I'm going to have to disagree with your approach in ridding oneself of social anxiety, aladeen; assuming that we're excluding extremely mild cases. As much as you emphasize the subconscious in your original post, I feel you are underestimating just how powerful a role it generally plays in social anxiety, and thus you are, in turn, underestimating how difficult a process it is to alter the subconscious via the conscious mind; greater difficulties necessitate more intense approaches to combat the issues.
This "relaxed awareness" approach was something I almost automatically did from like grade school through my early twenties and it honestly didn't do much, if anything, for me. The reason, I believe, is that much of my social anxiety, as is usually the case, was on the subconscious level. See, the reason that viewing your thoughts through the prism of relaxation won't have an effect in most cases is that this only eliminates the much weaker of the two sources of negativity in your mind, the conscious side of it, but the subconscious will cast these thoughts in a negative light, and will only present your conscious with the final product of a negative thought. The problem I have with your approach is that you're trying to fix the problem too late in the process, allowing the thoughts that your subconscious presents you to come forth, and then trying to alter them once in the conscious mind.
My approach was to, for months, block out the thoughts entirely. My social anxiety was severe, it was intense, and so I had to combat it with equal severity and intensity, and in order to do that I had to compromise some things, make some sacrifices. I deluded myself into thinking that I was normal, that every criticism someone made of me was false, that any suspicion I had of someone thinking poorly of me was, that those possible thoughts others had of me had to to be inaccurate, I did this for a couple of years, and I realized a couple of things. Firstly, despite the fact that I was pounding these delusional thoughts into my head, I still had the ability to step back when I desired and actually view my thoughts properly. And secondly, when I did this, I didn't feel anxiety. In fact, after a while, I didn't even have to "step back" because the process I had worked on was becoming natural now: I could take a criticism someone was making of me, perceive as true, and yet not feel anxiety.
So basically what I've done is separated the anxiety-related and logical aspects of my self-perception. Any time I feel anxiety, I pound into my brain its negation to rid myself of the emotion, while still logically aware of the right answer. Obviously, you ideally wouldn't want to be thinking contradictory things like this, but hey, sacrifices need to be made when fighting such a serious problem. Just "letting go" or "relaxing" doesn't get rid of the problem for me.
my friend . i think you totally misunderstood me . youre talking about combating and fightin our thoughts .that's will only make things worst and worst .and i think you missunderstood what is relaxed awarness /tottal allowing this is not like telling your self "just relaxed" "just leet go " .when youre in public place or under social anxiety attack . so what you' ve been doing is fighting a brain with another brain this will only make things worst
we are here to allow every thing every fearful negative thought that's been stored in our subconscious mind and not givie any attention or focusto them . here an example like youre walking in front of groupe of people
you subconscious mind will automatically show this thought that all those people are looking at you and judging you and youre body automatically release adrenaline fight or flight so what youv been doing here you fight this thought
with things like "relax no one is looking at me" or "they dont care about me " if you do that bom youre screwed .cause you already gave this thought attention and focus and when she get that from it will get bigger and bigger in your subconscious and save it for the next time same/like situation you will experience the same feelings and same thoughts so what is the right way to kill this fear and bring down the neural pathways of this thought that here an example like the previous one . so youre walking in front of group of people and youre subconscious send you this fearfull thoughts of what if they judging me .... you stay consciously relaxed and just allow that they're all looking at you and they're all judging and dont try to combat or try to solve this thought and not give any attention of focus to it just allow it without being panicked or afraid of it . and if you do that youre subconscious will slowly start to understand that those thoughts are not really fearful or threatfull cause youre allowing them and giving them any attention or focus and start to replace the neural pathways of those thoughts from fearful panicked to relaxation and calmness .
you said " See, the reason that viewing your thoughts through the prism of relaxation won't have an effect in most cases is that this only eliminates the much weaker of the two sources of negativity in your mind, the conscious side of it, but the subconscious will cast these thoughts in a negative light, and will only present your conscious with the final product of a negative thought" this is true cuz youre giving this thought focus and attention to get bigger and persists . and youre not allowing this fearfull and negative thought .you will allways see this thought as fearful and scary no matter how relaxed you are.