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What advice would you give yourself 5, 10, 15, 20 years ago?

I think if I could go back and give myself some advice 5 years ago, things might be a lot different from where they are now. So I’m very interested in what advice other people would give their past selves.
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Oh yea, I'd love to be able to go back and just smack myself around at a few key points in time. I'd tell myself to quit being such a ***** and just do it. Sadly, I'll probably be saying the same thing in 5 years.

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enjoy high school and go out and have fun. dont avoid things that make you nervous. im not gonna make the same mistake in college, im enjoying every minute of it

Love me or hate me, I promise it wont make or break me

Im not looking down but I see no one above me

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If I could go back five years I would give myself a hug first because that was a rough time haha. I would tell myself that nobody's life is normal and my experiences will make me a stronger person (And provide for a killer college admissions essay :] ). I would tell myself what SA is, even though I still don't think I would have gotten help for it until I went to college because of my circumstances.

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You got a good attitude man. Im 15 and learned about what I had about a year ago. If I could tell myself anything it would be to just stay persistent in what your trying to do. I get on a good track. And the anxiety starts going away, then I lose my focus and surely enough it comes back with a boom. So, I would say stay focused!
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unfortunately- there is not that much i could change...some things are out of your control.
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Dont give up on sports and dont give up on your friends. always make time for people closest to you

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5 years ago? Pick up a guitar. Say Yes. The library isn't just for geeks. Read more books. Stop worrying about what people think about you. Adapt to changes in lifestyle, especially around the home. Sympathize and talk more with your dad. Keep contact with old friends.
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Stop being so self-righteous. You're not a martyr; you can be selfish.
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Do it you f'n moron!!

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IF i could go back ten years and talk to my 12 year old self, gah, that would be amazing. I would tell myself to do good in school and to actaully try to apply myself at school and not to wait till i am 22 to get my license. And i would tell myself if some girl whos name i will not mention here starts talking to you, just walk away and never look back, you'll be much happier.
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Twenty years ago: Stop drooling!

Fifteen years ago: Wear sunscreen in field trips!

Ten years ago: Seriously, sixth grade is not that important. Calm down.

Five years ago: He doesn't follow through on anything he ever says. Walk away now.

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5 Years ago I would have been 10.

I would have told myself you are beautiful the way you are!
Don't get sucked into all the superficial celebrity standards when it comes to looks, they're all fake! You have an amazing personality never let go of it no matter what. Looks aren't everything! If you base everything around looks you'll turn into a blank canvas personality wise and you'll never be comfortable with your looks all you'll want is MORE MORE MORE & you will never be fully satisfied. So don't let the important things like your personality go.
Bad things will happen, but look at them as a lesson.
Whatever doesn't kill you will only make you stronger, remember that <3
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10 years ago: Please tell someone. They might be able to help, and you'll probably come away relatively unscathed. So what if they know you told on them? They already know you told a teacher when they were bullying someone else, and the teachers helped her. Help yourself, too.
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5-10 years ago:
- talk to a school counsellor
- DO NOT hang around with that ***** anymore, you know who I mean
- dear god, just say something to that girl you really like in your D&T class
- go and hang out at K's place more often, and invite K over to yours
- leave the house more often, and don't go on the internet so much
- play the piano more often, don't worry about the neighbours hearing you make a mistake

I am going to completely work on making myself happy.

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4 years ago (sorry, not 5), I'd have told myself to persevere cause in 4 years time from then, this is what I'll be or better.
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