The Good? Um, idk, I guess having a therapist was nice.

The Bad? I spent most of the year convinced I have a fatal illness of one sort or another. Suicidal. Insomnia. Nightmares. Migraines. OCD. Fear of being homeless. Family drama. Two months of basement apocalypse. Career is in the toilet. Unrelenting anxiety that makes it impossible to relax. There isn't really any part of my life that works or gives me any satisfaction.

The Ugly? Me, obv.

Yeah I watched a video a while ago can't remember what now might have been the one with the guy whose name I forget talking to the US government about social media and YouTube. But somebody pointed out how previously when everyone watched TV there were a lot more rules involved in what content would get displayed etc, and now there's less filtering and everyone just watches their own stuff which has various effects. There's also obviously no fact checking.

For some reason often if I watch one video by someone it will completely mess up my algorithm afterwards for a while and I'll get suggested that stuff repeatedly until I tell it not to, but it might depend on what it is.

The Good:

Made a lot of progress with my social anxiety and mental health, and hit some milestones I never thought I would hit. Got some crappy employment with the local NHS trust with meetings and so forth over zoon which I am now comfortable communicating in, started going for job interviews, so hopefully I land something soon and can start moving forwards on my career. Started putting down boundaries with toxic people, generally speaking just moving forward with my life. Discovered my values, did a lot of work in stoicism, ACT, CFT. Went on a couple of dates, one of which I did by more or less cold approaching a woman in a shop lol. Never thought I would be able to to that. Gained the ability to tolerate a lot of discomfort, suffering and pain (somewhat diminished now)

Lost a lot of weight and am now almost at my target weight. Gained some muscle (though that's likely gone now hah). Improved my appearance significantly. Went on finasteride and so my hair loss has likely stopped. No side effects (yay, bullet dodged).

Continued my friendship with my very best friend and somehow didn't **** it up. Love her to bits. Reached out to a few more people and am trying to build friendships.

The Bad:

Split up with my girlfriend and spent most of the year in a lot of emotional pain. didn't want to do it, but felt I had no choice. Got arrested (worst day of my life), then they eventually dropped the case. Long story, but a ****ing nightmare. That set me back a long way. Still no success with job interviews and struggling to motivate myself with the process and push forward with a career that has a lot of social interaction. Lost progress socially due to lockdown. Can't go to the gym, so a major stress relieving outlet for me gone, and cant secretly look at women in yoga pants in the mirror (lol sorry, its true tho). On the brink of a weird drug problem, but probably going to be okay there.

Reading that back, the bad sounds ****ing insane lol, but yeh.

The good:

Got a much higher paying job in 2020. Bought a house a few months ago. Technically part of 2021, but got married earlier today. Hit a long term bench press goal a few months ago.

The bad:

A hip injury from 2019 I managed to make worse over the year. In almost constant pain at the moment. It has me a little worried since it could affect my work plus I love the gym. My grandmother died this year. She was the last of my grandparents, so that was definitely sad. While I enjoy the solitude of working alone at night I do feel more detached from normal life. That and my wife works days and that means we don't see each other much during the week. My current job is nights only, so no hope of days and the pay is more than I could expect anywhere else around here.
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Congrats man! Hope this makes up for all the bad things that you experienced in 2020.

Horrible year, as if that need be said. This governor's actions in the spring caused folks at my company to restructure things, let go a few people, and sort of promote me a bit. I'm making more money than I have, but the cost is that my stress levels related to the job have increased dramatically. I never asked for this promotion but it was pretty much either that or "later". I have wanted to leave this job for years but now I feel stuck because finding another job is so difficult. Aside from that, I made no progress in . . . anything.

the good: supportive therapist and family.


the bad: covid-19, was going to try more in dating in 2020 after not trying very hard for a few years, too.


the ugly: the government's handling of the pandemic.

Eh. Can't really complain since there are people who were directly affected by COVID-19, some of whom lost family because of it. I would say I'm fortunate thus far because it hasn't hit any extended relatives badly nor even hit my immediate family. Was somewhat disappointing since I had plans that would have potentially had me start fresh.

Thank you!
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I moved in with nothing & spent the year furnishing my place & got laid for the first time, despite the pandemic I had one of my social years ever...not too much to complain about really compared pretty much most of the planet

Great job getting lucky for the first time. So how did you meet her? Was it a one night stand or did you have to date her for a while?

I feel like even the virus was no match for the avoidance I employ on an ongoing basis. In this sense, 2020 was the same as 2019, 2011, 2002, 1983, 1977 etc. It was another year in which I refused to take necessary leaps. Not to say it was all bad because I do know a few people and I appreciate their presence and the fact they are still with me.