Safety in numbers? - Social Anxiety Forum
 
Thread Tools
post #1 of 7 (permalink) Old 08-17-2008, 09:19 PM Thread Starter
SAS Member
 
lilly's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: australia
Gender: Female
Age: 60
Posts: 1,533

Safety in numbers?


I've been thinking a lot lately about how groups of people - eg. people from the same family go visiting together - if I thought about them individually I couldn't imagine any of them visiting separately.
Has this ever occurred to anyone? I've noticed a lot of people who don't have social anxiety actually hide behind the others when they visit.
I feel that people in general might not like socialising they just go along to get their name ticked off the list.
lilly is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #2 of 7 (permalink) Old 08-17-2008, 11:18 PM
SAS Member
 
Lachlan's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: flying without wings
Gender: Male
Posts: 1,664

Re: Safety in numbers?


yeah, I could believe that

'A 'Leadership' elected by popular vote is not a leadership but the rule of the average, the mediocre.
Real leaders are pioneers. They go ahead, in front, on the basis of understanding and inner convictions, even if they have to go alone.'
Lachlan is offline  
post #3 of 7 (permalink) Old 08-17-2008, 11:45 PM
SAS Member
 
shyvr6's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2008
Gender: Male
Age: 41
Posts: 31,307
My Mood: Bitchy

Re: Safety in numbers?


It's the same concept if you're in a group. You don't have to be the center of attention, so you can let others speak and go mostly unnoticed.
shyvr6 is offline  
 
post #4 of 7 (permalink) Old 08-18-2008, 12:12 AM
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Posts: 97

Re: Safety in numbers?


I saw a dinosaur documentary last night and scientists had previously falsely assumed that the T-Rex was a lone hunter whereas newer evidence shows he hunted and lived in packs.

One of the experts said that if you have a chance to take out an opponent you do - even if he is one of your own (e.g. bears and lions fight each other so they don't have to share the same resources with one another) - but that you also find yourself more vulnerable if you are alone than if you are in a group.

So the distrust you feel towards strangers is millions of years old and you even distrust the people around you instintictively and evaluate their strength all the time to judge if they pose a threat to you or not.

So yes, people sometimes may not especially like it in a group such as a family but they realize its safer to stick to one.
landersen is offline  
post #5 of 7 (permalink) Old 08-18-2008, 12:37 AM
SAS Member
 
smalltowngirl's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2006
Gender: Female
Posts: 1,130

Re: Safety in numbers?


A lot of social people are afraid to do things alone. It seems sort of strange, but I guess it makes sense. I knew one girl, years ago, who wouldn't go into public restrooms alone. She had to have at least one friend go with her. She was a very social person, and she refused to go anywhere by herself even if it was something as simple as leaving the table to use the toilet. My guess is she felt insecure without her companions.
smalltowngirl is offline  
post #6 of 7 (permalink) Old 08-18-2008, 01:05 AM
SAS Member
 
Join Date: May 2008
Location: B.C. Canada
Gender: Male
Age: 32
Posts: 303

Re: Safety in numbers?


I can understand it when it comes to family get to to gathers, a lot of people see them as more of an obligation than anything else. In a group you can just sort of make small talk and only speak up when you have something to say. When it's 1 on 1 there's more pressure on you to make conversation. At least this is why I avoid being caught in 1 on 1 situations.
StrangeSpirit is offline  
post #7 of 7 (permalink) Old 08-18-2008, 04:44 PM Thread Starter
SAS Member
 
lilly's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: australia
Gender: Female
Age: 60
Posts: 1,533

Re: Safety in numbers?


It seemed to me a new way of thinking about things - like maybe a little pressure could be lifted off if it was possible to attach to a group - family being the easiest because you're kind of captive audience of each other. People don't tend to single you out of a group so much unless they know you want to be "drawn out".
lilly is offline  
Reply

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Safety in a box Cardiology Frustration 1 03-17-2010 03:51 AM
The Ultimate Safety Blanket jacksondoug3 General Discussion 10 03-05-2010 01:26 PM
Safety Behaviours Questions Stargirl09 Frustration 0 01-27-2010 02:36 PM
Safety Behaviors whatev133 Coping With Social Anxiety 17 07-08-2009 05:54 PM
safety clown says.... zelig Member Photo Albums 14 04-06-2006 07:30 PM

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome