When did SA start for you? - Social Anxiety Forum
Reply
 
Thread Tools
post #1 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 08:36 AM Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 38

When did SA start for you?


<drinking seltzer>

I think I've always had a bit of it in me, but not this much. But I think it really kicked in around late high school, college and then really kicked in after college. Even now, I look back to high school and college and think "wow, I was really social back then".

In some ways, I'm wondering if my SA is more of an avoidance issue rather than a biological one as I don't see any of my family with the same issues of SA and it really kicked in late for me.

<throws empty seltzer can in pile>
FunBoy is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #2 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 08:38 AM
SAS Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Canada
Gender: Male
Posts: 18,907

Re: When did SA start for you?


Birth.

Although it did not come on full force until I was about 11 or 12.


Just Lurking is offline  
post #3 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 08:59 AM
killer of conversations
 
IllusionOfHappiness's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Canada
Gender: Female
Posts: 10,545

Re: When did SA start for you?


About age 13.
IllusionOfHappiness is offline  
 
post #4 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 09:03 AM
Ninja
 
Polar's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Europe
Gender: Male
Age: 37
Posts: 4,233
My Mood: Bashful

Re: When did SA start for you?


Hard to tell when I made the transition from "shyness" to SA, but I think around age 15 it started to really become a problem.

As much as you doubt you're a Ninja, it's equally likely that you are one.
Polar is offline  
post #5 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 09:07 AM
SAS Member
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Aus.
Gender: Male
Posts: 82

Re: When did SA start for you?


Probably about 10-11, I started acting really wierdly. Did some crazy stuff, but wouldn't make any friends at all. 12 I became very quiet and negative, as I began to get bullied. This continued for the next three years. I still can't talk to strangers or colleagues well at all, but at least I have gotten slightly better socially the last few years. I still think I was the laughing stock in the last two years of school. Don't want to see what will happen when I go to uni next year though, urrgh.

"She dreamt she was a bulldozer, she dreamt she was alone in an empty field"
Zarrix is offline  
post #6 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 09:11 AM
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 3

Re: When did SA start for you?


I've had it ever since I can remember, but it's gotten worse in adulthood. Making friends out of the school context is more difficult for many people, I think.

Louise
Louise is offline  
post #7 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 09:20 AM
 
Join Date: Dec 2007
Posts: 103

Re: When did SA start for you?


It was always there, but grade 8 is when it really got bad.
St.Paul is offline  
post #8 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 09:35 AM
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Posts: 569

Re: When did SA start for you?


Well I started off with selective mutism at age 5 (anxiety only at school) but by the time I was 11 I had social anxiety everywhere.
HoboQueen is offline  
post #9 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 09:36 AM
killer of conversations
 
IllusionOfHappiness's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Canada
Gender: Female
Posts: 10,545

Re: When did SA start for you?


Quote:
Originally Posted by St.Paul
but grade 8 is when it really got bad.
Worst school year of my life.
IllusionOfHappiness is offline  
post #10 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 10:28 AM
SAS Member
 
Mr. Orange's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 1,853

Re: When did SA start for you?


i have always been shy, but i think SA came when i was in HS, especially when the pressure to intermingle with girls came to the scene. now it has gotten to the point where i feel an inferiority complex and suffer from depression, largely resulting from SA.

Once you give up all hope is when you have truly lost.
-A great friend
Mr. Orange is offline  
post #11 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 10:35 AM
SAS Member
 
Kanashi's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Your nightmares
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,022

Re: When did SA start for you?


I always had a 'mild' SA. But everything change august 23 2003 in psychology class. I had the worst panic attack ever. People taught I was having an allergy kinda panic.I freaked out. I swear I was going to die that day.
After this my SA completely took over my whole life.




"If you're going through hell, keep going."
Kanashi is offline  
post #12 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 10:38 AM
SAS Member
 
quietgal's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: New Jersey
Gender: Female
Age: 34
Posts: 889

Re: When did SA start for you?


I've always been a little shy, but sophomore year of high school is when I started to become really withdrawn.

