There is still countries where wifes cannot be raped inside a marriage in the laws eyes. I would rather say these same people who does not see the problems with raping women don't see problems with raping men either. Also men are raping men althought this thread is about women raping men.
I think most men understand rape not untill they are victims of rape personally. According to empathy studies men has no good skills to place themselves into other peoples boots so many see raping only as fantasy of a 15 years old school boy. When they ignore the most important factor: In fantasy it is wanted and not real. Rape means he (or she) did not wanted it happend. This is also hard to understand for some women and raping fantasies are kind of tabu. People don't dream about cuts, bleeding, bruises an dry mucosas with teared anus or vagina. They dream about incredible amount of sexual want toward themselves which makes them feel sexy and forget their inhibitions. This is common mistake in thoughts what comes to rape. When it is wanted it is called (bdsm-) sex. When it is not wanted it is called rape. It should be simple to understand.
You make some good points here. There is no such thing as a rape fantasy...so there should be nothing ashamed to feel about your fantasy sexual situations. If you are fantasizing about a type of sexual situation, then that means you want it...hence the fantasy is not rape...so...nothing to be conflicted about.
As for the men being raped by other men thing....there is a reason why this is not the topic of the thread.
We are complaining about how the concept of rape is skewed against men because most people still see the definition of rape as involving penetration...and not the other way around ...which makes it inherently sexist against men.
There are so many who argue that part of the trauma for women being raped is that their body physiologically may respond positively to the activity...which confuses them and leaves them feeling afraid/ashamed of their own sexual desire.
It is the same for men...people still feel like, a man cannot get raped by a woman, because if he "got it up" then that means he wanted to penetrate.
Even in this thread...some users are still finding it hard to wrap their head around the idea that, that because a guy salutes the pole, and penetrates...it doesn't mean he was in the mood. This can be acheived by physical stimulation alone. Or the guy could be drugged with something like viagra. It is possible and it does happen.
But since everyone says "you must have enjoyed it" "you should feel lucky" ..."you are a stud" ..."a real heterosexual man should never be ashamed of a sexual encounter where he gets to enter a woman" .....most men are afraid to admit to being raped by a woman, for fear of being labelled as less than a man (in the hetero sense)...
I mean: "What kind of heterosexual man complains
about getting laid ? right (sarcasm intended)
the real toxic masculinity. We should
be able to complain about unwanted sex, without our masculinity being questioned.