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rachelynn 02-02-2009 05:30 AM

Worry about people reading my mind
 
I often worry about people being able to read my mind or just knowing about something I did or didn't do or say, or even how I feel about something, such as opinions etc. I don't even know if this is SA related or like some kind of obsessional thought...anyone else feel this way? Lots of time, I often end up acting weirdly or acting in a way that would prevent them for thinking a certain thing or being able to read me...if that makes sense.

Mc Borg 02-02-2009 06:20 AM

Yeah, the same thing happens to me. I do the whole acting weirdly thing as well. Even with strangers, I'll get this feeling that they somehow "know something about me" even though I know that's impossible, the thought is still there, and bothers me. It's like, even posting here while somebody else is in the room. I feel as if they somehow know what I'm typing/thinking, even if there not even paying attention to what I'm doing. I have a big problem with that. I sometimes won't even use the computer when other people are in the room just for that reason. I think it's a "what if they knew?" type of thing. I don't really express my opinions to anyone at all, so the idea of them reading my mind, is almost as bad as if they actually knew what I was thinking.

jim695 02-02-2009 06:43 AM

Yes.

When I am with other people, even ones I have never met before, I feel like they can see right through me and know what a loser and loner I am; sort of like reading my mind. It is very unnerving.

Canadian Brotha 02-02-2009 07:51 AM

I sometimes feel like this but more so because I feel as though my body language gives me away. If you're trying to discuss something & your body language is tense then if feels as though people can read your mind because they pick up on your overall vibe.

Moody99 02-02-2009 12:04 PM

I often feel like that it's like people know me without really knowing me,they can pick up my "something is wrong with me vibe" I can just tell,the way they look at me and when they talking to me on the phone or in person...I feel what u sayin it's annoying....it's like they try to size you up.

whynot 02-02-2009 02:00 PM

I used to think people could hear my thoughts, but that was because people would very often say something in response to what I had just thought. It used to scare me a lot. I got so paranoid that I thought maybe I only thought I was thinking things, but in actual fact I was saying them out loud. I would even stop myself from thinking things just incase the people I was with could hear what I was thinking. Sometimes I would think "If you can hear me, please let me know". I realise now it was almost certainly paranoia. Either that, or telepathy's actually possible...

I think it's supposed to be a precursor to schizophrenia. Oh dear.

shyvr6 02-02-2009 02:22 PM

Yeah, that's why I wear tinfoil hats.

whynot 02-02-2009 02:47 PM

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Originally Posted by shyvr6 (Post 821639)
Yeah, that's why I wear tinfoil hats.

Ah yes, the ol' tinfoil hats. They look silly, but the piece of mind they give is invaluable.

thisisfraser 02-02-2009 03:44 PM

Yup I have this fear too sometimes and it's mostly an obsessional thought/fear. For me it mostly comes from my last girlfriend. She was always dead convinced that I could read her mind because I could always figure out what she was dropping hints about. The fact that the girl was anything but subtle made it kinda easy to figure out what she was thinking. I never did tell her that though.

LonelyHeart87 02-02-2009 04:12 PM

OMG! I thought I was the only one. I've been feeling this way for like 5 years now! Constantly thinking that people could read my mind, know my intentions, feel my mood, what I'm going to do, etc. Particularly the thoughts part. I would walk around on the streets, and think that complete strangers could read right through me. It used to be much worse, but it goes up and down with me. It's a huge problem, because like people have said, I act not according to how I think sometimes to "throw people off". It's ridiculous and I feel like I'm not being sincere, but can't help it. It confuses the **** out of me. Anyone have solutions on how to overcome this? I have no friends except for my roommate and this makes getting friends much more difficult.

whynot 02-02-2009 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by LonelyHeart87 (Post 821749)
OMG! I thought I was the only one. I've been feeling this way for like 5 years now! Constantly thinking that people could read my mind, know my intentions, feel my mood, what I'm going to do, etc. Particularly the thoughts part. I would walk around on the streets, and think that complete strangers could read right through me. It used to be much worse, but it goes up and down with me. It's a huge problem, because like people have said, I act not according to how I think sometimes to "throw people off". It's ridiculous and I feel like I'm not being sincere, but can't help it. It confuses the **** out of me. Anyone have solutions on how to overcome this? I have no friends except for my roommate and this makes getting friends much more difficult.

I'm pretty much free of thinking like that now. I came to the conclusion that it was SO unlikely that anyone could actually hear my thoughts, and that if anyone could then I'm sure they'd have said something by now, that I stopped being scared.

