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What is the longest you've ever gone without talking to another person?


Since I started working from home in March I can go days on end without actually physically talking to another person or hearing my own voice. I will txt or email or message multiple people in a given day but may go 7-10 days without speaking to another person verbally. And this almost never bothers me, I rarely feel lonely or anything. I'm guessing this is highly unusual even for people on this forum.

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Wow - that's a long time without talking to anyone mate. It sounds like you're a true introvert.

For me it would probably be a few hours maybe? I need to talk to people - it doesn't actually even matter who it is. I'll talk to people in the shops if necessary, it can be anyone. I actually just did it a few hours ago.
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My max has only been about 3 days. After that my parents will phone me, or I'll have to go back to work or whatever.
I don't start feeling lonely at all, but depending on how I'm feeling over that period my brain can sometimes get a bit screwy and make me more worried about when I'll next have to interact with someone.

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Besides family and not counting some short voice recordings, ten years.

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In terms of face to face talking, whenever I was living without housemates, or when housemates were out of town, it was usually a week or even two. In terms of purely even talking on the phone or texting, I often go days (if you don't count the half "heys" to the cashier).

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About 4 months without speaking with anyone in person or on the phone / voice chat -- the holiday-free time between Christmas and my mom's birthday on which I visited family. That was common in my 20s, although occasionally a streak was broken by seeing the apartment manager or having to answer a cashier at a non-self-checkout store.

I didn't enjoy not having any human contact, but it was what it was and felt normal and expected. This year has been a little tougher because I wasn't expecting to go back to near that level of isolation.

But if you include communicating via instant messaging or SMS then I've probably never gone more than a few days without text communication.

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Besides family and not counting some short voice recordings, ten years.
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Probably 2-3 days max. I go grocery shopping a couple of times a week, so speaking to the cashier, at the very least, breaks my "fast."
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I speak all the time but people tend not to hear me, so.. it gets pretty bad the anxiety. I want to say a year or so because I've worked full time for that long and did not talk to any of my co-workers in that duration of time. It must've been freaky but thankfully I got out and am quiet in a noisy place. It's not so much the not talking that bothers me but more of what goes with it.
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Probably no longer than 2 days unless you exclude rote interactions such as grocery shopping. Otherwise, I'd say 2-3 weeks.
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I speak all the time but people tend not to hear me, so.. it gets pretty bad the anxiety. I want to say a year or so because I've worked full time for that long and did not talk to any of my co-workers in that duration of time. It must've been freaky but thankfully I got out and am quiet in a noisy place. It's not so much the not talking that bothers me but more of what goes with it.
Do they not hear you because you have a quiet voice or do they just ignore you? People tend to ignore me lol. Sometimes I will say something and no one responds like as if I never said anything. What kind of setting did you work in where you didn't have to talk to your co-workers? I kind of want to work there haha.

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Probably 1 day maybe, because there's always one of my siblings not to far away, or my mother, even I am otherwise alone.

I often went much longer without speaking to strangers or store people etc cause I sometimes got siblings to pick me up stuff, a few weeks maybe, that's a bad habit though, feeds avoidance.






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I'm not sure now but it would have been when I was living alone. Days at least.

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Do they not hear you because you have a quiet voice or do they just ignore you? People tend to ignore me lol. Sometimes I will say something and no one responds like as if I never said anything. What kind of setting did you work in where you didn't have to talk to your co-workers? I kind of want to work there haha.
Data entry/monkey work. It wasnt the best environment because you did have to ask questions, just that most of them were able to be answered by superiors which I have no problem talking to.. it was just the small chit chat between coworkers that I just couldn't do. And yes, I became more and more quiet to the point of inaudible. There were a lot of people on the team at one point, maybe 20 or more for one team and I just didn't feel comfortable.

You probably earn more from your at home job so I should the envious one, lol. It's not as if they were antisocial however, they just connected over Skype business.
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I don't think I ever went past 2 days without talking to someone (family at least). I have lived on my own for most of the time since adulthood.
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Idk tbh. Most of the time I’m forced to talk to people even when I don’t want to.
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Data entry/monkey work. It wasnt the best environment because you did have to ask questions, just that most of them were able to be answered by superiors which I have no problem talking to.. it was just the small chit chat between coworkers that I just couldn't do. And yes, I became more and more quiet to the point of inaudible. There were a lot of people on the team at one point, maybe 20 or more for one team and I just didn't feel comfortable.

You probably earn more from your at home job so I should the envious one, lol. It's not as if they were antisocial however, they just connected over Skype business.
Yea, the banter with coworkers can be stressful. Because you have to think of something interesting to say, not just regurgitate facts. I'm not really good with the back and forth of a casual conversation. I feel like I always say something boring or stupid or out of context or random just because I can't think of anything relevant.

Well, my job is just WFH for now until the pandemic is over, if it ever ends. I still have to do conference calls which I'm terrible at and hate.

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The longest was about 3 months.
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post #20 of 20 (permalink) Old 12-18-2020, 03:24 PM
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It is hard to say but for family it was about a 2 weeks.

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