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What's Unrelatable To You


When people say that their family is everything to them. All I feel towards my family is anxiety, resentment and anger.

When I see older Asian couples hold hands. My folks are not affectionate. I actually feel uncomfortable seeing older Asian couples being affectionate.
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Actually a lot of what I read on here I can't relate to. Like feeling down all the time, hating everyone - all that sort of thing.

Also, not ever having a relationship or friends, not wanting children etc - I can't relate to any of that at all.

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people that just skip through life without a whole bunch of negative emotions. some people went to school, went on to uni, got a career etc all because that's just what happens. if its a challenge - they seem to enjoy a challenge. things that are frustrating - they just brush them off. they don't get beaten down by their emotions. they want to go to a party - they have social capital enough to go to a party. they enjoy going to weddings. family gatherings are something good to them. all this enjoyment, i don't know where it comes from. part of that is having had a reasonably normal family life, i don't know what that would have been like. spending your time planning trips away, etc, rather than just dealing with having negative or flat emotions and no motivation.


stupidity (as defined by me lol) - rejecting obvious, proven facts for unknown psychological(/intellectual disability) reasons (eg trump, various trump supporters, meat eaters, car drivers, ...), or even worse, living as though the facts that you know are true aren't true. i guess they know things but they just push it out of their mind and go on with life just the same. how can you engineer a world where everyone just believes what they believe without appeal to justification, logic, reason? people have done this and i can never understand why you would do it or go along with it knowingly.


many other things i can't think of right now.

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Most 'right wing' psychological preferences like nationalism, favouring social Darwinism, or preference for strict sexual dimorphism and gender roles. It's not how my brain works.

I think there are probably tons of examples but those are a few for now.

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I also find it very hard to relate to people that have had a normal work life or even that can hold down a job. I really would like to be able to do that again. Hopefully this new medication might help.

Edit: also, this I don't like sex thread. I mean really - how is that possible?

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Wanting other people to suffer or die.
Not hating the way you look.
Being bored.

List could obv be way longer.

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People who's childhood traumas cause them to be full of ****. They allow their unresolved issues to impact negatively on others instead of working through them and getting on with life.

I had traumas related to childhood abuse and I still don't see it as an excuse for treating others like trash and a free pass to externalise everything.

I find it strange and unrelatable how others deal with their trauma in general, and overall it has led to me feeling even more isolated amongst other humans. I'm fine with that however as I no longer seek validation externally.

No one will talk to me, they tend to go. Their faces say there's something I should know
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Imagine being uncomfortable that two people are happily in love.
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The idea of being in romantic love with someone. Even though I've read a lot about relationships, the concept remains foreign to me. When I see people express their strong romantic love for a partner, I'm unable to relate. Sounds like it would be a nice thing to experience, at least once.
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Actually a lot of what I read on here I can't relate to. Like feeling down all the time, hating everyone - all that sort of thing.
I don't think those people necessarily really mean they hate everyone (It's a lot easier to say "I hate everyone" in frustration than it is to actually mean it). Pretty sure they probably just always seem to run into the worst people and it's all they know. If that's always your life experience, it's hard to see outside it. Like if you live in a bad neighborhood or you grew up in a small insular community full of rotten people. It's going to give you a very negative opinion of others that's gonna be hard to ever shake.

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Many things. Mostly I just can't relate to the urge to reproduce.

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Many things. Mostly I just can't relate to the urge to reproduce.
That's the big one for me that I just can't relate to at all either. Just does not compute.
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Lots of things tbh
- Having friends and a social life. Like, this guy was complaining to me how he had three friends to see on the weekend and how he didn't have time for all of it. I was like -cant relate-.
- Knowing that animal cruelty exists and being against it, but still being complicit in it.
- Obvious things (racism, homophobia, abusers etc).
- The need to wanting to go out all the time.
- wanting to smoke cigarettes.


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Edit: also, this I don't like sex thread. I mean really - how is that possible?
they could be asexual


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they could be asexual
Yes, I'm sure you're right. I've heard people mention that on here quite a few times but it's not something I know anything much about. And I just can't relate to it, sorry.

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Lots of things tbh
- Having friends and a social life. Like, this guy was complaining to me how he had three friends to see on the weekend and how he didn't have time for all of it. I was like -cant relate-.
- Knowing that animal cruelty exists and being against it, but still being complicit in it.
- Obvious things (racism, homophobia, abusers etc).
- The need to wanting to go out all the time.
- wanting to smoke cigarettes.
Yeah cigarettes is a weird one. I generally can't stand racism, sexism, or transphobia/homophobia. I don't think I could get along with terfs particularly well.
Going out all the time, man, some people must have some pretty deep wallets. I think I would just get exhausted. Besides, I much prefer the idea of inviting someone over to watch TV and play Dark Souls than like partying or going to the bar. I never understood "socializing for socializing's sake". At least with restaurants people go there to try new food. With bars, people go there to drink...? But what's drinking for? It's for socializing. And partying is also for socializing with large quantities of people, the type of social interaction I do worst at.
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Having others they can confide in and talk/vent about their problems, even personal ones.

Feeling desperately lonely due to not being in a relationship.

Doing whatever they are aspired to do without constantly having your hands tied or obstructed at every turn.

Enjoy any good things, even the little and menial ones, as you will never know what impending distresses could descend upon you in a moment.

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