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Bad and it will only get worse for me. I don't think I can ever create a life that I will want to live. There's no chance of even getting the basic things like a girlfriend etc

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Bad and it will only get worse for me. I don't think I can ever create a life that I will want to live. There's no chance of even getting the basic things like a girlfriend etc
Sorry - only just saw this.

You're still very young mate - (and I don't say that trying to be a wanker or patronising or anything.)

We really don't know what will happen to us in life. We don't know how things can change and get better. I know everything feels like **** at the moment but it doesn't have to always be like that. (I know this sounds like crap mate but it's actually been like that in my life too) If I would have acted on how terrible I felt sometimes in life I would have been gone long ago. But things can be great too. Sometimes we need to hold on - and sometimes we need to try and do things a bit differently.
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Not in a good place at all. mental health problems combined with grief. I don't function well at the moment


Not going to BS and say it gets better. I can empathize for the fact that life combined with longtime issues takes its toll. I hear you on it and I’m sorry you have to go through it.
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Right now, my life is "boring". I don't go out on weekends (except for shopping), I don't participate in things, I don't buy things for myself (I'm broke), and I'm what society deems "uncultured".

I don't take interest in what every bloke and his nanny are into. I like venturing on my own, I have my own unique interests, I explore them but I don't care too much about what's "popular".

If I like something, I like something—regardless of its hit-rank or whatever.

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Hopefully you won't get that. Fingers crossed.
Me too. But it'll probably be payback since I'm having a easy breezy pregnancy lol

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Not going to BS and say it gets better. I can empathize for the fact that life combined with longtime issues takes its toll. I hear you on it and I’m sorry you have to go through it.
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I feel like I've been approaching a turning point for quite some time now. I can see it coming but it keeps not happening and I feel like my anxiety and my fears are fueled by that. I am doing my best to make it happen soon but life gets in the way and it's taking me longer than I would have liked to wait. I just hope when this change comes I won't be crushed by it and I will be ready to face all the challenges and think about the greater good I am doing it for.

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I think most people are decent. It's just that the ones who aren't make it seem like the world sucks.

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Bad and it will only get worse for me. I don't think I can ever create a life that I will want to live. There's no chance of even getting the basic things like a girlfriend etc

My life used to be just like yours a little over one year ago! I felt like I had no future, no way out of my situation, no motivation, etc... then everything changed abruptly. "Be the change you want to see in the world" I've always HATED this quote because I was stuck in my own ways, in my stubbornness, partially worsened by my depressed and anxious state that didn't allow me to make the first step towards a change. Now I've discovered that you need a bit of luck, but also a lot of hard emotional work to be in a better place and really make a change in your life. You need to summon up all your strength even though it feels like you've got none and you've got to fight hard for what you want. I believe in you, you can achieve anything you're one of the funniest, nicest guys I've ever met you just need to be smart and make the right moves towards an improvement.

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Life's alright. My main issue is anxiety (not specifically social anxiety, but that too to some degree). I have something else running parallel to anxiety (or is it part of it?) that I don't understand, which manifests in a regular emotional overload, such as crying over a documentary about cornflakes or feeling inappropriate euphoria at odd moments.

The complicating factor is that my work, home and relationship are all entangled together and my partner has (different) mental health issues, so sometimes it's like a having a an important node crash: all the dependent nodes follow and the whole system goes down.

The rest of the time I'm in a pretty good place. I can get by on my pay, I have a home I feel at home in and I enjoy waking up each day. I'm getting better around people, mostly because I'm starting to fear them less and to express myself more. Life's alright, even if sometimes everything dangles on a shoelace.

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Sorry - only just saw this.

You're still very young mate - (and I don't say that trying to be a wanker or patronising or anything.)

We really don't know what will happen to us in life. We don't know how things can change and get better. I know everything feels like **** at the moment but it doesn't have to always be like that. (I know this sounds like crap mate but it's actually been like that in my life too) If I would have acted on how terrible I felt sometimes in life I would have been gone long ago. But things can be great too. Sometimes we need to hold on - and sometimes we need to try and do things a bit differently.
Yeah I just feel like I can't deal with my social anxiety and it's too late to do anything with my life.
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My life used to be just like yours a little over one year ago! I felt like I had no future, no way out of my situation, no motivation, etc... then everything changed abruptly. "Be the change you want to see in the world" I've always HATED this quote because I was stuck in my own ways, in my stubbornness, partially worsened by my depressed and anxious state that didn't allow me to make the first step towards a change. Now I've discovered that you need a bit of luck, but also a lot of hard emotional work to be in a better place and really make a change in your life. You need to summon up all your strength even though it feels like you've got none and you've got to fight hard for what you want. I believe in you, you can achieve anything you're one of the funniest, nicest guys I've ever met you just need to be smart and make the right moves towards an improvement.
Thanks El dawg, you're the best!!!

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Yeah I just feel like I can't deal with my social anxiety and it's too late to do anything with my life.
I used to feel that way, too. And then I found tequila! And I didn't care anymore!

I'm getting snockered tonight.

... Hold on, let me check my calendar. Nope, nothing planned for the rest of the year.
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Yeah I just feel like I can't deal with my social anxiety and it's too late to do anything with my life.
I used to feel that way, too. And then I found tequila! And I didn't care anymore! <a href="http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/images/smilies/lol.gif" border="0" alt="" title="" >:-)</a>

I'm getting snockered tonight. <a href="http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/forum/images/smilies/orangeyes.gif" border="0" alt="" title="" >:-)</a>
Now that sounds like a nice hobby for me to get into! Haha

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My life is going OK at the moment. I'm working part-time, which suits me, although making ends meet is always an issue. But everything feels fairly stable.

For me finding the right medication has been a major help. My anxiety level is low, my mood is generally good and I'm finding it much easier, and more enjoyable, interacting with people.

My SA used to stop me from doing heaps of stuff. Avoidance was my middle name lol
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Yeah I just feel like I can't deal with my social anxiety and it's too late to do anything with my life.

Thanks El dawg, you're the best!!!

No mate you're the best and deserve the best.

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No mate you're the best and deserve the best.
No no YOU deserve the best.

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Abit up and down like a broken down rollarcoaster. Right now, I'm doing okay. I've just started therapy and I'm doing activities that get me out of the house. I'm trying to heal and work on myself.


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Not in a good place at all. mental health problems combined with grief. I don't function well at the moment


The grief never goes away, but learn to manage it better with time. Go through the stages of grieving which takes years sometimes. Everyone is different time wise depending on how close they are to them.

When near the good stages of grieving, reading things they gave you from birthday cards to anything they wrote, or remember them saying. Usually find that helps, as it is like they are talking to you, giving you guidance on what to do next in life.

Even seek out family like you said, who act similar, as it might help guide you. They could have the answer as to what she wanted for you.

It is like in some cultures, you go on a quest to find your life purpose.

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Bad and it will only get worse for me. I don't think I can ever create a life that I will want to live.
What do you want from life mate? What do you like doing?

I can see one thing, photography. Maybe a degree in photography or similar?

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There's no chance of even getting the basic things like a girlfriend etc
Who knows, could be some woman you are taking photo's of is you future gf. Stranger things have happened.
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