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Seem to have found a common feature of all people with SA


Just searching the website for keywords such as "laughed at" "stared" and one that surprised me was "people always say I look sad" made me wonder that most of us have all experienced at least one of these things in the past... I'm trying to think why? Is there something people with SA have that makes them laughable, or naturally miserable? What is this thing about us that people detest? I've seen plenty of attractive people on here who still suffer from these instances, so I wonder what is it? What don't people like about us?

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I think it is the other way around. You first experience on of those things and that gives you SA / depression. Then you just act awkward and those things could be related to your SA, but not at first, at first those things cause SA / depression as I said.

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I think it is the other way around. You first experience on of those things and that gives you SA / depression. Then you just act awkward and those things could be related to your SA, but not at first, at first those things cause SA / depression as I said.
That's kind of sad, if you think of it. It's like we've become this because that even before we had it we weren't considered "normal" by the world
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I think everyone experiences those things at some point but those with SA are more susceptible to it, they'll remember it longer and be upset by it more.
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I've never understood anxiety with most people here, not in a bad way I just don't actually understand what they're afraid of. My fear defiantly comes from fear of rejection or being mocked...
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That's kind of sad, if you think of it. It's like we've become this because that even before we had it we weren't considered "normal" by the world

It is sad. But is the way it is.

I think this pretty much sums the process ...

laughs/stare/something-atyou --> Get SA --> Start-acting-awkward
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lll_______________________________________________ l

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I think a lot of people misinterpret other people's actions, this is a symptom of SA. Someone near you laughs and you assume it's about you, when in reality it probably isn't.

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Just searching the website for keywords such as "laughed at" "stared" and one that surprised me was "people always say I look sad" made me wonder that most of us have all experienced at least one of these things in the past... I'm trying to think why? Is there something people with SA have that makes them laughable, or naturally miserable? What is this thing about us that people detest? I've seen plenty of attractive people on here who still suffer from these instances, so I wonder what is it? What don't people like about us?

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I can't speak for all people here. I don't think people necessarily detest us. Sure, some will - can't please everyone. I think some of us have a negative self image and negative self talk, and this makes us perceive that others find us defective. I've seen plenty of "normal" looking people here too. There is a lot of negative thinking and cognitive distortions. That's my opinion about some of us.
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