Just think from time to time when you're around poeple "can you hear me?". If they say "yes", then you can start worrying; if they say nothing, you can safely assume they can't hear you.

beaches09 02-03-2009 10:15 AM

Not to make your guy's situations worse. But many people are empaths and they can feel everything that you feel and judge everything going on in your head in relation to the current situation just by your facial expressions and body language. Voice tone too. And often very very very accurately.

Actually, as a social anxiety board, I would believe many of you here are empaths and I believe a lot of that social anxiety can be caused by the very nature of having that gift. Because you know you can get in people's heads and follow all their thought patterns, feelings, and roadways. Having this ability scares you because at the same time you think people can do it to you. And that's what can cause a great fear.

The plus side, if it annoys you when people do it, then just do it to them right back.

And wear sunglasses :)

engima 02-03-2009 06:27 PM

yeah I used to be really paranoid about my thoughts, I even thought people could steal them from me and vice versa (yea I guess I was crazy) .. but if others can read me then the only reason that I would get disturbed by it is if I wasn't confident and comfortable with the thoughts/feelings I had. I thought having a poker face would save me.. but it didn't work.. so I just came to that conclusion and I don't really care whether other people can read me like that(as much) anymore

glittergirl 02-04-2009 09:17 AM

I used to have this back in HS 10 th grade to be exact. It got so bad that I went to the school shrink to see if people could hear my thoughts and tell what was going on in my head. I think back on this now and I somewhat feel like a fool. But back then I did not know who else to go to, and I thought I was the only one with this issue. It kept going on til 12th grade , I slowly became aware that I was being completely paranoid, and I must stop thinking this way. I am in college now and I sometimes have those thoughts but I tell myself that its just paranoia.

M8Cerr 02-27-2009 03:49 PM

What did you do, or how did you deal with it?

Lirael 02-27-2009 04:19 PM

I don't think that people can literally "hear my thoughts" but I do feel I have a hard time hiding my true feelings. My sa has gotten so bad that I can't hide it anymore and people of course can pick up that something is wrong. It makes me feel weak and vulnerable.

screwjack 02-27-2009 04:43 PM

I don't think people can read my thoughts but I have such low self esteem it always surprises me that people try to talk to me like i'm just a normal guy. I usually can't think of anything to say and then they think i'm stand offish. I feel like such a sad, defeated thing most times it's like a self fufilling prophecy. I can't imagine anyone treating me other than how I feel about myself.

If I thought people where literally reading my thoughts though that would disturb me and I would seek psychiatric help.

BloodyAnnieKillz 11-17-2009 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by rachelynn (Post 821277)
I often worry about people being able to read my mind or just knowing about something I did or didn't do or say, or even how I feel about something, such as opinions etc. I don't even know if this is SA related or like some kind of obsessional thought...anyone else feel this way? Lots of time, I often end up acting weirdly or acting in a way that would prevent them for thinking a certain thing or being able to read me...if that makes sense.

OMGssH i tthe same problem i take showers and use the bathroom in the dark because i feel like sombodys watchinq me and i also deal with the problem u have wer u act weird my family just thinks im weird it just makes u want to commit suicide to qet rid of people in ur head.

njnuser 11-17-2009 09:33 PM

Nobody can read your mind. They can however read your reactions and make their own judgements. That doesn't make their judgements correct though.

Remember, if you look at someone and think they are reading your mind, you are doing the same exact thing that you are complaining about in your post - people can read my mind.

Sunshine009 11-17-2009 10:10 PM

People read your body language, not your mind.

Smitten 11-17-2009 11:04 PM

yes, i used to think that people could read my mind. it's so weird.

Wael 11-18-2009 01:43 AM

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Originally Posted by rachelynn (Post 821277)
I often worry about people being able to read my mind or just knowing about something I did or didn't do or say, or even how I feel about something, such as opinions etc. I don't even know if this is SA related or like some kind of obsessional thought...anyone else feel this way? Lots of time, I often end up acting weirdly or acting in a way that would prevent them for thinking a certain thing or being able to read me...if that makes sense.

It's only a thought you have. People cannot know what you are thinking... Try yourself to read other peoples' minds. It's not simple..

It will change.. Over the years my social anxiety got considerably reduced.. Don't think much about it and it suddenly becomes less of a problem :D

LesterKnox 11-18-2009 06:26 AM

Absolutely! That's probably why it's so hard to deal with strangers. I think they already know my deepest, darkest secrets. (Let's face it, even the "normals" have deep, dark secrets.) The funny, or not so funny, thing is that when I experimented with marijuana many years ago, it would get to the point that I actually had a very hard time convincing myself that it wasn't so. I would sit there stoned out of my mind thinking of things just to test whether someone else could read my mind. Then something coincedental would happen and I'd be like "Aha!" There was a whole host of messed up stuff that marijuana began to do to my already chemically imbalanced brain, which is why I gave it up.

Disclaimer: I do not endorse the use of marijuana, especially for those who suffer from SAD.

Procrastinator 11-18-2009 08:42 AM

I thought I was the only one! I'm convinced when I look someone in the eye they will know exactly what I'm thinking. I feel embarrassed when I do look people in the eye because I think they will know what I really think of them and realise I'm a loser.

I think far too much.

VivaEmptinessRoses 10-04-2010 07:34 PM

Yeah, I go through this very often. I get this feeling that people know something about me and it feels so freakin weird. So I try to not think certain thoughts so that people wont pick up any body language and assume things.

juujuu08 10-19-2010 04:15 PM

I feel the exact same way!!!
 
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Originally Posted by whynot (Post 821621)
i used to think people could hear my thoughts, but that was because people would very often say something in response to what i had just thought. It used to scare me a lot. I got so paranoid that i thought maybe i only thought i was thinking things, but in actual fact i was saying them out loud. I would even stop myself from thinking things just incase the people i was with could hear what i was thinking. Sometimes i would think "if you can hear me, please let me know". I realise now it was almost certainly paranoia. Either that, or telepathy's actually possible...

I think it's supposed to be a precursor to schizophrenia. Oh dear.



oh my god i feel the exact same way i do the exact same thing!! How did you cope with this and im constantly paranoid because it is very scary when everyone says stuff that is relevant to what your thinking as if they were trying to pick on you or i dnt know but if you can tell me anything that can help and what you do it would be greatly appreciated!! Thnk you

ZeroG64 10-19-2010 04:39 PM

Telepathy is real, I'm fully convinced of it. It's on a higher plane of conciousness from our usual sober state but in some chemically induced states in the past (LSD/Psiocybin) I have been fully able to communicate telepathically.

I believe we can communicate with just our energy fields and it makes me paranoid too, it's what that call "vibes". I'm very aware of it and I sense them very quickly whether they are positive or negative.

I don't think it's easy to read what someone else is thinking though, I think that's a bit different.

But personally I am paranoid about energy fields and you can make them change and see peoples reaction to it almost immediately. It's lead me to nearly have quite a few panic attacks in the past.

I promise you I'm not batshit crazy. :)

Mia25 10-19-2010 05:13 PM

I don't think people can literally read my mind, but I think that they can tell how I'm feeling by my body language. Mainly I worry that they can see how uncomfortable and out of place I am feeling. This has lead me to be more self aware around people as I don't want to look so freaked out in front of them I try and monitor my every move. That doesn't help either though because then I look all stiff with a blank expression on my face and robotic looking when I move LMAO. Or worse, look angry.

I read a book called "the feel good hand book" and one of the thought distortions they cover in CBT is "mind reading" and it covers this topic.

kid a 10-19-2010 05:54 PM

I use to think this, i also use to think secretly everyone hated me an was testing everything i did. even strangers, literally everyone. then i thought, why am i so special? why would everyone want to read my mind or hate me....
still could be true but i dont really care if it is who would waste there time listening to my scatter brain. it makes no sense in here anyway:roll hm i can barely read my own thoughts sometimes :sus

Knowla 10-19-2010 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by kid a (Post 1607351)
I use to think this, i also use to think secretly everyone hated me an was testing everything i did. even strangers, literally everyone. then i thought, why am i so special? why would everyone want to read my mind or hate me....
still could be true but i dont really care if it is who would waste there time listening to my scatter brain. it makes no sense in here anyway:roll hm i can barely read my own thoughts sometimes :sus

You mean like the Truman show?

No Limit 10-19-2010 09:05 PM

Sometimes I wish some people could read my mind. That way they know I'm not being stuck up or when I don't say hi. I'm just painfully shy at times.

chriswatch 10-20-2010 02:02 AM

In a way, most humans can read minds to some extent. We can read body language and facial expressions. I've seen many times that look like "oh no, it's him again, the shy kid."

percyblueraincoat 10-20-2010 03:28 AM

hmm
 
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Originally Posted by chriswatch (Post 1607900)
In a way, most humans can read minds to some extent. We can read body language and facial expressions. I've seen many times that look like "oh no, it's him again, the shy kid."

This look you speak of....is it just from people who know you or from random strangers too? And how do you know the look means what you think it means. That's not other people reading minds. That's you having associations and beliefs about a particular look and making guesses and assumptions about other people's motives, intentions and reactions towards you.

Body language remains a false interpret. There's no standard definition of the physical movements. Now, personal calibration can give a lot of insight into people but even that's just slightly informed guesses. Same with facial expressions. You can observe, interpret and place meaning onto things and make a bunch of assumptions about how people act towards you but you can't read their minds and they can't read yours.

Not to make your guy's situations worse. But many people are empaths and they can feel everything that you feel and judge everything going on in your head in relation to the current situation just by your facial expressions and body language. Voice tone too. And often very very very accurately.


Erm...nope. The opening up of the sensory acuity, calibration of an individual person and emotional intelligence levels may influence things to some extent but those things still do not give people the power to feel everything that another person feels or judge everything going on in a person's mind. Facial expressions and body language are notoriously difficult to interpret. Voice tone too.

One of my biggest influences in therapy, Richard Bandler, talks about a moment where a psychiatrist told him he was "closed to new ideas". Bandler asked why and the psychiatrist said that Bandler was sat with his legs crossed. The psychiatrist had seen Bandler's body language and made a judgement about it based on their own ideas about what such gestures might mean. And got it wrong.

Not sure how serious that post was but I just wanted to make it clear that even those with tuned sensory acuity and emotional intelligence are not mind readers. It took me four and a half hours to calibrate a woman I was working with until I understood what it might mean when she put her hands near her stomach. Four hours. And I'd still be making guesses. With that in mind, the idea that people instantly and automatically pick up on what you're thinking, feeling etc all the time and with 100% accuracy is daft.

Jadack 02-13-2011 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by whynot (Post 821621)
I used to think people could hear my thoughts, but that was because people would very often say something in response to what I had just thought. It used to scare me a lot. I got so paranoid that I thought maybe I only thought I was thinking things, but in actual fact I was saying them out loud. I would even stop myself from thinking things just incase the people I was with could hear what I was thinking. Sometimes I would think "If you can hear me, please let me know". I realise now it was almost certainly paranoia. Either that, or telepathy's actually possible...

I think it's supposed to be a precursor to schizophrenia. Oh dear.

I know exactly what u mean, to the tee!! I've been so far that like when i walk past a stranger they say something about me as my back's turned to them. Or i think something and i hear my dad and his gf talking thinking they're commenting on what i was thinking. It's so ****ed being scared to think infront of ur own family and ur bestfriends. I'm gonna make an appointment on monday and see if I cant get help for this ill make sure i fill u guys in

Jadack 02-13-2011 03:42 PM

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Originally Posted by LesterKnox (Post 1140383)
Absolutely! That's probably why it's so hard to deal with strangers. I think they already know my deepest, darkest secrets. (Let's face it, even the "normals" have deep, dark secrets.) The funny, or not so funny, thing is that when I experimented with marijuana many years ago, it would get to the point that I actually had a very hard time convincing myself that it wasn't so. I would sit there stoned out of my mind thinking of things just to test whether someone else could read my mind. Then something coincedental would happen and I'd be like "Aha!" There was a whole host of messed up stuff that marijuana began to do to my already chemically imbalanced brain, which is why I gave it up.

Disclaimer: I do not endorse the use of marijuana, especially for those who suffer from SAD.

Weed is where it started for me too. I've quit but what u just described still constantly hangs over my head

Iced 02-13-2011 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Sunshine009 (Post 1140108)
People read your body language, not your mind.

This. Whether they do it conscious or subconscious your body language/facial expression does most of the talking for you, not what you actually say.

http://29.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ld...h496o1_500.gif

He's happy.. No wait he wants to kill you!

millenniumman75 02-13-2011 04:07 PM

Adjust a frequency on the radio and get the Millennium Man Channel. :lol

Steve123 02-13-2011 04:27 PM

Yeah I get that as well. Especially when people are touching me (crowded bus for instance) I feel like somehow that gives them the power to read my mind. I usually convince myself otherwise by thinking things they would have to react to like "I'm going to hit this personnnnn.... NOW!.... I will sneeze in your face in 3... 2... 1!" and then when they don't react I'm pretty sure its just me being crazy... either that or they know I'm bluffing :um

softshock11 02-13-2011 04:37 PM

i have the same exact worry, but I'm believing it's just part of my paranoia with people in general.
I have intuition but I cant read their mind so i don't think they can read mine either, anymore. But they can judge your body language and expression.

which is a pain because sometimes ppl think I'm mad when I'm actually really chill and just thinking deeply. It's too much to analyze over..

dirtyd 05-30-2011 09:47 PM

i feel the same way i think people can hear my thoughts and it gets worse when im around people cause my mind will think negative thoughts about the people im around with and thats y i tend to avoid contact with any of them. in the end dont worry it will get better if people could read ur thoughts woulnt it be on t v news or something :idea its not possible think positive! hope it helps some 1.:teeth


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