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where did you get this from? i think i've read this before
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I got most of it from "Shyness and Love" by Brian .G Gilmartin.
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Pretty much the only book I've got on shyness in males
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I know I'm a thief and shouldn't do it
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but I can't help myself
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But how else would I know anything. I can't do my own studies.
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thank you for posting all of that pinzelhead. i'm one of the guys that it's talking about and it's helped me understand my life better.

i wish to renounce the world and return to the noumenal realm from whence i came.
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This pretty much sums up my life. Even my high functioning DD clients and MI clients are in relationships and even having kids.

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Ignoring the obvious ineudo of the subject line, I must say that reason #1 is the enitre enchilada.

Even the most passive woman will be approached several times a week if she is in public. This just doesn't happen to men or very rarely.

Social Anxiety or not, that is the cold hard reality of this world.

So if you have SA and you want to meet women you are just forced to fight a huge portion of who you are and then hope the ladies are okay with who you really are. My wife gets more impressed the more she learns about me that I found her so compelling to break through the SA even to meet her.
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Sorry... I didn't bother reading all of that.

Maybe it has a really good point.

One thing I do know, however, is that I have also -on top of my SA- had issues with sexuality. And, with all due respect: regarding sexuality and biology: women, frankly have it much harder than males.

I could complain about it -but what's the point. That is life.

However, if all you were doing in the above is just stating the facts, then that is fine. Now I've stated mine.


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Sorry... I didn't bother reading all of that.

Maybe it has a really good point.

One thing I do know, however, is that I have also -on top of my SA- had issues with sexuality. And, with all due respect: regarding sexuality and biology: women, frankly have it much harder than males.

I could complain about it -but what's the point. That is life.

However, if all you were doing in the above is just stating the facts, then that is fine. Now I've stated mine.
I don't think it is a contest and I don't think one has it overall harder than another, just different. Certianly, women have better access to relationships. Now, that leaves them perhaps more open to bad relationships and all, but it is easier for a woman to encounter that initial contact more often than SA men, overall that might not be a good thing.

When you say sexuality do you mean gender orientation, or just the complexity of sex, abuse, rape, etc. If you mean the latter, I will certainly agree with you. While it can happen males are far less likely to come out of a sexual relationship in as bad emotional shape. Also less likely to get an STD or pregnant. Now, I am sure I will get many opposing opinions, but that is just my opinion.
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I don't think it is a contest and I don't think one has it overall harder than another, just different.
...That is basically ALL that I wanted to communicate.
Honestly .


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