Social Anxiety Is Almost Gone After Two Months Please Read It
Please read this. It will definitely help you a lot.
First, sorry for my bad english. My name is Aladeen. I'm from Tunisia. I want to share something I've been doing for the past 2 months. It’s worked incredibly well to remove social anxiety.
This is all based on my experience and staying up all night trying to figure out what's wrong with me. Social anxiety is based on thoughts, and when we see thoughts as fearful and scary, that's what causes our body to release adrenaline (fight or flight).
So basically, we are afraid of our thoughts. And our thoughts may not be based on what is actually happening. In the case of thoughts associated with anxiety disorders, our thoughts are usually NOT based on what is actually happening.
Here's some examples of thoughts that cause our social anxiety:
- The thought that someone or some group of people are looking at us.
The thought that people are judging us or talking negatively about us.
The thoughts about our low self-esteem or our perceived limitations.
Thoughts of “WHAT IF (insert worst case scenario) happens?”
The point is, ONLY THOUGHTS AND OUR REACTIONS TO THEM, NOTHING MORE, ARE THE CAUSE OF SOCIAL ANXIETY. Every time these thoughts pop up and we give them attention (when we give them our mental energy), they get bigger and stronger in our mind. We literally feed them by paying attention and reacting to them with fear.
What I've been doing is reprogramming my subconscious mind to see these thoughts as normal and non-threatening by doing something called “relaxed awareness”.
The subconscious mind is where we store everything we learn, feel and think throughout our lives. The mind uses neural pathways to transmit every thought we have, including conscious, unconscious and subconscious thoughts.
Because of our individual life experiences and our reactions to situations we view as fearful, thoughts of social anxiety currently travel on some very strong neural pathways, so it's gonna take time and patience to make them go down other pathways. It’s like slowly changing the course of a powerful river, but it can be done. The main thing is, you’re the only one and the perfect one who CAN do it.
Here's an example of how the subconscious mind works: when I was in middle school i had a friend who stuttered. I hung out with him a lot. He’d stutter in class and every one would make fun of him.
Every time I saw him like that I’d think to myself, “What if stutter like him and everyone makes fun of me?” So i started to develop fear based on, “What if” I stutter?
Every time I saw him stutter this fearful thought get bigger and bigger because I was giving that thought my attention and fuel to get bigger in my mind until the day came and the teacher told me to read an easay and and bom I was standing there stuttering like a retard
Because of the neural pathways created by this increasing attention to a fear (which I myself created), my subconscious mind “created” a pathway which triggered stuttering when I would speak publicly.
Eventually the fear of stuttering led to fear of being judged, which led to avoidance of being around others to avoid judgment, which led to social anxiety and isolation.
Because we humans are social animals (we may not like everyone but we all need at least someone!), my self esteem dropped over time. And then from the previous fears I started to develop new fearful thoughts about how I look and how others might perceive me. “What if others think I'm ugly or I look stupid and those thoughts get bigger and bigger in my subconscious mind?”
“What if the thoughts then multiply into other fearful thoughts like:
- What if people judge me, talk bad about me, think I walk weird, act weird, look ugly, etc, etc, etc…”?
Everyone with social anxiety disorder has had these thoughts. Human minds are different because they’ve had different experiences, but they all ACT in the same basic way with respect to how they think. All bicycles may look different but they’re all driven in the same basic way.
Let's get to how to bring these thoughts down so your subconscious mind doesn’t see them as fearful or threatening anymore.
I’ve been doing something called RELAXED AWARENESS or TOTAL ALLOWING and this is how it works:
Humans have 3 states of mind:
1.) CONSCIOUS MIND: this mind is connected to our five senses, seeing, smelling, hearing, etc,…. the conscious mind records things and processes information with the superconscious mind. The information is then sent to the subconscious mind and the subconscious mind accepts it without questioning.
2.) SUPERCONSCIOUS MIND: this is the mind that gives you new ideas and processes information neutrally, as an “observer of everything”. It sees things in their true nature, as they really are. This mind is not connected to feelings, emotions, etc., and this is the real you.
3.) SUBCONSCIOUS MIND: This is where we store everything from feelings to learning to language. Everything is stored here and this mind has no logic. It just accepts what it’s given without question. In this mind all neural pathways of your thoughts are stored and remembered.
If you experience some fearful situation the subconscious mind will store it. The next time you’re in a similar situation the subconscious mind makes feel the same way you felt last time (because it uses the same neural pathways as before).
Basically, we know that all the situations that cause social anxiety are not, in truth, fearful and threatening. They are very normal situations.
In these situations, the superconscious mind sees the truth but our subconscious mind already has very strong neural pathways of panic and fear about those “What if” thoughts of social anxiety. The superconscious mind is based in reality; the “what if” thoughts are based in fear.
Here's another example of how the subconscious mind’s neural pathways work. What are the neural pathways associated with being at home? They are safety, relaxation, having fun, being at ease. You keep fueling and giving attention to those neural pathways every time you get home you feel secure. So at home, your feelings of security and ease are being fed.
Here’s an example of neural pathways of fearful thoughts related to social anxiety, for example if you’ve had a bad experience in the past while going to the beach.
In the past, the thoughts at the beach have been, “What if people judge me, think i'm ugly, act weird, etc, etc.…” You give these thoughts fuel and attention and they naturally get bigger.
So the next time you go to the beach you experience the same feelings and thoughts that you felt last time and your mind reacts to those feelings by releasing adrenaline (fight or flight). Your subconscious mind fights, but in truth there’s nothing to fight.
What we need to do is change those fearful neural pathways related to social anxiety through RELAXED AWARENESS or TOTAL ALLOWING. This method uses both the conscious mind and super superconscious minds to reprogram the subconscious mind every time you experience fear-producing thought. You stay consciously relaxed instead of reacting/panicking to it and you allow your brain to make free movements and be neutral. This will lead to the creation of neural pathways that lead to feelings of security and ease even in situations that now produce fear.
*This is what RELAXED AWARENESS or TOTAL ALLOWING is: our mind has the capacity to be “aware”, purely aware, through attention, concentration or focus. The mind has a “narrow awareness”, that’s why it’s called “focus” or concentration.
The mind can only be aware of one thing at time – for example, if you are aware of your “sight” your “hearing” becomes passive, if you are aware of your hearing your sight is on passive,
if you are aware of your thoughts your sight and hearing are on passive, etc. The mind can only focus, or be aware, of one thing at a time.
When those thoughts of social anxiety arise, if we give them attention or focus or try to solve those thoughts thats mean we're fueling them and they will get bigger in our subconscious mind.
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