sex) is legal if you are 18+. But brothels, street walking, soliciting in public etc is illegal.
I have built it up in my mind, I've become obsessed and I can't stop. I feel very left out, like everyone else is 'in on' something that I'm not.
I think the media is possibly part of the problem. Sex is glorified and in your face constantly. My friend, my only friend, is in a relationship now. We used to be in the same boat, but now I feel very alone. That really affected me badly.
I feel like paying for it would be a kind of 'defeat' a failure. Like it dose not really 'count'. I think it goes deeper that simply wanting to experience the physical act, that's part of it. And an escort could help with that part. But in my mind, I may have attached success with women with my self-worth as a man. An escort can't help with that, it might ever make it worse.