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Does anyone feel like socializing with others takes too much effort? It literally exhausts me to be social!

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Yes I do. I can actually interact relatively 'normally' socially but I very rarely have the energy. I therefore come across as very rude, I know I do it but I realised a while ago that I am just not interested in small talk.

I spent much of my teens and twenties trying to fit in with the world, when I stopped caring people think of me is when my anxiety levels became much lower.

Just read this back and I sound really grumpy. I'm not actually, lol.

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Yes—and this is why in particular how I know I'm super introverted. From what I understand, introverts get tired from being constantly social.

Whenever I'm at a get-together of some kind, I easily get tired from just idle chatter. It's like I'm constantly on guard.

I think real small groups and 1-to1 scenarios allow me to be a bit less stressed but I don't exactly excel in those situations either for obvious reasons....

The real pickle is that I do feel lonely often—which contradicts everything.

Though I have always made it my practice to be pleasant to everybody, I have not once actually experienced friendship. I have only the most painful recollections of my various acquaintances ..."
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its annoying, i feel obliged to engage in socialising, especially at work. after a few minutes i genuinely feel worn out and want to run away, but can't...

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The real pickle is that I do feel lonely often—which contradicts everything.
Same.
I think it's because we need to find the specific kind of social interaction that works for our type of introversion.
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Yes definitely! I have to be in the right frame of mind to want to socialise. I the kind of person who googles the restaurant menu before I leave, plan what I’m having, assess whether I like the restaurant, find out what others are wearing so I don’t stand out etc.. it’s exhausting. And I know afterwards I won’t be able to sleep because I will be analysing everything I said and did. Sometimes it’s easier to stay at home 🙂
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Im extremely introverted. But I have to socialize a lot for my job. Lets just say Im exhausted by the time I get home. At work I usually use my lunch break to relax and destress. My coworkers use it to chat. So I just end up being the quiet one. Oh well 😕
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I don't feel good about myself, so why on earth would I want to be around other people?

Nobody loves me but my dog, and I think he might be jivin', too.
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Does anyone feel like socializing with others takes too much effort? It literally exhausts me to be social!

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it's not about effort, it's about the type of social anxiety I have that I'm working on currently. irl I should have issues but bc I have strategy and others know my issue pretty much that I can still go on and socialize and be quite comfortable, sometimes totally comfortable other times I can be stressed. Online I don't feel it takes a lot of effort to socialize.
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