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How do you deal with rude people. And what is the meanest thing you've ever been told?
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I get away from them ASAP and try not to dwell on whatever they said. My SA issues are such that I am pretty much incapable of saying anything whenever I'm around them so my best option is usually to exit.

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Some mega douche guy was super mean to me driving next to me on a very narrow road. He wasn't really yelling but he was loud with an attitude saying something like I have plenty of room to get the **** out of his way and stuff like that. That shook me up.
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Sorry to hear.

That is road rage for you.

Most probably would pull over, let them pass (if there is enough room and no ditches on each side).

Not worth the trouble of confronting them. Some can be very violent when in that mood.

What you should notice if encounter enough of these types of people, is they are scared of others on the road and their actions. It comes out as rage. Like a kid throwing a tantrum to get their way.
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People in real life are pretty rude. I don't remember the meanest thing someone said to me, a lot of the time rudeness is passive aggressive like being cold or talking behind my back. I try to remember that opinions are just things in people's heads. If someone is rude I try to carry on as normal and not let them into my life as best as possible.

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People are always rude to me since I was a kid, and their behavior interfered with allowing me to graduate school and from having income. I never had income before or received a stable interaction from people.

My aunt told me during Fall 2014, that I will be 30 years old and no job or female would want me for being too old.

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I try to ignore them as much as I can...

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I get away from them ASAP and try not to dwell on whatever they said. My SA issues are such that I am pretty much incapable of saying anything whenever I'm around them so my best option is usually to exit.
My social anxiety also doesn't allow me to say anything. I mostly want to cry.
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It's generally not a good idea to confront them if you're a loner without good social skills, because then they will turn all their buddies against you and make it all look like your fault which, isn't hard for them to do if they're cocky and confident and you're weird and quiet.
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I think it depends on how offended I am by the rudeness. Sometimes I can let things slide but I have called people out on their behaviour (in a firm non emotional way) and nothing bad has happened to me.

The meanest thing that someone has told me was actually by my dad who said ‘you’re mental no one will ever want you’. I must have been about 14. I’m not affected by it anymore and my relationship with my dad is better these days.
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People are always rude to me since I was a kid, and their behavior interfered with allowing me to graduate school and from having income. I never had income before or received a stable interaction from people.

My aunt told me during Fall 2014, that I will be 30 years old and no job or female would want me for being too old.
Uhg. Its always family isn't it. I don't remember the meanest thing but I'm working on being more vocal.

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My social anxiety also doesn't allow me to say anything. I mostly want to cry.
Same. it's horrible when anxiety is just wrecking your body and mind and it just leaves you so vulnerable.

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My social anxiety also doesn't allow me to say anything. I mostly want to cry.
Same. it's horrible when anxiety is just wrecking your body and mind and it just leaves you so vulnerable.

Yeah it really sucks
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Uhg. Its always family isn't it. I don't remember the meanest thing but I'm working on being more vocal.

From my aunt logic, the program knew that I had a strong interest in wanting a job and a girlfriend since age 11, so the program needed to convince an indirect message to isolate my previous first thoughts of putting in for jobs and the way I think of getting in a relationship, in order to hold back my current thoughts about how my aunt spoke of an upcoming time and a event she never witness from me.

A job can hire a 30 year old, but since the program knew that I never had a job in real life, the intention was to make me detect my aunt logic as true to myself in the situation that I'm in.

Man can still receive female relationship at age 30, and age 30 isn't too old for marrying or having kids.


When the program saw that I was able to find the solution to the correct logic, it tries another convincing logic to isolate me to lose my intention for the time. Even my own mother tries to use a special programmable logic to provoke my inner thoughts, then when I found a solution to her logic, she would say that I'm trying to make myself feel good.

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I was working as a front desk worker at a busy doctors office and a man asked my coworker if I was stupid after I was getting confused about his question. I started shaking and my whole body felt like it was in pain and shortly after he left I started sobbing. Then my boss told me to take some time in the bathroom. I was heave crying in the bathroom for awhile and tried to come out again, but was still teary, so my boss let me go home for the day. I went home and heave cried on and off for two or three days. It was a scarring thing and I don’t know why I reacted like that.
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this has always been something that really bothers me, people starting problems through deliberate rudeness. I am getting better dealing with this lately. say for instance walking through the city someone does something really rude I try to shrug it off. they will do the same thing to pretty much everyone else and momentarily piss them off too. so it's nothing personal. maybe thinking about it that way will help you.

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Im having the same issue here, i need your help, the problem is i can't tell if someone is joking or being serious
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I am the rude one. ignoring people often.

friend can be rude/disgusting. I avoid and tell her off.

random people semi rude to me - ignoring me, not meeting obligations or my expectations - I'll just never talk to them and ignore them as best as I can.

if they give me **** I've got a decent patronising look and a lot of sarcasm at hand. unless it feels too personal, in which case I'll avoid and ill be crying inside lol.

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Stay calm just stayyyy calmmm don't let ur emotions take control
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I get away from them ASAP and try not to dwell on whatever they said. My SA issues are such that I am pretty much incapable of saying anything whenever I'm around them so my best option is usually to exit.
"Getting away from the ASAP"

Good idea, so do I.


"Try not to dwell on whatever they said"

Oh boy, often that is really tough for me. Seriously, really difficult.
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