Maybe I already posted this but I wonder how other people deal with this. I think I need to get my words out there.
I'm the oldest child of three, I have 2 younger brothers. One is more or less the same age as me, the other has a bit more of an age gap from us 2. So obviously me and my middle child brother get compared a lot. It is very obvious to all 3 of us that he's the favorite which wouldn't be an issue at all if he was not able to get away with so much.
As kids he was more well-behaved and didn't cause trouble whereas I hated doing what I was told. I talked back and he didn't. I also had some other behavioral issues because of some sort of possibly schizotypal disorder? I know it's in line with magical thinking and I have OCD so I get back then why they'd like him better.
Now we are both early 20s and id venture to say that I'm still more childlike, I am also more responsible and more mature in some ways. I'm almost at a bachelor's degree and I've spent days on end working in my studio as architecture is very demanding. He, meanwhile is not in college anymore because he failed. He is a smart kid but he was not doing his work and he tells stories about all his time partying. I just do not understand how my parents can give me crap for being the less responsible one and not acting my age when I get my ****ing crap done when I need to and he does not. My dad purposely will bring this up. He also often goes off on me for making jokes, jokes that by my moms admission "did not warrant such a strong reaction". My little brother can curse around them and talk about his wild times at college. When I curse I get yelled at to watch my language and though my topics of discussion may not always be the most mature, I still can't believe that gets more of a harsh reaction than him telling our parents about his partying. I am probably gonna be moved out by the end of this year. I constantly feel like I need to watch what I say and it really annoys me how much more he can get away with, probably cause of our different personalities while growing up, despite that I have stepped up where he hasnt