"... to see ourselves as others see us ..."
Do you ever watch someone make a fool of themself on a reality show, upsetting others, and frustratedly think, "how can they not realise what they're saying??". It strikes me that I probably do these kind of things all the time, and its what leads to a lot of the problems I have with alienating people.
Something I've had going around in my mind forever is, how do I come across to others? Sometimes I veer from being super-aware of how I'm behaving and tryig to control it, and other times I just don't care. With both situations I can experience negative reactions, though more with the former.
I would love someone to follow me around with a hidden camera so that I can watch it back and see how I come across to people, and maybe learn from my mistakes. I have tried it with a dictaphone (I know about privacy laws - I didn't break any, honest!!) but it doesnt bring out the facial expressions and body language.
Using the dictaphone gave me a more detached view of myself. I did learn that I'm very 'concrete' - I don't tend to flow with a conversation and can kill the moment by rigidly focusing on one topic or trying to 'be right'. Sometimes I sound pretentious or stuck up. I've been trying to correct this, but I know it happens when I'm experiencing SA, like an automatic reaction.
Anyone else tried this? I guess this kind of feedback is the type that people without SA probably get from other people.
The video might make for painful viewing but it may also be very informative. Anyone in Aberdeen, Scotland with a video camera and time on their hands??
On to concentrate on bright things
Stuck around in hopes to help, didnt seem like there was much left I could do anymore ... good luck and comfort to those who are on their own path and hope for those yet to take their first step! Much Love