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Whats the First Thing you would say to someone you dont know?


Whats the first thing you would say to someone you dont know at a party or social gathering?

I know its a weird random question but im curious

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Hello. I am running for president.

See you at the polls.

not really. I'd think of a few things to say before/as soon as I got there.

"hi, what are you drinking, and where do I get some?"
"hi. I see you have some food there. any left?" (this comes complete with what could be considered a social gaffe. i could then laugh adorably and say, I did *not* mean that the way it sounded....)

and so on.

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Me: "Hey, how's it going, I'm [name]."
Him/Her: "Hi, I'm [name]."
<handshake>
Me: "So how do you know [person who is throwing the party]?"
<Play the rest by ear.>
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"Who are you? And, why should I care?"

Or, if I decide to be more polite, I'll say, "Hi, I'm _____"
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I'd ask a question about the person.
"What are you drinking?" (a party with a variety of drinks)
"What's your major?" (college)
"So, what brings you here?" (general)
Or if that person is by him/herself, ask the person why he/she is alone.
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Cool story, bro!
 
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I would say

'Sup girl'
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Pleased to meet me.
 
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me: hows it going?
them: good
....awkward silence.
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"Hi" then run
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Hi whats up? Have you ever ridden a 3 legged llama?
but seriously stuff like how do you know so and so?, what do you like to drink?,are you an anthropologist? I like that shirt/jacket,what do you like to watch for tv? stuff like that...
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Well, I would never initiate a conversation with a stranger at a party or social gathering, so what I would say would depend entirely on what's been said to me first. Probably a vague, one-or-two word reply, though. After a few of those, the person would get bored with me and move on to someone else. Then after a few encounters like that, I decide I really don't want to be there, and slip out unnoticed.
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I would say

'Sup girl'
Plus, "When you gonna let me hit that?"
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Best questions that almost always work for me are:

"Who do you know here?" or, if you already know who they know ask how they know them. Also "What do you do?" is fine and expected. People with good social skills ask this.
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I, personally, would start off the conversation with:
". . ."
To with they reply:
"Um, hi. I'm 'Insert generic name here'.
Me:
"Hi..."
Person:
"Excuse me, could you repeat that?"
Me:
"Um, bye."

Then I'd proceed to walk away.
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Probably just ask them if they're having fun. Then it'd be awkward (especially if they weren't, lol).
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Nothing, haha.
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post #18 of 21 (permalink) Old 01-31-2010, 06:32 PM
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I normally don't say anything because I generally don't talk to people I don't know at social gatherings (on the rare occasion I actually attend one...lol). If I do, it normally would just be a "hi" followed by an awkward silence...I'm horrible at small talk.
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post #20 of 21 (permalink) Old 01-31-2010, 07:26 PM
 
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How are you?
You look awfully nice today.
Maybe don't wear a bra next time...
No, I was talking to you.
No, not her. I don't know her name.
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