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It's my biggest fear in life and probably the reason I have so much anxiety around people. Everytime someone is having a long conversation with me, I just can't keep eye contact with them. My mind starts racing and I'm so busy wondering what I look like and if I'm doing it right, that I miss what the person is saying. I can't even hold eye contact when I'm talking with my family. It's pretty f'ed up. I don't know how to get over it. I'm hoping my therapist has some ideas because I'm lost. The sad thing is, until I fix this problem, I don't have the confidence to go on dates. You know how awkward that would be? How could I ever enjoy a date without making eye contact with the girl? It seems like this should be so easy, but right now I find it impossible o do. I feel like I forgot how to use my eyes. lol uhhhhhh
I Can seriously relate to that

throughout maybe..mid middle school to high school, i had issues with eye contact, i only remember high school, middle..iam not sure if remember much..i didn't even notice whether i was making eye contact with someone or not

in high school it was dangerous

but funny enough i didn't realize it was really bad till i had a parent teacher conference, & my dad tugged me on my back to make eye contact

i was so embarrassed


..but then strangely from that day forward, i started somewhat looking people in the eye..now i can do it, maybe only for a certain amount of time, i can't gaze but i can look at their eye..& if it gets uncomfortable i look at their lips, then glance back at their eyes..it's probably worse..though if they're attractive..but even then i sometimes manage..i am not telling u this & expecting you'll be an expert, but a tip i have..if it's not too much trouble is to look at their lips, if it's not too hard..or the space between their eyebrows..likely they may not notice..but maybe just try glancing at their eyes, look away then look back

however for me when i am walking in a crowd i still get a bit shaky especially if someone is coming in my direction, i easily look above their heads, if i look at people's faces in a crowd..i just