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when your talking to someone face to face and feel like ur blushing


when i have to speak one on one with someone i suddenly feel emabaressed and then i feel heat in my cheeks and think they can see me going red and start sweating alot and mumbling... anyone else have this how do you overcome it?
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I have Rosacea in my face that comes and goes. I HATE when people say - Ya know, your face is all red.

Yeah, got it. Thanks.

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we like it when they blush
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The only way to overcome it (that I know of) is to stop caring about it. The more you worry and feel ashamed about it, the more it will happen. Once you adopt a "who cares if I blush" attitude, it will begin to become less and less frequent. And when you start to blush, don't fight it and don't focus on it. Just accept it and focus on something else. Anything else.
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Press through it. It makes me focus on what I am saying much more then.
It is just a feeling we have - the blushing may not be visible at all on the outside.

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I have Rosacea in my face that comes and goes. I HATE when people say - Ya know, your face is all red.

Yeah, got it. Thanks.
A fellow sufferer :o ! The fact that the redness tends to linger for ages afterwards is the worst part, bah.

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The only way to overcome it (that I know of) is to stop caring about it. The more you worry and feel ashamed about it, the more it will happen. Once you adopt a "who cares if I blush" attitude, it will begin to become less and less frequent. And when you start to blush, don't fight it and don't focus on it. Just accept it and focus on something else. Anything else.
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To me it feels like sort of a feedback loop, where knowing that I'm blushing makes me blush all the more. The only way to kill the feedback loop, as mentioned above is not to think or care about it. Easier said than done, I know!
Yep. If you really think about it, our fears are often irrational, and we know this, yet we keep feeding them by entertaining them. Gotta kill the pesky buggers by focusing on positive thoughts or as it has been said already, not caring. But you're oh so right..it is so much easier said than done.

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I am swarthy so people usually won't see me blush.

I got a job in sales as a desperate, extreme attempt to help cure my SAD. The first month was a nightmare. But now on month 3 my anxiety levels have dropped 20 fold. The hot feeling around my face when I'm embarrassed is gone.

You want treatment for SAD, get a job as a salesman. If you stick around long enough the rewards are worth it.
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I am swarthy so people usually won't see me blush.

I got a job in sales as a desperate, extreme attempt to help cure my SAD. The first month was a nightmare. But now on month 3 my anxiety levels have dropped 20 fold. The hot feeling around my face when I'm embarrassed is gone.

You want treatment for SAD, get a job as a salesman. If you stick around long enough the rewards are worth it.
Thats funny I'm working in sales now too. I agree 100% with what you are saying, my first month wasnt exactly a nightmare but it sure helps a lot with SA. Its like getting thrown out in the ocean I guess, sink or swim. That, exercise, and Meds have helped so much.

It might not be such a bad idea if I never... never went home again.
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Thats funny I'm working in sales now too. I agree 100% with what you are saying, my first month wasnt exactly a nightmare but it sure helps a lot with SA. Its like getting thrown out in the ocean I guess, sink or swim. That, exercise, and Meds have helped so much.
Sales is rebirth-by-fire. ; ) Better than therapy in my opinion.

It is cost-effective as well. My therapist doesn't pay me for showing up.
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