Did Nardil help you becoming more assertive? or make approaching girls easier? How about your self confidence and self esteem?
Approaching girls easier - not in real life. On dating apps - YES.
But this lasted only about 4 months as I was consuming alcohol a lot when I'd go on dates. I had 2 girlfriends, relationships lasted about 3 months. Went on a ton of dates off Tinder. After the last relationship ended poorly. I was given a taste of reality, she told me I needed to get my **** handled. (i was drinking too much and having too much fun, not looking for a job, just enjoying the effects nardil gave me, didn't even have hangovers for a while at teh start of Nardil)
Self confidence and self esteem yes it helps. But I realized it helps due to taking ACTION. The Nardil was the crutch and it got me to step outside my comfort zone. That was wonderful for my self esteem and confidence. But the demise of it all was too much alcohol consumption required to go out. (I've always been a drinker when i'd go out to bars due to extreme social anxiety all my life)
For the past half of the year I haven't been attempting to meet girls at all. I realize I have to get my **** handled with finding a job, learning to love myself completely, faults and all, before I can consider dating someone again seriously. Also a HUGE factor when I was dating women was that I couldn't get off at all and I would sweat profusely and run of out breath fast. This made me feel awful and the women question if I really was attracted to them.
I also have a huge self esteem issue with my lack of muscles. I weigh about 180, 6'1 height. But most of it is fat. I know its not ALL about looks. It's just, you see these guys that are bigger than you muscle wise, and see them getting hot chicks. My mind rationalizes that it's because they have great bodies. But in reality it's because they FEEL good about themselves, which is very attractive. Because on the flip side, you will see muscular men NOT getting hot girls. It's all based on self perception. Psycho cybernetics book explains this well.
What you perceive, you project. How you feel about yourself will reflect how others will feel about you. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy. But I know that I need to work out to FEEL good about myself. Not the muscles per se, but just to have my mind feel good about myself. Women do tend to give you more "interviews" if you are masculine looking. But if your mind isn't in congruence with how you look, they will walk when you open your mouth. The surface approval from women also helps you feel better about yourself, but basing it on approval of others will always be a shaky foundation. You got to feel good about yourself JUST BECAUSE you are handling your **** and working towards being a better man. I suppose if I were a monk I could discard the ego completely and live fully present and confident without needing any approval, but I'm not lol.
In addition, Nardil has made me gain weight, about 15 pounds so not too much, but I have a bloated belly all the time it seems like. I did have GI issues/ constipation before starting Nardil. Pretty sure it's due to years of alcohol abuse and stress.
I don't think I gained much weight as most because I tend to smoke cigarettes and drink caffeine a lot which keeps hunger at bay.
I no longer have the Nardil "smelly fart" syndrome though.
That goes away with time.