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The Stress of having no Friends and being Single.


It's been such a long time since I was last on this site. A lot has changed for me personally. However, I am still suffering from SAD, but I am coping pretty well.

I recently went through a terrible breakup. My boyfriend and I were together going on 6 years. He was a total narcissist who used and manipulated me for money. So I left. Once we broke up, I knew it would be difficult to date again. But an old friend came back into my life. Which helped me cope. Later I realized that he was just using me and he was a love bombing narcissist as well.

It seems like when you are a super shy, vulnerable, empath person, people tend to really disregard your feelings for personal gain.

What are ways of making geniune friends/relationships that last? I feel so alone. I'm usually not someone who cries, but I can't seem to hold it together.
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I DON'T LIKE USERS!! Sorry you met such people! There are good people out there. Sorry I don't like the characteristic of a user, I can't not like the 'person'. And they probably weren't brought up well.
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Keep looking, hundreds, millions of people out there.

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Should get along with the right person. Just finding them is the difficult part.
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Welcome back to the site. Always been difficult for me to make friends myself as well. Try to find like minded people. Meetup groups work well for me.
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Welcome back to the site. Always been difficult for me to make friends myself as well. Try to find like minded people. Meetup groups work well for me.
Do you mind if I ask - do you just go to mental health meetups or other ones as well? I often feel like I'd like to try some new meetups but I feel a bit uncomfortable about it tbh.
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Do you mind if I ask - do you just go to mental health meetups or other ones as well? I often feel like I'd like to try some new meetups but I feel a bit uncomfortable about it tbh.
Mostly just regular one not mental health ones but I have been to a few of them as well. I play in flag football league I joined on meetup. Really enjoy it. Good way to meet people and most people are really friendly. Just find a group that has something your interested in and check it out. If it sucks your out nothing just don't go back and try another group
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Mostly just regular one not mental health ones but I have been to a few of them as well. I play in flag football league I joined on meetup. Really enjoy it. Good way to meet people and most people are really friendly. Just find a group that has something your interested in and check it out. If it sucks your out nothing just don't go back and try another group
Thanks, yeah I should try and go to a few new ones too. I used to go to one for anxiety/depression and also another one for people with bipolar or mood disorders. I'd like to just try a few normal ones though.
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I was born with no friends, girlfriend, sex, wife, job, income, and stable living conditions. Because the Multi Agent Quantum AI Computers simulated my time and events before I occurred to this existence. Meaning my words, face, height, hair, skin, teeth, legs, fingers, eyes, facial features, weight, thoughts, language, mind, perception, and awareness never existed in human mentality. The citizens see me alike as a distraction/pest to their consciousness.



Supercomputers design a mentality that is fake to give you a boyfriend. Behind the mind the AI put together from scratch is the attractiveness from its collective experiences of analyzing human unconscious intentions.


Even a professional criminal and a professional terrorist receive friends and a partner. I'm more threatening than a criminal and a terrorist.

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NSA computionally remapping buildings, jobs, relationships, wealth, education, and income using bio intelligence system to manage citizens time & events in their own environment.

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yeah also recommend meetups.

I keep having difficult relationships too. I'm attracted to the wrong people. becoming more aware and less accepting of bad behaviour. but I still cant meet the right person for a relationship yet. have made some friends though.

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I'll let you know when I figure it out.
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It's even funner when you have no family either.
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Making friends is a crapshoot. Its all trial and error even more so when you get older. The only thing you can do is keep trying.

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It seems like when you are a super shy, vulnerable, empath person, people tend to really disregard your feelings for personal gain
This is so true! Sorry that you're having a hard time - hopefully things will look up for you soon!
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It's even funner when you have no family either.
Yes I can imagine, it was my one saving grace when I was younger & going through a really tough time, family having my back, even to this day.






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Same as your situation. I've stopped having a belief in any kind of relationship. I isolated myself but I'm trying to enjoy being alone. It's not easy and rarely have a happy time in the loneliness but that's what I have to get used to it. I'm scare of getting hurt by someone. It takes months to forget.

I'm a guy, been single for a decade, btw.
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It seems like when you are a super shy, vulnerable, empath person, people tend to really disregard your feelings for personal gain
This is so true! Sorry that you're having a hard time - hopefully things will look up for you soon!
Ain't this the truth! It really sucks.
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I have gone thru my entire adult life..Iím nearly 40...with no friends at all and have never dated either. No hope of anything ever changing either as I donít drive and I live in a crappy place with mostly unfriendly people.


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I have gone thru my entire adult life..Iím nearly 40...with no friends at all and have never dated either. No hope of anything ever changing either as I donít drive and I live in a crappy place with mostly unfriendly people.


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