A cynic is a man who knows the price of everything and the value of nothing. - Oscar Wilde
quietgal is offline  
post #13 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 10:40 AM
Seeking ataraxia
 
Mc Borg's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Travelling, swallowing Dramamine.
Gender: Male
Age: 31
Posts: 12,034

Re: When did SA start for you?


I'm not so sure it ever did start with me, I can't remember not having SA.
Mc Borg is offline  
post #14 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 10:59 AM
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 85

Re: When did SA start for you?


Quote:
Originally Posted by IllusionOfHappiness
Quote:
Originally Posted by St.Paul
but grade 8 is when it really got bad.
Worst school year of my life.
Kuromi is offline  
post #15 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 12:28 PM
SAS Member
 
Half_A_Person's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2007
Location: San Jose, CA
Gender: Female
Age: 28
Posts: 455

Re: When did SA start for you?


My shyness turned into SA when I reached 6th grade. It got a LOT worse last year when I first entered high school. That was when I first had a panic attack. Now I can barely go out of the house without getting anxious.


Half_A_Person is offline  
post #16 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 12:34 PM
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Posts: 109

Re: When did SA start for you?


It started to get bad when at the end of my freshman year of high school, so I was about 14 or 15.
odd_boi_out is offline  
post #17 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 05:34 PM
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Posts: 217

Re: When did SA start for you?


The panic attacks started when I was about six, when I started school.
Being on a property you did not see many people so I was not too bad but once you went to school that was that. You lived each day in total fear and learnt pretty quickly to hide your panic otherwise you got into trouble.
kelso is offline  
post #18 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-27-2008, 10:38 PM
 
Join Date: Feb 2007
Posts: 136

Re: When did SA start for you?


I guess it sorta started when I was about 8-10, but it didn't get really bad until I was 12.
uskidsknow is offline  
post #19 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-28-2008, 01:28 AM
SAS Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: NW Pennsylvania
Posts: 115

Re: When did SA start for you?


Started when I was 11 years old, that's when I started junior high school. All of my friends from elementary school and from my neighborhood either moved or went to different jr high schools. I started 6th grade with NO FRIENDS and had a difficult time making new ones. That's when I started living in my head and got really used to being a loner. I was also going through puberty at the time which brought about a lot of unwanted negative attention (both from males and females), so the "coverup" began. I started hiding away from life because I didn't know how to stand up for myself.

In high school, it got worse. Freshman year was okay but after that it was downhill. 10th-12th grade I had no one to sit with at lunch so I started hiding in the library, bathroom, computer lab, or worst of all sitting alone in the rec room with my head buried in my writing. I'm 30 years old and I still feel sad about all the things I missed out on as a teenager.

College, another waste, is where my SA hit it's peak. I thought college would be a cure all for my social woes. Nope. Just more of the same, bullying (verbal), isolation, missing out etc. Only reason I didn't drop out was because of my pride. I mainly went off to college to prove myself to the people from my teen years.

College was really no different than high school. I just took out an obscene amount of student loans to pay for the pleasure of taking it up the *** again.
GURLWONDER is offline  
post #20 of 41 (permalink) Old 04-28-2008, 02:58 AM
Monster
 
LostinReverie's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: Graveyard
Posts: 6,550

Re: When did SA start for you?


Quote:
Originally Posted by Mc Borg
I'm not so sure it ever did start with me, I can't remember not having SA.

I am the son and the heir of a shyness that is criminally vulgar. I am the son and heir of nothing in particular.

You shut your mouth. How can you say I go about things the wrong way? I am human and I need to be loved, just like everybody else does.
LostinReverie is offline  
Reply

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
The New Start TonyFee Coping With Social Anxiety 1 03-30-2009 12:56 PM
Where do you start? aloss4words Coping With Social Anxiety 3 02-23-2009 10:39 PM
I'll start by saying this.. anxies_girl Introductions and Welcomes 14 12-02-2008 09:52 PM
Don't know were to start zaph Relationships 4 11-15-2008 08:44 PM
It's a start OnyxHeart Society & Culture 0 11-12-2008 03:13 PM

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome