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What is it that you are struggling the most with when it comes to having anxiety?


I used to really struggle with talking to people or just being comfortable being me -- thank God I don't have that problem anymore. What do you struggle with?
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You get used to talking to people with enough exposure. The part I really struggle with now is that people really are bad at their core. No matter how much you believe otherwise that's just not the reality of the matter.
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Talking to or near people, but it is slowly getting better. I worry that not being able to talk makes me seem either rude or stupid, and I've noticed that the thought of people thinking those things is even scarier for me than the thought of talking. Another problem I have because of my anxiety is self-doubt.

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Small talk, asking women out on dates, not having a job, not having friends, not enough time outdoors, relying on substances. Pretty much anxiety everywhere, forever.

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I struggle to adapt in bigger unnatural environment. I'm surrounded by a crowd of people that clouds my thoughts and delays my reactions. The order of my environment always change through shifts, as if someone counts down what mood to set for the environment.

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Talking to or near people, but it is slowly getting better. I worry that not being able to talk makes me seem either rude or stupid, and I've noticed that the thought of people thinking those things is even scarier for me than the thought of talking. Another problem I have because of my anxiety is self-doubt.
I have the exact same problem... I could have written this hahaha. Sometimes if someone is being mean to me, I'm like maybe I'm just being too sensitive or overthinking things.
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getting social capital. i can maintain a friend or a gf, just one at a time. hard to find a gf. hard to find a friend. a long time alone. i don't feel good alone, i get tired, stressed easily. phantom family doesn't help.

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Dating. I can ask people on dates, I can talk about being interested, but I can never make the first move physically. I can do the stuff leading up to it, scooting in closer and what not, my emotions can't show though and I think people just get tired of waiting for me
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What do you struggle with? That's a good one.

How the hell does someone sum that up succinctly. Usually I just struggle with existing.
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I wish I was better around groups. I've gotten to the point I'm not really anxious around a lot of other people. I don't think I look awkward, I try to just pull off uninterested and I've gotten good at that. Just can't talk. As soon as attention is on me I forget how and only manage basic responses and short sentences. Doesn't help not having much in common with most people I'm around either. I guess it doesn't matter much anymore since I can avoid most situations like that. Just go to family gatherings and occasional stuff with girlfriend's friends and coworkers.
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I think the thing I struggle with most is my ignorance. Despite the majority of my life being me stuck to a PC, I don't know a lot about the real world. I'm not street smart. I don't get people.

This then leaves me being a very boring person. I don't really have a problem with that. I think silence can and should be appreciated when it can be.

Of course, the problem comes when connecting with others. Communication is necessary here and I'm not the best when it comes to this as I don't know how to handle things.

Again, I don't know about many a things, so when someone brings something up, I either don't know what they're talking about or I do but can't follow along adequately to keep things going.

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Anxiety about the future, money and what i will do for a living.


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One of the major things I struggle with is situations that I cannot control. This is a big reason why I donít drive because while I can control what I do, I canít control others, road conditions, traffic, etc.. I obsess over the weather also (snowing right now) and I canít deal with it.

I am having a difficult time of late dwelling in the past and two poor decisions I made years ago that are a big reason for my near permanent state of worry and anxiety. One of those decisions in particular has been onu mind a ton lately and really making me feel bad thinking about what could have been.

I am also super lonely. No friends..online or offline or at work. Never have. This board and my therapist are really my only outlets to open up. Never dated or been in a relationship either. Hurts so bad but moreso at this time of the year.


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Talking to people face to face. Even my therapist sometimes:/ It's becoming easier though, when I stop trying to smile so much and look away in a ''hmm let me think...'' kind of expression. I find it eases my self consciousness and helps me concentrate on the topic.
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Holding down a job without quitting. Whenever I start somewhere new, everyone shuns me pretty much right away. Then they start making fun of me amongst each other and spreading rumors.

Going somewhere everyday where I'm not liked and not wanted over something I can't control is a really horrible feeling, so I quit and try again. I can't keep up that pattern though, but I don't know what else to do.
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