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post #21 of 32 (permalink) Old 09-17-2019, 10:31 AM
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I had to drop out of college as well due to SA. Lots of colleges require public speaking and speech classes to graduate. I was not able to do that. I had panic attacks anyone I had to present in class.


Im sure your smart enough to pass your classes you just need help with your social anxiety. See a Dr. or therapist may help. Don't give up though. You just need some support and advice / help.
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I had to drop out of college as well due to SA. Lots of colleges require public speaking and speech classes to graduate. I was not able to do that. I had panic attacks anyone I had to present in class.


Im sure your smart enough to pass your classes you just need help with your social anxiety. See a Dr. or therapist may help. Don't give up though. You just need some support and advice / help.
California requires one public speaking class. At least all the Cal States do. I took an online one that still had a few meetings to give the speeches. Think it was 5 speeches, so not so bad. I decided on "Interpersonal Communication" rather than "Public Speaking."

Other than that course I think I only had to give 6-10 presentations. Most of those were in classes I took for general ed. So it kind of depends on your major. I got beta blockers from the school clinic to stop the fight or flight response- fast heartbeat, sweaty palms, shakiness, basically freaking out. I still gave crappy presentations where I didn't look at the audience and just read my paper (which I know professors don't want you to do) but whatever. Usually they didn't give me too bad of a score for the presentation since they felt sorry for me I think.

Damn. Looking at the schedule of classes, now they don't even require in person meetings!!!

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California requires one public speaking class. At least all the Cal States do. I took an online one that still had a few meetings to give the speeches. Think it was 5 speeches, so not so bad. I decided on "Interpersonal Communication" rather than "Public Speaking."

Other than that course I think I only had to give 6-10 presentations. Most of those were in classes I took for general ed. So it kind of depends on your major. I got beta blockers from the school clinic to stop the fight or flight response- fast heartbeat, sweaty palms, shakiness, basically freaking out. I still gave crappy presentations where I didn't look at the audience and just read my paper (which I know professors don't want you to do) but whatever. Usually they didn't give me too bad of a score for the presentation since they felt sorry for me I think.

Damn. Looking at the schedule of classes, now they don't even require in person meetings!!!
Good job making it through the speech part of college classes. That was my problem. If I could go back in time I could have tried some medication like Xanax or Valium to relax me to get through the presentations. Or a shot of alcohol before hand! lol
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Yeah, I wish I'd known about benzos and beta blockers back in my school and college days ...
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Yeah, I wish I'd known about benzos and beta blockers back in my school and college days ...
I was lucky to know about them when I was in university. The presentation of my master thesis would have been hell without my buddy diazepam.

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I know that feeling. Don't give up. In the middle of my degree I nearly died and took a year off. I ended up graduating with a 2:1 in the end, and my attendance in my final two years was around 25%. The anxiety was ruthless and agonising. I don't think I looked a single person in the eye in one class during my entire time there. It looked for a long time like I was going to fail.

Don't give up. You will feel so incredibly proud of yourself when you graduate.

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I managed to get out of doing presentations right until the final day of university. As part of my final year project I had to present my work to an assessment panel. It was kind of excruciating and all I could think about was how weird my voice sounded. I did a master's after that and again I got out of doing presentations apart from one case where the school said I could record myself on video instead of presenting in the lecture hall. I did about three takes and on the third one I just stopped caring and carried on recording through to the end.
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I was lucky to know about them when I was in university. The presentation of my master thesis would have been hell without my buddy diazepam.
Diazepam was a friend of my quite frequently in my mid 20's and 30's as well. Works good. Unfortunately have a job that I am subject to random drug tests so I cant use it anymore.
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Going through this right now. I don’t want to give up, but my SA has been so bad, I just can’t handle it. I talked to someone who used to take a lot of breaks from college. It took her years, but she’s finally finishing with a decent job. Like the majority, I want to rush though everything but I’m realizing that taking a break can really help. Sometimes you need a break to figure things out.
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Due to a particular heavy year clubbing whilst consuming the essential recreationals, which was the law in the 90s, I jacked my degree in with about 5 weeks left to go.


No way could I be arsed to write a 40,000 word dissitation on quantity surveying. **** that I told the lecturer.


Two of my clown mates used to make me laugh at Uni when doing presentations, don't think I managed to finish any.

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Due to a particular heavy year clubbing whilst consuming the essential recreationals, which was the law in the 90s, I jacked my degree in with about 5 weeks left to go.


No way could I be arsed to write a 40,000 word dissitation on quantity surveying. **** that I told the lecturer.


Two of my clown mates used to make me laugh at Uni when doing presentations, don't think I managed to finish any.

You jacked in a quantity surveying degree? That is a good job.


I had to present my bachelors project but first tried to get out of it with a doctors note. They wouldn't have it, so on the day I took a load of beta blockers to try and stay calm. Made no difference.


At a graduate job interview I took 5 mg of diazepam. Made no difference except to make me dehydrated and give me a headache. Bombed all the interview stations and got angry with one of the interviewers.



On my masters degree I got out of presenting and they let me record a presentation at home instead. On the third try I made a mistake again but I just carried on to the end and sent it to the lecturer without watching the video back. Just couldn't be arsed anymore.


University was mostly horrible. Lecturers and staff were no interested and I often wondered why they were even doing the job. Some of the admin *****es were downright passive aggressive.


If you drop out, don't worry about it. Degrees are mostly worthless now unless it trains you in a job.
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I had similar experience in college it was hard sometimes. The all nighters were very painful and racing to get stuff done. Like others have mentioned presentations and speeches were the most triggering activites to do. I did them because we have to face our fears, but once school was done havent't done such activities since that is for sure. I hope OP and everyone can face what they must it is the only way to get better.
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