OK IVE EDITED THIS FOR RACIAL PARITY. PLEASE ACTUALLY READ WHAT I'VE WRITTEN BELOW BEFORE POSTING A "I DONT GET IT - SO JAPANESE PEOPLE ARE COOLER THAN WESTERNERS??" TYPE REPLY. I've just had a haircut and I don't want to pull any more of the remaining strands out as they block up my vacuum cleaner
. Its a metaphor - an image chosen to represent something else entirely, to get the audience to ask questions and think about it more.
Clearly it was the daftest idea I've ever had, but at least we can leave it up here as a warning to anyone else who tries to get stupidly creative...
I like this cartoon. Its a bit small down there, so indulge me - open it and have a look ..
So whats going on? Pretty simple isn't it. The THROUMOT girls look at him, and cos of the way he looks and what he's doing, they reject him. Then he goes to QUAGAR, and because of the way he looks and what he is doing, they think he's AWESOME!
SO - Who is right? The QUAGARN, or the THROUMOT Women? One loves him, one hates him. But, what does it truly say about him as A HUMAN BEING, as opposed to a commodity
(looks, height, money, popularity) as judged by other human beings? Does it mean "if you wanna be happy you've gotta go to Japan" - or can you find some other meaning to it?
They are both comparing him to a manufactured ideal that exists in their own head ... so is he only a valuable human when he's in QUAGAR, but 100% disgusting, valueless human in THROUMOT?
If he is truly a repulsive, unlovable human being, how can it be that other humans would value him? If he concentrated only on what the QUAGARN girls thought of him, and chose to ignore the more fickle, judgemental THROUMOT ones, would he feel happier, or sad? Is he bound by some cosmic law to listen to what the THROUMOTS say? I don't think he is. Are both groups right to judge him on only a very brief time sampling of who he is? The QUAGARN girls are in a way making the same error - the ALL OR NOTHING ERROR. The THROUMOTS see him as 100% bad, the QUAGARS as 100% good. They can't both be right. Reality lies somewhere in the middle .... Can they really be 100% sure they have 'weighed and measured' him in 2 minutes flat?
The fact that one people loves him and one hates him shows that other peoples views are NOT a true measure of who he is. There will be some people he gets on with, some who will be neutral, and some who hate him. The ones he gets on with may be far fewer than the other groups - but if charisma man met and fell in love with a caring QUAGARN girl who he was close to, and whose family loved and accepted him, would that not make him feel fulfilled?
All of us have our THROUMOTS and our QUAGARS - but sometimes we are so focused on the group that dislikes us that we fail to see the ones that can see our positive qualities. Once we find our QUAGARS, then its time to begin the longer process of getting to know them properly - making sure we remember how inaccurate are THROUMOTS are
Getting to know them means letting them know your weaknesses as well as your strnghts. Being vulnerable. Letting them in.
This cartoon reminds me that being afraid other peoples views, based as they are on biases, their own preconceptions and fears, is not useful to us, and that if we can choose not to, we can feel better. Sometimes its REALLY hard not to think this way and its not WRONG to, but if it makes us sad, is there another way we can see it thats more helpful to us?
I don't intend this post to be an absolute ... its a silly little cartoon just to give your thinking a little nudge. You might choose to dismiss it out of hand, or you might choose to play with the ideas
here a little. If it were true though, how might this information be used to make YOU happier?