It is unrealistic to think men should be wearing condoms in LONG term relationships, especially it she's on the pill. I know know....I can hear it now,
"Well you shouldn't be with that person if you don't trust them". With divorce rates being nearly 60% "trust" isn't something you can put much faith in. Sadly.
Being in a long term committed relationship makes no difference as to who is more responsible for birth control. And you only add more validity to my original point with the "trust" argument. If a man doesn't want to have children, then the man must also bear responsibility for birth control. It goes the same if a woman doesn't want to have a child.
Listen I am not attacking women, but I do hold them to a higher accountability to prevent unwanted pregnancies. There is literally NO reason for an unwanted pregnancy when its margin of error is less then 1%. If guys had Shots and pills then I would COMPLETELY agree with you, but we don't. I am in fact jealous there isn't many opportunities for men to have complete control over their fertility.
I don't think you really understand how the pill works. The pill's margin of error is less than 1% when used properly
. That means you have to take it at the same exact time everyday
, without taking any other medications at all
, and they have to fall within a certain weight range. (I'm tall and the pill is made for women who simply weigh less than I do, even if I were very thin.) And these are only three of the factors in which the pill's effectiveness is reduced. There are probably more, but I'd have to look them up. It just makes sense to still
use a condom even when a woman is on the pill. It's safer.
Furthermore, the pill also messes with a woman biologically and hormonally, so not all women are able to use the pill. It has some health benefits (like reducing the risk of heart attacks in menopausal women), but it also has health risks. Women who have a history of breast cancer in their family shouldn't take the pill because it can increase the risk of getting breast cancer. (And I'm not sure how it effects those with a risk for ovarian or other types of cancer. I know about breast cancer b/c it runs in my family.)
Both the pill and Depo-Provera manipulate a woman's hormones in order to work effectively. Both require a prescription and oftentimes aren't covered by a woman's health insurance plan (unlike Viagra, which is almost always covered. Go figure.) Having her tubes tied or a hysterectomy can cause even more health problems. In terms of surgical procedures, vasectomies are much safer. Many are done as out-patient surgery and don't mess with a man's hormones.
The easiest to obtain and least harmful to a person's health method of birth control is to use a condom + spermacide. Both men and women can buy condoms and keep them on hand.
And any guy who says, "Oh, well she said she was on the pill so I didn't need to use a condom" is just a guy who didn't want to use a condom.
And, it still
takes two to tango.
If you actually asked a question about so-called "male abortion" I must have missed it. I think anyone with half a brain knows it's just a man's way of shirking responsibility after making the decision to have sex. It's in no way related to actual abortion. Actual abortion rights are based on the right of a woman to not be enslaved and not have rights over her own person. It's not about the right to use abortion as a method of birth control.
Call my post sexist if you will.....I am just stating facts and statistics. They don't lie....
You actually haven't stated any facts or statistics - just a bunch of poorly informed opinions. And, anyway, you know the saying: "There are three types of lies: lies, damned lies, and statistics."
Have a nice day,