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You could start going with "It puts the lotion on it's skin else it gets the hose again" and try your best creepy smile...
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What I'd love to say to this question is, "Because I don't feel stimulated enough," and not be viewed as a complete jackass.
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I was told to talk more just the other day, and I got to thinking "why"? I mean, what good would it do you if I talked more? Is it because they are bored and need someone to entertain them with words? And it isn't like I don't talk to them at all. I carry on conversations with them, I just don't do all that needless small talk.
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I was told to talk more just the other day, and I got to thinking "why"? I mean, what good would it do you if I talked more? Is it because they are bored and need someone to entertain them with words? And it isn't like I don't talk to them at all. I carry on conversations with them, I just don't do all that needless small talk.
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I usually say, "I'm just quiet," an answer that suffices for most people.

I would LIKE to say, "Eff off, I'm not here to entertain you."
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Some girl in my last class was shocked when she found out that I'm 22 and she thought I was older. Her reason for that was "but you're so quiet". I'm not sure what that has to do with age. Unless she was trying to say that I act more mature than the average 22 year old.


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"i don't know" or "i do talk sometimes"...
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haha! I love some of the replies...

Just tell them:

"Having something to say is overrated."

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Having something to say is overrated
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Tell them it's because you love being asked those kinds of questions and that's why you remain quiet, eagerly awaiting the next time someone asks you.
lol!

I find it quite amazing people ask this questions or comment by saying "you're so quiet!" I was at a social gathering (very akward btw) and a lady commented twice by looking right at me, shaking her head and smiling while saying, "you're so quite!" Of course this is not the first person to make such a comment to me. I always have found this type of comment to be very condescending and insulting (even if the person does not realize it to be). In reality, its like what type of response are they looking for? Am I supposed to say, "thats because I have major social anxiety" or "because you're not funny" or "I have nothing to say to you." I wish I could engage and relate more during social interactions, I just can't seem to do it though.
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Am I supposed to say, "thats because I have major social anxiety" or "because you're not funny" or "I have nothing to say to you."
Maybe we should say that. I sometimes like to give uncomfortable answers to uncomfortable questions.
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I either dont say anything or say "Cuz I dont feel liek it"
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"Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt."

It usually shuts them up for a little while.

If that doesn't work, "silence is golden" is a standard.



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"Because you don't say anything interesting enough to respond to." If you're feeling sassy.

In the typical situation, I end up blushing and saying "I'm a just a little shy."
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what we all should do is yell something random like "SOYLENT GREEN IS PEOPLE"
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well. i usually said that i was listening initially, then i started replying " what do u want me to say?" , even to my parents!!!
i know that not good but it starts to get on your nerves that u just wanna explode...
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Some girl in my last class was shocked when she found out that I'm 22 and she thought I was older. Her reason for that was "but you're so quiet". I'm not sure what that has to do with age. Unless she was trying to say that I act more mature than the average 22 year old.
I got that alot at 22 as well and I get it now. Like all 22 year old women are suppose to be loud or something??

I just tell them I like to listen.
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When I was at high school I used to just look at them and then look away, kinda embaressed abit that they have noticed I don't talk

But now I feel abit more confident next time someone says that, I'll say "I'm just shy." Or I have nothing to say. Or " what do u want me to say?"
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Although I'm quiet, I don't get asked this much. Most people ignore me, which I like (and is apparently a result of my own '****-off' body language.. good old pdoc analysis ^_^). Have heard people say to each other that I'm quiet and.. things, but only on rare occasions has anyone asked me why. When they have, I've probably said "I don't know", the staple answer to hard questions haha.
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